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2018! Hello you beautiful thing. It is well underway and has already showed most of us, what it has in store.
First post of of the year!!! Before we continue, let me take this opportunity to wish everybody who comes across this post, a prosperous and happy New Year! 2000 and greateen ( as called on social media) is the year to prepare for BIG things. It’s the year to work hard and push boundaries. It is the year to visit those goals and places we’ve allowed ourselves to think are too big for us to achieve, and its time to achieve them. Can I get an aameen! #LOL
So a couple of weeks ago I drafted a blog post regarding self-development and what an important role self-reflection plays in the development of one’s self.
I researched, compiled and summarized some of the pointers that appealed to me and today, the post was shared at work. To be honest? I even forgot I submitted it to be published but it was just what I needed to read and after such brilliant feedback from colleague’s who have read it, I felt obliged to share it here. And so here it goes:
“I need to lose weight”, “I need to start studying”, “I need to get promoted “I need to be more spiritual”… doesn’t this sound like many of us around New Years?
We are always so hyped up when we’re setting our New Year resolutions and then stuff happens in the year and before we know it, its New Year’s all over again. #bummer
An integral part of self-development is being able to reflect on the goals we’ve once set and then to look at the choices and actions taken to achieve those goals.
Self-reflection assists us in identifying and resolving inner conflict and “road-blocks” that may be preventing us from achieving our goals.
Sounds over-whelming right? I know. But it really is only to better ourselves and to push our boundaries, so that we can be the best version of ourselves, always.
It is important that we identify inner conflicts or road-blocks that prevent us from reaching our goals, so that we can work on finding solutions to move passed them. Examples of inner-conflicts or road-blocks could be a fear, past experiences, your mind-set or even the company you keep.
Below are 5 simple steps that can help you identify your inner conflicts and find solutions to overcome them.
1. De-clutter your space
Think of a dirty mirror, you will barely be able to see any reflections when looking at it, similarly, if your mind and surroundings are cluttered, you will not be able to effectively self-reflect. Simple actions like switching off the TV, leaving your cell phone aside and having a clear mind will assist with de-cluttering your space, thus , enabling you to self-reflect.
2. Ask the right questions
Be honest with yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions you’re really thinking. Stray away from asking “Why” questions as it will allow you to make excuses. Instead, ask “How can I…” questions, these are focused at being pro-active and solution-driven. Examples of appropriate questions to ask are: “ How can I make time to exercise” as opposed to “Why am I not exercising” and “How can I get promoted” as opposed to “Why am I not promoted yet”.
3. Be 100% truthful when answering your questions
Be as truthful and literal as you can. Do not let the opinions or beliefs of others, conflict your opinions or your beliefs or allow you to make excuses for why it can’t be done or why you haven’t done it yet. Example: If studying is a goal you’ve wanted to achieve, don’t let the opinions of others about the application process, put you off from applying. Similarly, if weight loss is a goal of yours, don’t be okay with “take-out once a week won’t hurt right?” It’s all about being truthful and being disciplined.
4. Attain clarity – Analyze the answers to your personal questions and come to a solution
Write down the answers to your questions and when you get the “aha, this is it” moment, make a note of it. This will be the constant reminder and goal that you will set. Example: Question: “How can I be more active, ” Answer: “ wake up 30 minutes earlier every day and do Zumba”. Your answer will be your solution.
Once you and self has come to a solution or plan of action to reach your goals, commit to it. This really is the only way of achieving them. There’s no luck when it comes to success. It is all hard work and determination. As the self-motivation guru, Robin Sharma would say: “change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end”.
In the wise words of Dr Paul T P Wong: “Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself.”
So come on, go on that intimate date with self. Out with mediocre and settling
It’s time to be legendary. It starts with you.
Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl. ♥♥♥