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#DFH #54

Dear future husband, 

You better love me right.

Love,

Your future wife 

Girl power, Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #50

Dear Future husband 

I’m not superficial but I am sentimental. 

The engagement

When you propose , I imagine that it would be romantic, the whole “get down on one knee” type of vibe. I want you to have gone to my folk to ask them for my hand in marriage. Then plan something romantic #theoldschoolway.  I don’t need an engagement party actually.

The wedding 

I don’t want a lavish wedding but I would want one none the less, just a small one with those closest to us. Us dressed up. Intimate venue, decorated and lovely food. 

I really don’t need a honey moon to be quite frank. 

I want our union to bring people together. To be blessed. So no alcohol. People must be in their right senses celebrating with us.

I want our union to bring happiness and love and joy to all those that will share the special day with us. I want to get dressed up and wear my madora and have my mendhi on, with a pair of kicks not because it’s a must but because I can and because I would want that. 

I want my make- up to be subtle but beautiful, creating a perfect balance between natural and glam.

I want to give my mum the opportunity and experience of giving the “mother of the bride” speech and to fix whatever’s wrong with my dress, madora or face. 

I want that day to give my father the reassurance that I’m marrying somebody who would take care of as he would, should need be.

I want to give my friends the opportunity of running around trying to get eish done to plan our small intimate wedding and want to beable to look into our guests eyes and see that “twinkle”. 

I want to share my joy, our joy and I would want to share it with those close to us.

Dear future husband, I want to beable to look at my inlaws and see a sense of pride on their faces. I want to beable to reassure them on the day, that I will look of their son as they would. Give them the opportunity to say their say and blessings over us and to give us hilarious speeches of some of your “growing-up” memories.

I want to us to pray , there and then. You. Me. and our guests.

I want happiness. I want alil chaos, I want unity, love and peace. I want our marriage to be sealed by Allah. 

I want you. I want all of this and I want them.

A heartfelt desire,

Your ordinary future wife (:❤️

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #40

Dear future husband 

Your beauty or worth will never be determined by your physical appearances. So don’t get to thinking that good looks is what I’m after. 

Your beauty and your worth will  rather be based on the small things that you will do every day; how we communicate, your kind gestures , interaction with my fam, how you treat my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews. It will be based on how you react when I’m moody or in my feelings, how well you gel in with my vision and goals and the community work I’m involved in. That kind of thing. It will be based on your priorities, your relationship with Allah, your ability to provide for me and our family. And I don’t mean big houses and flashy cars, no! 

Many say my standards are too high, but I think not. In order for me to be where I want to be, I need a partner that has the same vision as I. I need a man, a man who will head up my home and who won’t necessarily be required to take over all of my responsibilities but one who has the capabilities of doing all I do, as I do, when I do and better than I do. I’m not settling.

If you can respect the above and make the effort as I, you will be beautiful and worthy in my eyes. If not, you really wouldn’t be worth my time and effort. Yes! I’ve learnt to be selective. 

Just a heads up from,

Your Future wife 

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The big 5 : Afrah edition


It’s 2:13 am and I’m having difficulty sleeping. Extremely tough week; my sister and the kids relocating to 🇨🇳 and the bf going back to his hometown tomorrow. 

I’m wide awake allowing myself to go through the motions I suppose but today is a very special day. My Afrah turns 5 and it’s the first birthday in a long time that I’m not spending with her.

She is the most colourful 5 year old around. She is fearless and free-spirited and literally can make one laugh at the very things she says and does.


So it’s her birthday today, but islamically, the new day begins after our fourth prayer. My parents would always buy us and them cake the night before and we would do the whole sing and blow out candles thing. And so they did.

Earlier this evening, my sister calls me and tells me how this little princess told everybody at the hotel that it’s her birthday and went and gave every person who wished her ( fellow guests, security guards and the lady at reception) a piece of her birthday 🎂. I am so proud. 


My wish for you baby girl is that you never lose this. Don’t ever lose your kindness and sharing nature. Don’t let any body dull the unique sparkle you have. May your move to China enhance your character and not change it. May the almighty bless you with good health, make the transition easier and help you through every difficulty. We live in a cruel world, where people use people and love things. Where your efforts go unnoticed and where you almost suffer for doing the right thing. My advice to you will always be to do the right thing anyway. Always remember it is between you and God.

May Allah shower his bountiful blessings upon you my sweetheart.  Inshallah aameen ( by the Will of Allah) I love and miss you dearly and best you know I will be calling you and singing for you tomorrow.

Happy 5th birthday my Affymooh ❤

Love, life & everything's else in between

#DFH #35

Dear future husband,

I have future aspirations. 

I’ve started writing a book, I want to study , I have projects and companies that I have dreams of starting and opening. I want you to be apart of this. 

Now I don’t expect our interests to be the same  but I do expect us to be actively involved in each other’s interests. It’s all about compromise and support.

I would want to offer my support , my encouragement , ideas or even my time for something that is dear to you and would so appreciate it if you would do the same for me.

Having somebody push you when you need to be pushed towards your dream is something many can only hope for. Especially with life’s knocks and unexpected turns. 

I don’t want to just hope for this. I want this and I need this.

A request, 

From your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #32

Dear future husband,

We need to save, save to travel, save to buy things for our home. Save to spoil our parents and kids and those close to us. Save to study further or landscape our back yard even.

You will soon know that I love decorating things. I love unusual things and doing things that aren’t average. Because I’m far from average (kidding). But I do love buying stuff and DIYing. 

 Can we save? But not to not spend. Our savings must have purpose. We must make goals and things we want to experience and then work together to help each other achieve those things. We must enjoying spending our savings so that it can all be worth while.

Can we do a bucket list; one for me and one for you. Then we save up to do one from my list and then yours and so forth…

It will be new for me but I know that doing anything with you will be far greater than any anxiety I may have. I know that I will beable to trust you and hope that this will be equally fulfilling for you as it will be for me.

A thought, from your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #31

Dear future husband, 

Thank you in advance for all the things you’re gonna do for me, for the happiness, the love and the support.

Thank you in advance for you being willing to share my dreams and turning them into a reality. 

Thank you in advance for the amazing husband you’re going to be and for bringing out the best in me; thank you in advance for the beautiful kids we’re gonna have and for every mild stone that we’re going to achieve together; our home, cars, traveling or even us praying together still when eish goes south.

I cannot wait to express my gratitude for being treated like a Queen. 

Love,

Your future wife