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Ladies only: My journey with abnormal uterine bleeding

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged here. Being in a very confusing and overwhelming state and my health taking a knock, I honestly haven’t had much gumption for anything besides sleep.

Many of you who know me, know that for the past two years, I’ve been battling abnormal uterine bleeding. This post is me documenting my journey with this in hope to offer support to others who are battling the same thing and to get support, tips and tricks from others as well. So here it goes.

My journey!

In 2018, I was admitted twice, by two different gynae’s for abnormal uterine bleeding and discharged without an actual diagnosis. I was treated for the bleeding and it was stopped, all scans and tests came back normal and I was told stress and a bad diet can lead to hormonal imbalances, which is the secondary cause of most cases of uterine bleeding. I instructed to lose some weight and all will be fine and was put on the pill (Marvelon) for a few months and was told all should be sorted. I will admit, my weight has been up and down and I haven’t spent much time focusing on losing weight. It might be an excuse but might I add, the previous Gynae didn’t pin it down to weight loss because he said he’d treated and delivered babies for patients heavier than me.

For a couple of months after that I was fine. Period was regular and hey, the cloud over my head was disappearing…but not for long. Soon after, 1 period lead from one week, to one month to three. The bleeding would then suddenly stop. Then I’d go months without bleeding or getting a period and then the cycle would start all over again.

This has been going on for about two years. I know there are many women who can relate. It’s amazing when you reach out and only then do you hear and come to know of so many women going through this. It isn’t easy to deal with this. Physically, mentally and psychologically. It is draining. We will keep that post ( the emotional roller coaster for another post).

To date I’ve been bleeding heavily for months. About a month ago I visited my GP who gave me medication to stop the bleeding and started me on the pill again (Marvelon). For the first week, the bleeding had stopped, goodness was I relieved but then Aunty Susie and her cousins had withdrawal symptoms and just needed to visit again. Yeap, the bleeding started again, even whilst being on the pill. Just this time is was coupled with the most severe cramps I have ever experienced. If I could compare it, it would def fit the description of a contraction. The heaviness of the pelvic area, the wave of excruciating pain and a sharper pain over the left ovary and my lower back region. This got me really worried.

With all things COVID and the financial burdens it has added on many of our shoulders, seeing a gynae was going to to harden the blow. Nothing less than R1000 for a consult plus whatever meds they were going to prescribe, which I was certain would include something to stop the bleeding, very expensive pills, and another batch of contraceptives, iron supplements and who knows what else.

I decided to research homeopathy instead. Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of feeding my body something synthetic to do what it is naturally supposed to do. So I was never a fan of any form of contraceptive. I’ve always gravitated to all things natural, from oil mixtures for my hair, to making home treatments for my face, the flu, green juices etc. I figured I have nothing to lose by just trying a more natural approach since the more conventional medicine routine didn’t help much.

I googled and found Dr Farzana Hansa based in Musgrave Durban and decided to visit. I was so impressed by her, she just had a wonderful aura and energy. I felt so calm around her. She was really concerned by how long I’d been bleeding for and made a concerted effort to create a time line for me, from family history of illnesses, to my illnesses, to physical concerns from head to toe, to emotional and mental check ins. As a side note I have been under an immense amount of stress from both my work and personal life. To the point where I find it difficult to just cope and manage. I feel so overwhelmed and to still be battling health issues…it becomes much even for strong people like myself. I had divulged all of this to her, including the loss of Mikail, the step admissions I mentioned earlier and all of my chronic illness etc. she even asked for medication intake frequently.

She started me on a regime to try to balance out the hormones and to manage the anxiety and stress. She prescribed 30 drops Ashwaghanda and Rhodliola drops with 30 drops of chasteberry drops in a 1/4 glass of water morning and evening. 5 drops of vitamin D drops every morning under the tongue and my very first homeopathic treatment called calc carb, to help with and manage the stress and moods and that’s 5 drops under the tongue every evening. All this with a probiotic, omega 3 and iron supplement.

My natural medicine regimen

She made me feel hopeful again as she said that there are lots of natural remedies to try but started off with this to see if it works. I am day 4 into the regime and have a check in with her next Friday. Let’s cross fingers and hope the bleeding calms. I have noticed a better quality of my sleep from day 2 but to date, the bleeding is still very heavy. The cramps however, are not as frequent and not as intense. For the four bottles of treatment ( Ashwagandha, Chasteberry, Vit D and the Calc Carb, I already had the other stuff, so she suggested to finish that off) with the consult, my bill was R1 045.00. Compared to what I would’ve paid had I visited a gynae. I was chuffed.

This is where I am at on my journey. I had an idea to try and document each milestone or encounter and really hope this may some how offer support to anyone else going through this. I know how lonely it gets going through this. Just know you are not alone and any other woman reading this, if you know if someone battling this, please make a concerted effort to check in with her every now and then, send anything like a positive message or upbeat song, to uplift a mood. Most often than not, just those small things helps us get through the day on some of our worst days.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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#QOTD #45

When women support each other, incredible things happen 

~ unknown 

Right? I don’t even need to dissect this any further but I’ll enhance on it. 

You don’t need to stand and address an arena filled with women to encourage, inspire or support each other . You don’t have wait until you’re an Oprah or mother Theresa of a nation to start valuing and encouraging women to be the best they can be or to “lead” women away from the superficial crap we consume ourselves with.

A few girlfriends and I planned a mini road trip and one night slumber not far from home. People honestly thought that we were in some foreign place because of all of the amazing pics we posted, but those were just BTWs.

The place we visited
Brekkie @ vovo telo

The significance of the trip was to break away from reality and just to recoop. The trip was planned to act  as a reset button. Time to stop. Reflect and then start again.

Sentimental tokens from each other that we left with

Not everybody knew each other however, all were friends of mine. I suggested  these ladies because I know all of them personally and I know the journeys we’ve all travelled and the destinations we all hoping to reach. So with Des’s idea for the road trip and us all confirming, it was a recipe for success!

The weekend was beyond refreshing and went off smoothly, we all focused on the most important things; being our selves and sharing perspectives to enhance each other’s thought processes, sharing each other’s joys and then becoming more sensitive to the battles that us women face. We chilled, laughed, expressed, ate, cooked, embraced and loved! Oh and posed 😜

Because food is life
Girls just wanna have fun ♥️
 

I will be the first to say that I left that weekend away with loads of gratitude, a wider perspective, beautiful memories, fun photos and sisters for life…yes, we’re already planning our next one.
The most beautiful thing for me is that we’re all so similar yet so different. We don’t all belong to the same religion, don’t all have kids, husbands or boyfriends but we had such an amazing time.

Our Sunday in pics, the boys even popped in!

That’s all you need to encourage and support your fellow women; spend quality time with them for the sake of bettering yourself and them and then the rest automatically falls into place. We had no time for gossip, judgment, shade throwing, scandling , fighting or any cattish behavior.

‘Coz what’s a slumber without novelty bedroom slippers

So! Write your fellow women a note, dedicate a status or throw in a motivating hashtag to a pic. Go for a picnic, take a drive , catch a movie or even stay home and cook and for or bake. Pout. Anything! But start.

Imagine a world where our women are dedicated to building each other up as opposed to tearing each other down. It seems beautiful, amazing, strong and all things nice to me.

❤️ and 🌈🔥 from just an ordinary girl

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#DFH #50

Dear Future husband 

I’m not superficial but I am sentimental. 

The engagement

When you propose , I imagine that it would be romantic, the whole “get down on one knee” type of vibe. I want you to have gone to my folk to ask them for my hand in marriage. Then plan something romantic #theoldschoolway.  I don’t need an engagement party actually.

The wedding 

I don’t want a lavish wedding but I would want one none the less, just a small one with those closest to us. Us dressed up. Intimate venue, decorated and lovely food. 

I really don’t need a honey moon to be quite frank. 

I want our union to bring people together. To be blessed. So no alcohol. People must be in their right senses celebrating with us.

I want our union to bring happiness and love and joy to all those that will share the special day with us. I want to get dressed up and wear my madora and have my mendhi on, with a pair of kicks not because it’s a must but because I can and because I would want that. 

I want my make- up to be subtle but beautiful, creating a perfect balance between natural and glam.

I want to give my mum the opportunity and experience of giving the “mother of the bride” speech and to fix whatever’s wrong with my dress, madora or face. 

I want that day to give my father the reassurance that I’m marrying somebody who would take care of as he would, should need be.

I want to give my friends the opportunity of running around trying to get eish done to plan our small intimate wedding and want to beable to look into our guests eyes and see that “twinkle”. 

I want to share my joy, our joy and I would want to share it with those close to us.

Dear future husband, I want to beable to look at my inlaws and see a sense of pride on their faces. I want to beable to reassure them on the day, that I will look of their son as they would. Give them the opportunity to say their say and blessings over us and to give us hilarious speeches of some of your “growing-up” memories.

I want to us to pray , there and then. You. Me. and our guests.

I want happiness. I want alil chaos, I want unity, love and peace. I want our marriage to be sealed by Allah. 

I want you. I want all of this and I want them.

A heartfelt desire,

Your ordinary future wife (:❤️

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Thank you 

It’s that time of the year again where I show gratitude to everybody who wished me and Mik well. 

It was a first for me this year, not taking leave for Boy’s birthday. And even I underestimated the support I would receive.

My dearest famo and friends. Thank you all for the beautiful messages of well wishes for my boy and strength for me. The profile picture updates. The constant check-ins. With friends and family like you guys , no burden is too heavy. Shukr to Allah! 

My work fam, the beautiful card and bag of goodies brought on the tears even more. I appreciate you guys so much. You guys made my day at work all the more bearable. I only hope that I am given the opportunity to be there for all of you like you have for me.

My family; mother, sister, cousins. I appreciate the wishes from China. My mum never misses singing for her grandson even if she’s on the other side of the world. My sister for the kind wishes and cousins for thinking of me. 

Stephz, you were there for me the actual day I lost Mik , you made sure you tracked my number down and called me. Years later, and I still get messages from you on Miks birthday, thank you my friend. I love you tons.

Lamz, you called first thing in the morning and had his pic up. You and layla and the kids really made it special. Appreciate you in so many ways.

My ex in laws, I appreciate the messages sent. Thank you (: 

My trishy, thank you for coming home and cooking me supper and just existing with me. I appreciated that so much! You really are a special kind my friend. 

Here are some of the wishes sent :

My beautiful card made by my team ❤

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A note of gratitude 

For those of you who know me, you would know that loyalty means everything to me. I am yet again shown by the almighty what amazing friends and family I have.

None of my friends or family expect public recognition for the things they do, but I’m gonna  publicly show my gratitude towards them anyway. 

This post is dedicated to four of the very few special people in my life who went out of their way to make my weekend special and to make sure that I don’t spend it alone now that my folk are overseas. 


Lucille. You literally left your house, went to hire movies and got to me just after 10. You brought chocolate, jelly babies and 5 of the most amazing romcoms. You know that I am PMSing and that it’s the weekend before miks birthday and you knew, without me saying, that a girls day in, in pjs , and movies would be just the thing I needed to keep my mind occupied. Who would have ever thought my best friend’s wife would have turned out to be one of the closest people me in my circle. I am grateful for your time because I believe that giving somebody your time, is giving them a part of your life you never getting back. Thank you my Lucy lu. Love you loads Lucinda 

Mummy, you called me this morning and even though I weren’t crying at the time, you just sensed something was wrong. Know what the amazing part was? I didn’t even need to tell you what was wrong, you just knew. You spoke words of strength and courage into me and reminded me that I am strong and confirmed that I will be okay. I always say that I admire your strength and wish I could be half the woman you are one day. Shukran for always being in my corner even when I’m not deserving of it. I appreciate you and I love you. 


Lamia! You too know how emotional the days leading to Miks birthday is for me and each year you are always here Supporting me. You accompanied me to see Mbali today and encouraged and interacted with her the way I would because you could see my heart was there but I was just too exhausted from all the crying. You drove us around, bought us lunch and cake and junk for our boy’s birthday. You listened, you teared up and you went out of your way to make sure I am ok. If that wasn’t enough , you lit candles and got us; me and the kids to sing for Mik, knowing that it’s something my mother does and she’s not here to do it. My friend, I am enternally grateful for everything you did, have done and will do. Who would have ever thought that  my ex husband’s cousin would be one of the realist closest people on my team.

Lastly, My Paddy waddy. I found a friend in you almost two years ago and even now that we’re in a relationship, that friendship seems to be growing daily. You woke up from your sleep to listen to me cry. You didn’t moan or shoosh me And you didn’t just listen, you reassured me, comforted me and calmed me. You elevated me and reminded me that it is okay to feel the way I feel and made an effort to show me that you are here. You made me know that Miks birthday would be a thing that we, as a couple will embrace. I can never express how much that means to me. You are always there for me when it actually matters and I am so happy to call you mine. I appreciate every single gesture of yours. Who would have ever thought that working on a reality show concept would gain me one of the most loyal, honest friends I know and would have turned into an amazing love story. I know it’s still early days but I appreciate you. Thank you baby! 

I always say that if I am ever ungrateful or start questioning God, that there’d be something seriously wrong with me. The friends and family in my circle is a constant reminder of Gods blessing bestowed upon my life. Shukr Allah for your infinite love.

I may not always show my gratitude and I know I tend to be over bearing at times. But what you guys did for me this weekend really meant the world to me.

Love you all and loads of gratitude may the almighty keep me around so that one day I may return the favor .

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #43

Dear future husband,

I’m always emotional around this time of year. Miks birthday being just 4days before mine. I hardly ever get excited for it.

13 March .

I hope you understand that this doesn’t mean I’m still stuck in my passed. But this is my son, whom I carried. My first born and so he will always have a place in my heart. 

I will appreciate your support because that very child has turned me into the women I am today. 

I don’t know if this is wishful thinking , but I’m going to put it out there anyway.I would totally love you taking me to his grave; making this a “thing” we regularly do. To clean it and pray for him. To save towards placing his tomb stone ( I can do it on my own) but having your support would be great. 

Anyways, just thought I’d let you know. If I’m not myself around this time of year when we’re together. Atleast you know why now 🙂

With love,

Your future wife 

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#DFH #38

Dear future husband,

I’m so curious to know whether you would read my blog or book/s. And whether you would actually give me your honest opinion.

I often wonder if you would be proud of it, and promote /share posts or or reviews that are published from time to time. 

I wonder if you would eagerly await my next post or book and question me on what it’s going to be about.

Hmmmm. 🤔 

I certainly hope you would but I guess we will have to wait and see.

Hope Monday was kind to you.

Love,

Your future wife 

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#DFH #35

Dear future husband,

I have future aspirations. 

I’ve started writing a book, I want to study , I have projects and companies that I have dreams of starting and opening. I want you to be apart of this. 

Now I don’t expect our interests to be the same  but I do expect us to be actively involved in each other’s interests. It’s all about compromise and support.

I would want to offer my support , my encouragement , ideas or even my time for something that is dear to you and would so appreciate it if you would do the same for me.

Having somebody push you when you need to be pushed towards your dream is something many can only hope for. Especially with life’s knocks and unexpected turns. 

I don’t want to just hope for this. I want this and I need this.

A request, 

From your future wife 

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#DFH #29

Dear future husband,

I’ve had help becoming the women that I am today. The people in my circle played a huge and fundamental role in my healing process and also just in terms of me working towards being better than I was yesterday.

Would you support me when I want to or rather need to return the favour to them? Will you celebrate them with me and appreciate the value that they’ve added, are adding and will probably add to my existence in the future? 

This is so huge for me because loyalty is a big thing for me and everyone who is in my circle now, has been here for years. 

Besides, they’re experts when it comes to me, they’ve been exposed to my moods , my flaws and my good days; who better to learn from 😊
I really would appreciate it if you are able and willing to do this with me.

Wishing you a Godly, wonderful , positive- filled vibed week. 

Loving you already,

Your future wife