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#QOTD #39

A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way

~ unknown 

Whilst there’s many dads who are non existent, today we celebrate the fathers who are present in their kids lives, the ones that go far and beyond to do and be better. 

Today I celebrate my father who is my guiding light. I started writing this post late lastnight, my dad wasn’t home yet, neither was he out with his friends. He was busy worshiping our creator at the mosque…at that time! I knew that I needed to finish this post as a small token of honour and appreciation. 

Braemar Amos, my dad

You see my father is the best, I know it may seem biased because all girls are generally for their dads and all think that their fathers are the best, rightfully so. 

But here’s why I say mine is. My father is the perfect example of what a Muslim should be; flaw-filled but always striving to do and be better in terms of character. 

As old as I am, he still is my provider, my protector, my counselor, my confidant, my therapist, my guide, my example, my teacher. He still is my favourite soccer player, my movie date partner and sometimes my frenemy.

He is so bold yet so humble, my dad does tons of community work in our area. He makes time to visit and look after the elders in our community and also has such a playful yet impactful relationship with the youth. He makes me strive to do to more for others… what better example could I possibly need? 

He literally makes lives easier, during the week he will clean and do our washing, he will go out of his way to ensure that he’s family is always #1, that we’re comfortable and happy even if it may tire him. 

He is so fit 🙈at 53 he still plays soccer every Saturday and trains during the week ( this is one thing I could not follow suite with hahahah) 

2016 soccer ⚽️ presentation
Dad at a ⚽️ presentation
Dad at a ⚽️ tournament
 

My fathers dedication to his faith is one of the most admirable things about him, he ensures he answers the call to prayer 5times a day, at his age, he is still learning to read Arabic and still attends madressa to learn more. God is really the greatest! 

He is the perfect grand dad to my nieces , takes time to do the little things that make their little hearts happy, be it tickles, movies, outings etc.

Dad with his grand babies

He tries his best To honour my mother and that is such a beautiful thing to witness! Because she is a queen and he knows that. Witnessing him love and respect and honour her is a perfect example to us as his daughters because we know what not to settle for.

My 👑 and 👸

He is just an all round amazing dad and if he knew I published this, it would probably upset him because he’s that humble in all he does. I always get told after taking a picture of him “don’t put that on FACEBUCK” 🤣Yeap technology and him aren’t friends! #bless


So Daddy, words will never be able to thank you enough for the role you play in my life. Always there to push me when I’m struggling and there to catch me when I’m about to fall. 

You are a Muslim personified, you teach me that it’s ok not to be perfect but that I should always persevere to be better in character for the sake of my creator and nobody else. 

You teach me that I should want for my brother and neighbors all that I want for myself. You teach me that helping others is an obligation and not just a thing to do. You teach me to have courage and stand for what’s right even when it may not be fruitful and you teach me to be kind.

May the almighty bless you with a long , happy and healthy life so that you can continue doing the amazing work that you so wonderfully do, may he make it so that one day I could be nearly as impactful as you are inshallah ( by the will and permission of Allah). May all your hearts desires be fulfilled because I know they’re all pure. May Allah always be your guide and may he always help you with every difficulty you face. Aaameen 

Happy daddy’s day to all the amazing dads out there! We need you. 

Love, light and appreciation from just an ordinary girl 

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Are we really cursed? 

Exactly a year since I posted Coloureds: a cursed nation

Has anything changed since? Is this year that passed testimony to the fact that we are one of the overlooked nations!

Yeah hey, I pretty much still feel like we are but as I said then, I still try to push forward and focus on the positives. I still have my conversations with God because he is the most merciful and the most compassionate. 

If you haven’t read last years piece, take a read on the link quoted above and let me know your thoughts 

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I’m not a terrorist but you might be one. 


So I was recently browsing through facebook and I came accross a beautiful post on the Manchester United fan page. It basically was wishing all their Muslim supporters a Ramadan mubarak. 

I thought it was such a beautiful thing for them to do especially in this time that their city is facing … that was until I read the comments. 

It was absolutely appalling at the extent of hate some people have for my faith, Islam. And please don’t ask me ” can you blame them” coz here’s my response to that. 

I am Muslim, it does not mean that I am a terrorist or that I condone terrorist acts. Sheesh! When did we ever depend on media to think for us? Yet these days, media says jump and we’re all screaming “how high”

Logic people… The Muslim population makes for almost 25% of the worlds population. Get that? A QUATER of earths population… one in every four people if we had to narrow it down.

If we all really were terrorists, I’m sure the world population would seize to exist by now because if we killed 3 or four others with us then boom. Population is gone. Kapoot….

…last time I checked, the world was very much a place filled with the human kind and moreso over populated in some places.
When you hear these horrid stories about kids going missing , being raped and gruesomely murdered ( You know the ones we come across daily when listening to the news or browsing social media, the ones we been going in frenzys for on social media, the gruesome murders in Capetown, PE, JHB and KZN), yes, those ones. Majority of the perpetrators of these horrid acts, belong to religions other than Islam.

Does this then make it Ok for us to call out christians , hindu’s and other faiths and refer to them as terrorists? Because I can assure you kidnapping , raping and murdering are all acts of terrorism.
Ofcause not right? Because only Muslims are terrorists…yes?Or, the logical thinkers would agree that we can’t do that because we cannot judge or blame a religion for the doings of one man. 

Here’s my 2c piece: Wake up and stop being sheep.

If you really want to judge, I will encourage you to learn about the faith and then challenge the facts. In fact, Anything that you want to pass judgement on, you should ALWAYS learn the facts first. Mainstream media wants you to believe what they want you to believe. 

As a 20 something year old Muslim female in South Africa, it is appalling to see how grown adults are so easily influenced. The so many freedoms that we have available, narrow down very quickly thanks to society and their double standards. It’s sad to say,  but we don’t have societies looking to build us ( the teens and young adults) up, if anything , if you don’t look like them, act like them, or follow their religion… you’re pretty much doomed. They will strive to break you. 


Sad times indeed but I still choose to mainly focus on the positives of our current situation. 

Whilst majority of the people are just messed up, I firmly believe that there are tons of good people out there. It is those very people that give me hope. And I will be the first to say that they don’t all come from my faith. I know some amazing Christian, Hindus, Tamils and even Jews. All of a kind nature, looking to help with no condition.
So yes, I am Muslim and no,  I’m no terrorist. You may just as well be a terrorists if you terrorise followers of  the Islamic faith based on acts that individuals play out… so whilst you pointing a finger, know there’s four pointing back at ya. 


Feelings, very indepth feelings of just an ordinary Muslim girl

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Our coloured boy makes history 

A few weeks ago I posted up some of my feelings around being coloured and how we are so marginalized for everything in this country, you can click Here to read the post if you haven’t read it  as yet.

Wayde Van Niekerk, the 24 year old Coloured from Cape Town, broke the Olympic world record for the 2016 men’s 400m race, finishing off in a striking 43.03 seconds.


I don’t personally know Wayde but this achievement brought so much of joy to my heart, my family, my community and my entire race. I’ve witnessed coloureds all over the country update their profile pictures and status updates, singing praises and making memes. I have witnessed hope and positivity; things I haven’t seen in us for a very long time. 

Congratulations Wayde! You have evoked confidence and hope in your people. 

What was alarming though was that coloureds are being gunned down on social media with a whole lot of hate speech and with comments like “race done matter, he’s South African” or ” why are yourl so excited now that a coloured has won” and more.

Well this is what I have to say all of you people… 

You can’t tell us in a country where we have to constantly tick a race box whenever we apply for anything that race don’t matter! 

I, personally celebrate victory irrespective of race, I celebrated Luvo’s achievement but I will not lie and say that Waydes achievement didn’t feel like it was closer to home for me because it did feel closer to home.

To see a young coloured boy make it and not just make it but break world records brings hope to me. A coloured  role model for our kids who only see drugs, gangs and violence. 

It is inspirational for my people and every other race but so much more for my people because we are often handed a raw deal and even with that he has risen above it and has gone beyond… So I can’t understand what the problem is! 

When we voiced up against the minister of sport not giving Wayde an official welcome home after winning a gold medal in Beijing last year, don’t know what I’m talking about? Click Here to read more… There was no hype created, most people didn’t even know who he was or what he had just achieved but we as coloureds in other parts of the country were sharing  and making posts go viral… demanding answers and demanding that he gets the publicity he deserved. 


Where was the rest of the country? What happened to “he’s South African” then? Why weren’t the rest of the country interested in him then or the minister of Sports giving him his official welcome home? Why didn’t media houses think it was something huge to cover well I will leave that for you to ponder over.

So yes, we all would love to live in a country where race doesn’t matter but until processes and legislation changes…unfortunately race will always matter.

We are grateful that the nation is celebrating this victory because Wayde deserves that and so much more but please leave our people to enjoy this as much as we deserve too. 

It really isn’t a crime to show your love and support without insulting a Bushie you know! 

And well that’s all I have to say and once again , congratulations to Wayde and the South African Olympic Team. 


Posted by just an ordinary Coloured girl. 

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My vote is not yours. 

This post is not meant to ruffle any feathers or offend anybody. I know it might but frankly I don’t care…

I’ve been seeing alot of hate speech and judgement’s being passed  on social media as the country is preparing for local government elections scheduled to take place on 3 August 2016.

I figured I’ll just add my 2cent’s piece coz im just in awe of some of the updates I’ve read.

So, I’ve noticed a lot of  people calling out others because of the CHOICE they are making regarding who THEY are planning to vote for.

Mainly, ANC folk are quick to judge and call out people who openly say that they are voting for the DA or EFF or whoever. 

Apparently, most of the ANC supporters will never vote for the DA because they are “white” ( this is what I often hear people say)  and well EFF is just…. EFF!

It really is quite ironic because us people of colour are mostly and mainly always quick to pull the race card ( from personal experience) but we are still chained down and enslaved by our racist mindsets.

Dude! Like firstly,  you can’t go around insulting people because of a choice they want to make! Guide them, help them and try to healthly change their minds if voting for another party is that detrimental. 

If you cant do that and stick to judging, speaking-down upon and insulting other’s then maybe you should go to church,the temple or mosque and ask God to forgive you for being so judgemental.

Secondly, can you blame anybody for really being gat vol  of the ANC????

I mean open your eyes and look around! What have they done in terms of service delivery in the last 20 something years?  Or even more so and more importantly, to teach and impart knowledge and good ethics to our youth? We are moving backward as a nation.

My family and I would always vote ANC up until recently. Nobody can take away the fact that they have played us all a major roll in the Apartheid Era and for that I am eternally grateful but ultimately God decides all. 

One of Nelson Mandela’s quotes really resonated with me and that’s why I decided that I will not vote ANC any more. I have loads of family and friends who still do and I respect their choice even though I may not agree with it.

I sit back and look at these folk who want to judge and I just think to myself “who gives them the right!” I get so angry because it’s that very quality and state of mind that is causing us as a nation to fail. 

We are quick to judge and run our mouths but won’t do anything constructive to support our sentiments. 

Well here’s my sentiment…

You want to vote for ANC? By all means go for it. Personally, I won’t be  voting for neither them nor the DA but I’m not exactly going to insult those close to me or around me because of their choice. #StayInYourOwnLane #UseYourVoteHowYouWantTo#IgnoranceIsBliss#Don’tJudge #Don’t hate#MindYourOwn#EachToHisOwn

Life is such that we will never always agree on everything and God teaches us that we should respect each other irrespective of our beliefs. Bullying and insulting people in general is just a no-no and more so when you are doing the above because you simply do not agree with their voting choice.

Posted by: just an ordinary girl.

Share your thoughts.  Is there a reason why people do the above ? 

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June 16th: what does it mean to you?

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Having celebrated Youth day yesterday and being back at work today encouraged my thoughts on Youth day and how I feel it should be celebrated.

This year serves as the 40th year since the Soweto Uprising. Thousands of youth marched and protested against the Bantu education Act, where government proposed that all learning material in school be taught in Afrikaans.

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#Protesters #1976# GooglePic

The famous Hector Petersen was one of the many that had died whilst protesting and standing up for what they believed in.They used their anger and resentment to fuel change for the better, for all of us.

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Hector Petersen killed during the protest

Should this day be used to relive the pain and anger? No!

Should this day be used fight against and resent innocent white folk? No!

Should this day be used to curse against the Afrikaans language? No!

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This day and the many others to come should inspire youth to stand up for what they believe in. It should fuel the dreams we have and turn them into reality. The characteristics of courage and unity should be remembered and lived vicariously through each and every one of us.

Youth day has lost its essence…you either get folk who deem it as “just another free day” or those who use it to fester ill feelings against other races. I would love to see Youth day programmes implemented to uplift and motivate our youth of different races, ages, religions and genders.

I would love to see youth of our generation leave a legacy like the youth of 1976 did. Where are our Hector Peterson’s, Mandela’s, Mother Theresa’s of our time?

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The saying I personally live by

If you have any thoughts or witnessed programmes that were hosted to inspire the youth yesterday, please comment and tell us about it. Lets spread the positivity.

Posted from just an ordinary girl.