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Break the mediocre cycle. Let 2018 be your year!



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2018! Hello you beautiful thing. It is well underway and has already showed most of us, what it has in store.

First post of of the year!!! Before we continue, let me take this opportunity to wish everybody who comes across this post, a prosperous and happy New Year! 2000 and greateen ( as called on social media) is the year to prepare for BIG things. It’s the year to work hard and push boundaries. It is the year to visit those goals and places we’ve allowed ourselves to think are too big for us to achieve, and its time to achieve them. Can I get an aameen! #LOL

So a couple of weeks ago I drafted a blog post regarding self-development and what an important role self-reflection plays in the development of one’s self.

I researched, compiled and summarized some of the pointers that appealed to me and today, the post was shared at work. To be honest? I even forgot I submitted it to be published but it was just what I needed to read and after such brilliant feedback from colleague’s who have read it,  I felt obliged to share it here. And so here it goes:

“I need to lose weight”, “I need to start studying”, “I need to get promotedI need to be more spiritual”… doesn’t this sound like many of us around New Years?

We are always so hyped up when we’re setting our New Year resolutions and then stuff happens in the year and before we know it, its New Year’s all over again. #bummer

An integral part of self-development is being able to reflect on the goals we’ve once set and then to look at the choices and actions taken to achieve those goals.

Self-reflection assists us in identifying and resolving inner conflict and “road-blocks” that may be preventing us from achieving our goals.
Sounds over-whelming right? I know. But it really is only to better ourselves and to push our boundaries, so that we can be the best version of ourselves, always.

It is important that we identify inner conflicts or road-blocks that prevent us from reaching our goals, so that we can work on finding solutions to move passed them. Examples of inner-conflicts or road-blocks could be a fear, past experiences, your mind-set or even the company you keep.

Below are 5 simple steps that can help you identify your inner conflicts and find solutions to overcome them.

1. De-clutter your space

Think of a dirty mirror, you will barely be able to see any reflections when looking at it, similarly, if your mind and surroundings are cluttered, you will not be able to effectively self-reflect. Simple actions like switching off the TV, leaving your cell phone aside and having a clear mind will assist with de-cluttering your space, thus , enabling you to self-reflect.

2. Ask the right questions

Be honest with yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions you’re really thinking. Stray away from asking “Why” questions as it will allow you to make excuses. Instead, ask “How can I…” questions, these are focused at being pro-active and solution-driven. Examples of appropriate questions to ask are: “ How can I make time to exercise” as opposed to “Why am I not exercising” and “How can I get promoted” as opposed to “Why am I not promoted yet”.
3. Be 100% truthful when answering your questions

Be as truthful and literal as you can. Do not let the opinions or beliefs of others, conflict your opinions or your beliefs or allow you to make excuses for why it can’t be done or why you haven’t done it yet. Example: If studying is a goal you’ve wanted to achieve, don’t let the opinions of others about the application process, put you off from applying. Similarly, if weight loss is a goal of yours, don’t be okay with “take-out once a week won’t hurt right?” It’s all about being truthful and being disciplined.
4. Attain clarity – Analyze the answers to your personal questions and come to a solution

Write down the answers to your questions and when you get the “aha, this is it” moment, make a note of it. This will be the constant reminder and goal that you will set. Example: Question: “How can I be more active, ” Answer: “ wake up 30 minutes earlier every day and do Zumba”. Your answer will be your solution.
5. Commit

Once you and self has come to a solution or plan of action to reach your goals, commit to it. This really is the only way of achieving them. There’s no luck when it comes to success. It is all hard work and determination. As the self-motivation guru, Robin Sharma would say: “change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end”.
In the wise words of Dr Paul T P Wong: “Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself.

So come on, go on that intimate date with self. Out with mediocre and settling

It’s time to be legendary. It starts with you.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl. ♥♥♥

Love, life & everything's else in between, motivation and inspiration

You are enough 

If you can relate to, or have been where “we” need to get. Scroll down and share your thoughts. We always love hearing from you. Fella’s we’d love to hear your views on this as well.

This morning I had one of THEE most refreshing and motivating conversations with a friend of the family which I refer to as Aunty Ghai. 

Basically she told me that the husband I marry next ( there was only one before this lol) will be the luckiest man to walk this earth and that I will make a superb wife by the almighty’s permission. 

For someone who is learning to love themselves, this was so refreshing and also daunting because generally us folk can’t accept compliments or rather we don’t know how to.

2016 has been the year of lessons for me and one of the most important lessons I am learning is that “I am enough” and that God made no mistakes when he made me. I am also learning to accept that in order to love anybody else, I need to love myself and in order to love myself, I need to love God. 

Here’s why: 

When you love God, you understand that you were created for a Devine purpose, you understand that you are tested individually because God has lessons he needs to teach YOU. You start working on yourself to meet his expectation and in doing so, you put yourself first when need be and learn to love yourself when you see just how much God loves you.

When you really feel like you’re worth it and that you are loved, you will automatically want those around you to feel the exact the same.

Isn’t it weird how us extroverts are actually softies in reality? I can mix with many and be centre of attention very easily, yet with all that I have been through, I am actually very soft, at heart. 

I wouldn’t say me being “out there” is a front BUT it does make me feel in control as in people will only know what I am willing put out there for them to know. That is why when any potential relationships come along, I tend to become different and paranoia takes over me because now folk be getting too close. 😂

In my journey of self reconstruction, I’ve learnt that when I start accepting me for me and stop being insecure about things, like my weight, people will automatically treat me in the same regard and with that level of respect. And then when anybody gets too close, it wouldn’t be as bad because I know I am worthy and that I am enough. 

This is where I need to get. And I am working towards it. Currently reading a beautiful book about self affirmations and I will definitely do a review once I’m done. It has helped ALOT.

Remember:  that you are worthy and you are enough! 

Have you been where I am now? Do you share or can relate to the things I’m trying to do now? Leave a comment below and let us help each other be bigger and better than we’ve ever been.

Fellas you’re welcome to join in on the convo

Post by just an ordinary girl.