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#QOTD #78: Hard work

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I came across this quote at the back of a Huletts sugar sachet and it inspired me.

It says:

If you wish to move mountains tomorrow, you must start by lifting stones today

~ African proverb

Right?!

Nothing that’s ever worth it is easy. Hard work, determination and prayer is the only combination key to success.

You have to start somewhere and that somewhere generally is at the very beginning; the bottom.

As humans we have a tendency of wanting to skip the hard work and the being patient part and tend to always want instant results. So we become ambitious, take on everything and then crash before not even one of those things we took on are complete or achieved.

This proverb for me highlights the concept that success isn’t overnight and that it takes hard work and determination to reach your end goal. It highlights that there are no easy ways or overnight shenanigans when it comes to success.

So if you’re not where you need to be, do what you can today, tomorrow and even the day after that and trust and believe that one day, your mountain ⛰ (goal) will be moved (achieved).

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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Cakeday #March17th

Since Miks passing, I’ve never really celebrated my birthday with our birthdays being so close. So ironic because birthdays  are generally a big thing for me.

I do however, use this day to sit back and reflect on the past year. See what character / religious / career adjustments can be made. Sit and decide what worked for me and what didn’t work for me. This year will be no different.

I didn’t achieve wordly things in the past year. I’m still in the same position career wise, as I was last year. But I did achieve religious and character goals. I’ve put to bed some of the very influential demons in my life. I’ve got the answers I needed and I got to verbally say my truth. Confronted people who needed to be confronted and made an effort to physically remove the drama from my life. I’ve made a conscious effort to stop being such a push over and God did it feel good. I’ve blogged more and started writing my book. I’ve respected my mama more, achieved some weight loss and joined an amazing book club. Trying to do things that actually matter. I’ve also completed a year of mentoring and have successfully entered another year.

I’ve made some religious achievement. I read my Quran most days, previously I’d only read in our fasting month. I’ve worn my scarf more in the last year than I have in the last 5 and I’m working on praying more…..all this bythe almightys mercy and permission. The lesson I’ve learnt in the last year is firstly: 

  • success cannot be measured; by any one or anything. It is subject and you get to control what success means to you.
  • Spiritual/ religious achievements are just as, if not more fulfilling that wordly achievements.
  • How you feel matters!
  • Practice what you preach
  • Not everybody riding with you is willing to die for you, keep your circle small, keep it real

There’s tons of work I need to do for the forthcoming year. Which with the help of God I will do.

I just wanna take a moment to thank Allah, thank him for his unconditional love. For guiding me and protecting me even when I was and am unworthy of it. I want to take the time out to thank our creator for all the favors he has bestowed upon my life. I ask that he make me one of his most sincere and consistent servants. May he continue to bless those around me and help me with the transformations of my character and religious goals that I am aspiring towards. Shukr Allah for your infinite mercies. There really is none worthy of worship but you! 

To my family. Gawsh i sometimes look at you all and think “how do they do it”. I’m sometimes too much for my own self to handle and you guys do it so effortlessly. Shukran to each of you for your constant support. To my friends , my sisters , besties, you guys are the reason I am where I am today. My circle may be  very small but I’d have it no other way. You all are appreciated and I pray that my efforts to express my gratitude toward you guys let you know just how much you all mean to me.

Here’s to another year. May we all let God be the center of everything we do. 27 are you ready for me? Well that’s the question I’d like to ask but deep down I’m freaking out at how old I’m getting 🙈

Happy 1st birthday to my car as well, my didi pops 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻my ride or die, literally.

Happy St Patrick’s day to all and a very happy birthday to the many others born on this day 

Love and gratitude always

From just an ordinary birthday girl 

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#DFH #40

Dear future husband 

Your beauty or worth will never be determined by your physical appearances. So don’t get to thinking that good looks is what I’m after. 

Your beauty and your worth will  rather be based on the small things that you will do every day; how we communicate, your kind gestures , interaction with my fam, how you treat my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews. It will be based on how you react when I’m moody or in my feelings, how well you gel in with my vision and goals and the community work I’m involved in. That kind of thing. It will be based on your priorities, your relationship with Allah, your ability to provide for me and our family. And I don’t mean big houses and flashy cars, no! 

Many say my standards are too high, but I think not. In order for me to be where I want to be, I need a partner that has the same vision as I. I need a man, a man who will head up my home and who won’t necessarily be required to take over all of my responsibilities but one who has the capabilities of doing all I do, as I do, when I do and better than I do. I’m not settling.

If you can respect the above and make the effort as I, you will be beautiful and worthy in my eyes. If not, you really wouldn’t be worth my time and effort. Yes! I’ve learnt to be selective. 

Just a heads up from,

Your Future wife 

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The big 5 : Afrah edition


It’s 2:13 am and I’m having difficulty sleeping. Extremely tough week; my sister and the kids relocating to 🇨🇳 and the bf going back to his hometown tomorrow. 

I’m wide awake allowing myself to go through the motions I suppose but today is a very special day. My Afrah turns 5 and it’s the first birthday in a long time that I’m not spending with her.

She is the most colourful 5 year old around. She is fearless and free-spirited and literally can make one laugh at the very things she says and does.


So it’s her birthday today, but islamically, the new day begins after our fourth prayer. My parents would always buy us and them cake the night before and we would do the whole sing and blow out candles thing. And so they did.

Earlier this evening, my sister calls me and tells me how this little princess told everybody at the hotel that it’s her birthday and went and gave every person who wished her ( fellow guests, security guards and the lady at reception) a piece of her birthday 🎂. I am so proud. 


My wish for you baby girl is that you never lose this. Don’t ever lose your kindness and sharing nature. Don’t let any body dull the unique sparkle you have. May your move to China enhance your character and not change it. May the almighty bless you with good health, make the transition easier and help you through every difficulty. We live in a cruel world, where people use people and love things. Where your efforts go unnoticed and where you almost suffer for doing the right thing. My advice to you will always be to do the right thing anyway. Always remember it is between you and God.

May Allah shower his bountiful blessings upon you my sweetheart.  Inshallah aameen ( by the Will of Allah) I love and miss you dearly and best you know I will be calling you and singing for you tomorrow.

Happy 5th birthday my Affymooh ❤

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#DFH #22

Dear future husband,

Can I tell you about my day? 

It started off really great, I prayed and read Quran, prayed for safety and made a conscious effort that I will control how I feel by what I think. 

I Got to work with a fresh attitude , the first of anything always symbolizes a fresh start for me! I  Even sent my fellow teamies a motivational email to kickstart the month … and then…

It’s like God was really testing me to see if I was going to practice what I had just preached! I’ve had a day from hell in terms of the cases and escalations I’ve had to deal with today. 

It was horrible, slow torture is even an understatement to describe it. I still kept positive and “just kept swimming” as Dori says we should. 

I then leave work to go to our very first book club meeting, what a joy it was, but only after I scratched my car 💔my very first scratch ☹️and all because I was trying to be ambitious reversing into a parking. Something I’ve been teaching myself to get comfy with.

Our scratch ☹️

I know 💔it could be worse though. 

Nevertheless, we had quite a productive book club meeting, and very received a very special welcome gift ❤️

Dreamers book club book markers ❤️

I ate French fries today which I wasn’t supposed to because I said I will be back to good eating habits come the first of the month! 

Overal, I know it could be way worse and I am still blessed and fortunate to have the things I still have, have good health and even just a place to rest my head. 

That’s my day. I can’t wait to come and listen to yours 

Eagerly await your arrival 

Loads of love,

Your dramatic future wife 

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#DearFutureHusband #DFH #11

Dear future husband,

It’s the day of Jumu’ah today. Juma Mubarak 💋

I can’t wait to wake up and read our morning prayer together, read some Quran together and then make dua together. 

I look forward to the day where I iron your Kurtta and take out a matching kufia for you; getting you ready for the auspicious day. 

I look forward to you coming home and telling me what the Khutba at mosque was all about whilst we having supper.

Dear future husband, I need you to lead our home in prayer.

With loads of love and gratitude 

Your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #4

Dear future husband,

So I can be a wee bit domineering, don’t be afraid to “keep me in check” and show me who “wears the pants”sometimes, not all the time now. 

You will be the head of my home, so I expect you to act like it and not give me my own way all the time.

Thanking you in advance for the balance,

Your future wife