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#QOTD #32


I’ve recently taken a step to start studying again, if anything, the process of registering was enough to put me off however, it was one of my goals for this year and I really didn’t want 2017 to be yet another year that I didn’t meet my resolutions.

I studied back in 2011 and did 2 years of Journalism and Media studies. With everything that happened with Mika’il , I didn’t end up completing my diploma and when I went back, the rolling-over period ended. So I couldn’t finish my last year. 

Never the less, as you grow older, you realize just how important studying is, just how important that piece of paper from a tertiary organization is. You learn how important it is to stay afloat of current affairs.

I came across this quote and felt obliged to share it. 

Seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave 

~ Prophet Muhamed ( may peace and blessings be upon him) 

This is a message that doesn’t speak to just a religion, but to the whole of mankind. Being as knowledgeable as he (peace be upon him) was, he couldn’t have stressed the importance of education and knowledge more. 

When you learn something new, you automatically feel empowered. You feel a sense of purpose. It enables you to share that new wisdom with those around you and then them with theirs. I can relate to this because recently I’ve started some entry-level blogging courses, nothing fancy! I promise you,  I feel more empowered to share my work now than ever before and that’s because I’ve learnt some fundamentals of doing so and my understanding of the concepts and portal is that much vaster. I even learnt what a widget is 😃something I never knew and understood before. 

When you learn or acquire knowledge, Your perspective changes because you understand and are exposed to more. It really is a win win!

So I say: Let’s make an effort to acquire more knowledge always.

Whether it’s general knowledge, current affairs, new words, learning a new language or about a new religion. Or whether it’s you studying further. 

Knowledge is power and you can never have too much of it.

A– always | S – seek | K– knowledge 


(: let’s get asking! 

Love and light always. From just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #31

There is one element of  any relationship, that’s importance is often overlooked: That element being Communication.

Many of us don’t see the importance or relevance of communication; stating our intention, saying what we feel, checking in with a loved one or giving a heads up to our significant other when we can’t make that normal routine dinner, chat, movie etc.

A little bit of communication goes such a long way. 

Today’s quote is based on this concept:

Tony Gaskin beautifully said:

Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Don’t suffocate your relationship by not communicating.

See how important it is? 

To those of you who really feel like: 

“if I don’t call or Text or make time to see you, I have a very good reason and I expect you to understand.”

Here’s what I have to say to you:

We, are not. mind readers!

Don’t have such great expectations because I can guarantee that half of the time you’re going to be disappointed.

I am a very literal person, I don’t like to assume and so sometimes those around me get bugged because I will ask THE most literal of questions just to ensure that I have all the facts before I comment or say what or how I feel. I learnt to be this way because in my previous relationships, communication was blatantly overlooked. It was selective and conditional. It was for this reason that through my self reflection journey,  I made a promise to myself that any relationship that may come after, be it a friendship, courtship or marriage, communication will not be conditional or inconsistent and that I will ensure that I hold up to my end. All in the name of growing and learning from past mistakes.

I see all kinds relationships fail daily because of a lack of communication. Because one feels “oh why bother” 

Dearest one, never have that attitude! If you’re in a any relationship you have a right to be heard, for your feelings to be respected, and for your views to be considered. If you don’t, I can almost guarantee you will fester feelings of resentment and negativity. But who would you possibly blame for that? If you are not telling somebody how you feel about certain things, how are they going to know it makes you feel a certain way? 

What I’ve learnt though, is the ones who feel “why bother” often say that because they don’t want to be wrong or to take accountability for their part. Yes, I said it. I’ve witnessed it. It becomes too much for them to bare that there are things they can improve on and they almost feel like they have so much going on, how are they supposed to fix this as well. Often they’re going through other things in their lives and it all becomes too much.

All I can say is that it is a beautiful thing when you overcome an issue through communicating. It’s so fulfilling.

I think it is the peak of respect for a relationship and a person when you two have a safe space created with each other, by each other and for each other where you can state your inner most feelings towards certain things and work towards it. 

Is it always easy? Hell no! Nothing that’s ever good for you comes easy. If anything, it’s easier to just say “forget about it” well let me just say, I’m not about that forgetting life. It’s damn hard work. You sometimes end up sounding like a scratched record, and feel like you’re fighting a losing battle but trust me, with the good intention of your relationship, it will soon pay off. Especially if both persons are that much dedicated to making that friendship, relationship, marriage or family tie last. 

Communication is a fundamental building block in the foundation of any relationship. Do not take its essence for granted. 

May we all strive to communicate better ❤️

Some insight, from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #29

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Mother Teresa once said:

If you want to change the world, Go home and love your family.

I came across this quote and it actually got me sitting and self-reflecting. It was for this reason that I had to share it.

The world is moving in a very different direction, a selfish one if I can. It’s moving away from sentimentality and more towards a superficial nature. The dynamic of family is no longer what it used to be and that is such a shame.

How many great memories do we have growing up? Do you think that our kids will have the same?

We often have big dreams in terms of the contributions we want to make to the world, starting up our own businesses, blogs, setting up NGO’s, plans to study or travel even. We spread messages of good will, positivity, love and unity  which is all fantastic, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and kudos to you if you’re doing this because it is needed!

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Question is! do we put that much effort towards the goodwill of our family?

How many times do friends ask for a ride and we’re every ready to jump up and go. Yet, if our siblings or family member’s ask, we complain about fuel… 

How many times, do our folk call and ask us when we’re coming home to visit, and we’re like ” I’ve just been so busy, there’s just no time” yet, let our colleagues ask us to catch a drink and we’re ever ready and time avails itself… 

Or, how many times does your girl or wife ask you to spend some QT (quality time) and you be like “babe, i’m so tired” but minutes later you’re gaming or catching up on social media or better still, let your boys call and say they’re coming  over and the tiredness magically disappears…

Ladies, how many times does your significant other mention things to you but half of the time you don’t hear because you’re too interested in that conversation about Keyshia’s cousin who slept with Keyshia’s man… I hope you’re following me with this.

Doesn’t it make sense? That if we cant love our families, how do we expect to love strangers? 

If we cant appreciate the little things that they do for us, how do we expect to appreciate what the world has to give us? 

If we cant respect the people who we are constantly around, how do we expect to respect people we barely know and if we cant make time for our family, how can we for any other random person?

We have generations and generations which form part of our family trees right? and more that are still to be birthed. So what we do now and how we act now has a huge impact on the people that we will bring into this world right? It’s logic.

Imagine this, we love our families, we appreciate them, we support them , we invest in them and we encourage them. These attributes will get passed down to our kids, and their kids, and their kid’s kids etc. Creating a movement of love and light which we and they will automatically share with the world. If we all did this, don’t you think the world would be a better place? I think so.

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They say that charity starts at home and I agree. The magnitude of a gesture or deed lies in the amount of heart put into it.  So let’s all make an effort to appreciate our parent’s, siblings, cousins, aunt’s, uncles, grandparents a little more than we do now. Make that cup of tea for your mom, kick that ball with your kids or nephews, draw with your nieces, catch a movie or sport with your cousins, have chill sessions with your siblings, go on date nights with your person of honour, call your folk or grand folks every now and then. It starts with you and I.

This quote really touched me and it almost felt like a wake up call because I am guilty of sometimes not loving and appreciating my family as much as I should.  You always hear me preaching about spreading love and light. So this is me beginning to put more of an effort into that and it starting with my family.

An epiphany from just an ordinary girl and that’s all thanks to Mother Teresa ♥️🙏🏼

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#QOTD #28

Today’s quote is one that makes so much of logical sense, definitely one to widen our perspectives.

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Albert Einstein once said:

Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish 🐟 by its ability to climb a tree 🌲 , it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”

Now how absurd would that be: judging a fish by its ability to climb a tree right?
Similarly, we cannot judge people based on what we FEEL or THINK is right.

I can relate to this so much. We could never understand why my baby brother just didn’t do well in school, academically. He would pass subjects like Maths but fail English and Afrikaans. Yet today, he stands as a junior chef that is quickly gaining popularity because of his skill and work ethic in the kitchen.

Who would have thought? We thought he was doomed because he couldn’t do one grade just once, he always repeated and didn’t even complete his matric!

Some people fight different struggles, they have different habitats and background stories. It really isn’t about where they are, but rather, where they are going. Then, we put them in situations that they’re just not cut out for, Whether it’s academically, socially or even professionally. It doesn’t make them any less of a person, it simply means that God created a different path for them, he gave them a different gift to bless the world with, an essential gift just for them.

Let’s remember this whenever we feel we’re about to judge a person’s ability to do something that maybe is just not set out for them.

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#QOTD #11

Everybody’s at war with different things…I’m at war with my own heart sometimes.


~ Tupac

We sometimes get so consumed with the things going on in our lives and around us that we tend to forget that everybody else is walking through their own struggle; Be it business, personal or spiritual.

When we get so consumed with our own issues, it becomes very easy to feel entitled. We expect people to be sympathetic or empathetic towards us and our situation and can sometimes disregard what others may be going through.  It’s human natureI suppose.

I’ve learned that there’s always somebody out there in a worse situation than I.

I keep this thought current in my mind which helps me to be more compassionate and kind towards those that I come accross and helps me to feel less entitled.

This is one of the beauties in our struggle. Being able to give even when you’re in need. 

Be kind always, you never know if it will be the only breath of fresh air for somebody! 

Happy Thursday almal 😊

An attempt to spread love and light through word, from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #4

Having started a new relationship recently and celebrating my cousins wedding. This quote is my inspiration today and one which I thrive to be like.

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.

~ The inspirational Maya Angelou


May we all travel this journey and reach our destination of hope by the will and permission of the almighty.

Love and light always.

TayBreezy