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#QOTD #47


Today I had a rather interesting and rather challenging interaction with somebody. This interaction inspired the quote of today and I hope this quote will help you, especially in situations that may evoke anger.

I say an Interesting interaction because it’s amazing to see how an ego trip can literally make a person feel entitled to the point of belittling a fellow human being, one whom they’ve never met…

I say it was an Interesting interaction because we’re so consumed with being “seen” in a certain light amongst other people, that we would literally go to extreme lengths to achieve a specific label or just to prove a point… to somebody who you probably never speak to again in your life! ( pathetic I know! )

I describe the interaction as Challenging, because those who know me, know that I am very verbal. Because I hate bottling things in, I say how I feel then and there… and well then it’s done, no festering of volatile emotions, no venom infecting my spirituality, zilch! 

This isn’t always helpful in situations and over the years, I’ve learnt that there’s a time and place for everything and also that not every battle needs to be fought. 

I’m generally a no-nonsense kinda girl and still have emotional triggers that can cause me to become temprimental. One of these triggers are idiots who feel patronizing somebody else just to execute power is ok by speaking to folk in a condescing tone. I promise you! I can literally go from lady to a savage  beast in 0.5seconds when I witness this. 

Today? I was on the receiving end. But I was pleasantly surprised at how I handled the situation. I suppose it comes with the numerous attempts of trying to be a better, stronger version of myself. A version that plays this game called life by God and my rules only

My intellect was questioned, my competencies were faulted, I was insulted and this person was just a rude, arrogant, shovenist who couldn’t get his own way and so typically started throwing his toys out the cot.  ..this is an example of a typical “man” in our generation. #sigh

And How did I respond?

With a smile and  “it’s your opinion and I respect it”

I think this ticked him off even more because he realized that that’s all it is, an opinion. One he clearly felt strongly about. I suppose I challenged him because he didn’t respond to what I was actually saying, but rather responded by insulting my capabilities. 

And it was actually ok. Even though i had to work harder at some points during our interaction to keep my composure. All I wanted to do was tell him exactly what I thought of men of his caliber.

I finally learnt what is it not to be  reduced by others. I experienced what victory  felt like because as much as he left that convo feeling like he was the don…it had to take him numerous blows to try to get the reaction he was looking for, which he didn’t end up getting.

And this brings us to the quote of the day:

“He who angers you, controls you”

~ Prophet Muhamed ( may Peace and blessings be upon him) 

It’s an amazing feeling seeing the fruits of my spiritual journey. I love the woman I’m evolving into and whilst it may not always be 🌹s and 🌈s, this feeling of the victory I felt is one I can enjoy getting used to.


No person is worth you dropping your standards, especially when you’re being used to brush their ego. You deserve to sit on your throne and to not be shaken or moved by irrelevant people. 

…Because he who angers you,  literally controls you and really, they  don’t deserve that kind of power over you! 

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl h

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#QOTD #46

Last week, we had a meeting with our service manager at work. 

He reminded me of a saying that my Mar Una used to always say. Whilst I was too small or immature to understand this saying then, I now fully appreciate its profoundness and you’ll soon understand why.

” the more you know, the more you know you don’t know”


Aristotle

Ignorance is bliss isn’t it (: 

it’s amazing when you seek knowledge, your perspective changes, your hunger for knowing more grows and so does your self confidence for some weird reason. 

There’s always times where we think we know it all and then suddenly out of the blue, it will take one small thing to make us realize that we got literally a whole universe of things that we still need to learn about. 

It’s happened to me on so many occasstions, especially with the nature of my job. I literally feel like I have my job function down to a science, that I can handle any query that comes through and then that one comes through and I realize how much more there is still for me to learn.

This concept can be applied to anything new or current that you want to learn or know about;  sport, religion, music, art … anything 

So always be open and prepared to learn. There’s no such thing as “I know it all” because there will always be somebody who knows more than you do! 

It’s Wednesday tomorrow! We’re almost there! 

♥️ and 🌈🔥always! 

From Just an ordinary girl xx

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#QOTD #44

It’s been a while since I’ve posted …3 whole days to be precise! What a trying week! 😭

A friend of mine shared this quote with me; such a simple, yet such a profound quote and I had to share it with you all.

 It goes:

You are always one decision away from a totally different life 


~ unknown 

Just one decision. 

You just need to want whatever it is bad enough. Tired of the silent treatment? Ditch pride and say sorry. Want to go on holiday, ditch procrastination and save at that moment. Want to lose weigh? Ditch that chocolate and start eating right and excersing. 

I think we get so overwhelmed in certain aspects of our lives that we forget we have choices, we come up with tons of excuses as to why we can’t do the certain things that we want but it’s just that, excuses. It’s fear subconsciously stepping in giving us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t because we’re scared of the unknown.

I’m a firm believer of, if you really want something, you can go out and get it! We sometimes always look for the quick fix, but nothing that’s worth is ever easy!

So remember : You always have a choice (: 

Isn’t this quote so thought provoking? 

Love and light from just an ordinary girl ❤️

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Woman: which one are you? 

So today, I’m sharing a quote that came to me whilst I was writing this post. I’ve been seeing the behavior of some women outchea together with doing some self reflection and that got me 💭. So here it goes…

If you know me, you’d know that I am all about empowering people, women especially. I believe us women are Devine species, we have power. We birth nations. We subtle yet fierce. We are plan makers. We’re strong, both emotionally and physically. We endure with a smile and well the list of how awesome I think we are can go on for days.


We often are quick to call out men and deem them trash, some of whom rightly deserve such tags. But let me tell you about the two kinds of women on this earth because honestly, some of us are beneath trash!

You get the woman who knows her power, she knows that she can do what men can do, but chooses not to because she knows that her Devine purpose was not to be like men. She knows that her devine purpose is to be something more powerful; support, companionship, compassion, fierce, teachers of the home, of the nation!

What she does, she knows that nobody, not even men can do. She knows that men have a purpose and so do women and so she’s only concerned with being the best she can be in fulfilling that purpose. (I aspire to be just like this)

Then you get the woman who THINKS she knows her power and Inturn misuses it. The one who judges and looks down upon her fellow sisters, the one who is more consumed with being in competition for worldly things than actually getting her eish in order. The one who is arrogant and feels like the world owes her. The one who will encourage ruthless behavior just to prove a point to validate herself. ( I’m guilty of some of these things, I never encourage ruthless behavior and I don’t compete though!) 

Women can destroy, as easily as they can build nations. 

~ me


We will never be equal to men because then we’d need to be compared to them and really! There’s no comparison.
Men were put on this earth to carry out their own set of purposes; head their homes, provide for their families,  Protect their loved ones, Persue their person of honour etc. It really wouldn’t be fair to compare! 

If we can just go back to the basics (of understanding men and women were put on this earth for different purposes) for a second, lots of things can be changed. It’s effects can be powerful. 

If we can raise women who know their power as opposed to thinking they know their power or misusing it, things like affairs, divorces, broken homes etc. will minimize. If we go back to being okay with what our sole purpose is, and force men into fulfilling what they’ve been put on this earth to do (by not settling for less) we would not have the repercussions of kids acting out coz their fathers are nowhere to be seen. Abuse to women and children will minimize and the world will just be a more respectful place to live in.  Utopian you may say? I say say it starts with you and I. 

Imagine, all this lies in the power of a woman and the choice of how she will use her God-given power. 

And no honey, God will never send you somebody else’s husband. Having an affair should not give your airs and graces about yourself. You should not feel like you’ve “won” because men aren’t prizes, and your fellow women are not your enemies. Also, gaining anything in this world on anything but merit should not make you feel proud. 

Always think, if what you do to others were to be done unto you, how would you feel. If it’s not good, you know what to do.

|Love yourself |respect yourself |Own your power |Go!


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#QOTD #27

” The first reaction to any calamity, should be patience.”

SailingIntoTheStorm

Prophet Muhammed (May peace and blessings be upon him)

I believe that a calamity can be anything difficult that you’re facing; an argument, anger issues, loss of a job or loved one, car accident, health issues etc.

I chose this as the quote of the day because this is something I need to work on, patience. I’ve been getting it right on a few occasions and then the rest, the savage, dramatic coloured in me gets resurrected and well yeah, things don’t end well. So I definitely need to practice this more. I came across this quote and I knew that I needed to share this with you all because I feel it’s something that we all could use or practice more of.

Through the spiritual journey that I am embarking on, I’ve learnt that patience is a virtue indeed. I once read that a moment of patience in a moment of anger can save you a hundred moments of regrets, for a word spoken can never be taken back.

This resonates well with me as I was once extremely tempremental. But, by the almighty’s will and permission, I’m working progress 🙂 and it feels good, you actually feel a sense of power when you can control your emotion towards the difficulty that you may be facing.

So, the next time anything difficult strikes, remember that God is well aware of all that happens and then be patient, he knows what’s best for us.

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#QOTD #9

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Not that screaming , irate client on the other side of the line.

Not that picture perfect model on the cover of the most popular magazine.

Not that popular girl or captain of the football team.

Not even that bully in school or the most intelligent person in your class/ team.

… can make you feel inferior without your consent. You possess power, use it wisely:

You have the power to not be changed by what people do and have the power to choose how you will react to any situation.

Think of yourself how you would want others to think of you. 

That’s right! It starts with you. 

As I always say, we are kings and queens in our own right.


Happy CHOOSEday everybody.

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Beloved damsel

This post is inspired by the recent Bechet School video that is going viral on social media.

Beloved Damsel,

Im not too much older than you are but I’ve been through a fare share of life’s hurdles you can read more here and here . Adolence being one of the them.

Beloved Damsel,

The power you possess is of a magnitude that is beyond the mind, if only you would realise it.

You are more than your “eye brows”, you are more than your will for everything superficial to be “on fleek” it’s time you start getting your character “Lit” and turning up to the reality of your dreams.

Beloved Damsel,

you are more than your body or your hair. You are more than your “haragat” attitude that thinks you’re better than God himself. Im still trying to figure out who gave you the right…

Beloved Damsel,

You are so much more than piling a sister, one of your very own,  in your school toilet over a mere kiss. Is the embarrassment really worth it?  You are more than drugs, every week partying and sex with every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Beloved Damsel,

You have the power to birth nations, to unify and to define respect. You have the power to lay a solid foundation for future generations. To teach and escalate yourselves to the highest levels of success. You have the power to lead.

You NEED to start respecting yourself so others can respect you. We want to see headlines celebrating your success not headlines showing you disrespecting yourself, your school and your colleagues.

You lost your way? Its not too late to get back up. Take your lessons and let them fuel the person you were born to be. I doubt God made you to be selling yourselvses short like this and to be disgracing yourself, family and community.

Dont be a hard rock when you truelly are a gem!! Now Lauryn knew what she was talking about.

Mums and Dads, its time we take back our kids, our community and our God-given right. If you didnt think my previous post was reason for us to start changing and uniting, I hope you get to see that video!

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With Love and much respect. Bless!