A very warm Eid Mubarak to all of our Muslim friends and family around the world.
May the Almighty accept all of your efforts and attempts in the holy month of Ramadan that has just passed and may all the little changes made become permanent insha’allah (if he wills) aaameen.
May we get awarded the opportunity to see this month again, by the permission and the will of the almighty.
Whilst this will be the first year without my sister and my nieces, we will try to make the most of it inshallah.
Hoping that your day is filled with love, light, happiness, peace and joy.
My mission in life is not merely to survive but to thrive; and to do so with some passion🌈 ❤️, some compassion 🤗, some humour 😃and some style 😎💄
~ you got it, Maya Angelou
This week has been an extremely trying week. Work has been beyond overwhelming, it’s the last few days of Ramadan and my spirits have just been sweeping the floor!
Whenever I get like this, I pray and then I turn to some of my favorite authors or poets and peruse through their work. This always creates an escape for me, because I get so drawn into their work.
I came across this beautiful quote and I had to share, because as soon as I read it, my heart smiled!
THE Maya Angelou! What a creative, talented legend was she.
This quote reminded me that I shouldn’t just make it through the day, that I shouldn’t let work, or anything else, take “me” out of me, if that makes any sense lol! It reminds me that even when you feel like giving up, you should carry on, for after every rainy, gloomy day, there’s a 🌈that awaits!
Isn’t this how we should approach life? Let’s think about it:
With some passion, towards the things that warm our hearts.
Compassion, towards all the wrongs and evils and struggles in this world. Supporting and elevating each other.
Humour, because we know laughter is the best medicine contrary to what professionals may think
and then style, because that defines us, it’s ours and besides, some fresh swag, kicks and make up can turn any bodies day around!
Genius I tell you! Maya Angelou was pure genius!
PCHS: our survival kit to get through this journey called life
A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way
Whilst there’s many dads who are non existent, today we celebrate the fathers who are present in their kids lives, the ones that go far and beyond to do and be better.
Today I celebrate my father who is my guiding light. I started writing this post late lastnight, my dad wasn’t home yet, neither was he out with his friends. He was busy worshiping our creator at the mosque…at that time! I knew that I needed to finish this post as a small token of honour and appreciation.
You see my father is the best, I know it may seem biased because all girls are generally for their dads and all think that their fathers are the best, rightfully so.
But here’s why I say mine is. My father is the perfect example of what a Muslim should be; flaw-filled but always striving to do and be better in terms of character.
As old as I am, he still is my provider, my protector, my counselor, my confidant, my therapist, my guide, my example, my teacher. He still is my favourite soccer player, my movie date partner and sometimes my frenemy.
He is so bold yet so humble, my dad does tons of community work in our area. He makes time to visit and look after the elders in our community and also has such a playful yet impactful relationship with the youth. He makes me strive to do to more for others… what better example could I possibly need?
He literally makes lives easier, during the week he will clean and do our washing, he will go out of his way to ensure that he’s family is always #1, that we’re comfortable and happy even if it may tire him.
He is so fit 🙈at 53 he still plays soccer every Saturday and trains during the week ( this is one thing I could not follow suite with hahahah)
My fathers dedication to his faith is one of the most admirable things about him, he ensures he answers the call to prayer 5times a day, at his age, he is still learning to read Arabic and still attends madressa to learn more. God is really the greatest!
He is the perfect grand dad to my nieces , takes time to do the little things that make their little hearts happy, be it tickles, movies, outings etc.
He tries his best To honour my mother and that is such a beautiful thing to witness! Because she is a queen and he knows that. Witnessing him love and respect and honour her is a perfect example to us as his daughters because we know what not to settle for.
He is just an all round amazing dad and if he knew I published this, it would probably upset him because he’s that humble in all he does. I always get told after taking a picture of him “don’t put that on FACEBUCK” 🤣Yeap technology and him aren’t friends! #bless
So Daddy, words will never be able to thank you enough for the role you play in my life. Always there to push me when I’m struggling and there to catch me when I’m about to fall.
You are a Muslim personified, you teach me that it’s ok not to be perfect but that I should always persevere to be better in character for the sake of my creator and nobody else.
You teach me that I should want for my brother and neighbors all that I want for myself. You teach me that helping others is an obligation and not just a thing to do. You teach me to have courage and stand for what’s right even when it may not be fruitful and you teach me to be kind.
May the almighty bless you with a long , happy and healthy life so that you can continue doing the amazing work that you so wonderfully do, may he make it so that one day I could be nearly as impactful as you are inshallah ( by the will and permission of Allah). May all your hearts desires be fulfilled because I know they’re all pure. May Allah always be your guide and may he always help you with every difficulty you face. Aaameen
Happy daddy’s day to all the amazing dads out there! We need you.
Love, light and appreciation from just an ordinary girl
I’m so excited for this quote of the day (QOTD) prompt that I’ve been doing. It’s one of THE most consistent prompts that I’ve kept up with. This and the #DFH prompt (dear future husband) you should go check those out (:
Anyway, moving along onto today’s #QOTD
Love is not just a verb, it’s you looking in the mirror.
~ Kendrick Lamar
You got it! It’s from his 🎶 colab with Drake: Poetic justice
I’ve always been drawn to these lyrics because I believe in its truth. I felt for some reason that it would be fitting for today’s #QOTD
Love is a doing word, I agree, but accepting and loving your self first is essential.
I say so, because only once you accept and love yourself, will you be comfortable with letting somebody else accept you and love you.
Only when you accept and love yourself, will you be able to sincerely accept and love others.
Looking in the mirror, self reflecting and righting your wrongs is a form of love for yourself. So yes, love is a doing word but most importantly,
Such a profound message in such a few words. Words have power people!
Be that flower that gives it’s fragrance to even the hand that crushes it
~ Islamic proverb
We’ve all been hurt or betrayed at some point in our lives and in many cases, it’s often by those we love the most. I chose this quote because it brings through the essence of forgiveness so beautifully.
Forgiveness is not a feeling. It’s a choice we make everyday, choosing peace and making a conscious effort to let go of painful burdens and anger.
It’s a choice we make to clear our hearts of all things ill to make place for all things good; love and light.
We often read or hear folk say that forgiveness is more for us than it is for the person or people we’re forgiving and I call truth!
Choosing to forgive someone is not an act of weakness, if anything, it is courage and strength personified!
We don’t forgive a person because they necessarily deserve it but rather because we deserve the peace. Let that sink in for a second.
… We know how hurtful situations can literally drain a person; mentally , physically and emotionally! But in saying that, they often force us to realize just how strong we are and I reckon peace is something we definitely deserve after such ordeals.
We should never forget that even when we’re crushed, we still have purpose, like the crushed flower that can still provide fragrance; something pleasant, something refreshing, something…delightful!
When somebody does something hurtful or bad to us, it’s a reflection of them and not of us. It’s essential for us to understand and remember this.
So I say, Be that flower, bloom beautifully, be crushed and let the world smell your scent. Then, make your come back and grow again.
Life is a journey, filled with ups and downs…let’s embrace it all and let’s choose to forgive along the way. Life is way too short to be festering feelings of anger, hurt, pain and suffering.
Keeping up with the lessons learned from fairytales and gaining a better understanding as to why I’m so drawn to one particular fairytale (Cinderella) more than the rest, here’s another quote I simply adore.
The greatest risk any of us will take, is to be seen as who we are.
The greatest and most rewarding risk I say.
I truelly believe that we are only free, once we don’t allow what people think of us, affect us.
In a world that demands you to think, feel, look and act in a certain way, it’s becoming more and more difficult to see somebody stay true to who they are. And when you do, it is just simply amazing.
We all go through a phase where we lose sleep over what others may think or say about us. That phase where we will do or wear a certain thing just to fit in. If you’ve never been affected by this, lol kudos to you. But I can definitely relate.
Now though, I really couldn’t be bothered with what folk have to say because remaining true to my self and who I am will always take first presidence!
I do whatever feels good within my soul, even if it doesn’t fit the norm or standards of society. I wear whatever feels good on the day, whether it’s tracks, a tee and slops or whether it’s the prettiest dress with the cutest of sandals. I brush my hair when I feel like and then other days I don’t bother. My make up will be on fleek some days and then on others, I leave the house make-upless ( not sure if that’s a word but it’s fitting). I do what I need to do for ME and never have I been more comfortable in my own skin.
I also have been really insecure about my weight. It’s a struggle I’ve been battling out for years now. This still bothers me from time to time however, I’ve realized that if I can’t love myself the way I am now, how do I expect anybody else to love me the way that I am and so whilst losing weight to be healthier is still a thing to do, I’m learning to love myself the way that I currently am, curves, extra rolls and all!
It’s an amazing feeling, not being consumed by what other people think, say or feel when it comes to you. I reckon when and only when you’re comfortable and happy with yourself are you then able to be happy and comfortable and around and with others.
Be who you are meant to be.
Be the original version of yourself and not a copy of somebody else. It’s worth loads more!
You were put on this earth for a purpose, stay true to that purpose. For there will only ever be one you!
❤️|💡and 🌈 from just an ordinary girl
If you want to change the world, Go home and love your family.
I came across this quote and it actually got me sitting and self-reflecting. It was for this reason that I had to share it.
The world is moving in a very different direction, a selfish one if I can. It’s moving away from sentimentality and more towards a superficial nature. The dynamic of family is no longer what it used to be and that is such a shame.
How many great memories do we have growing up? Do you think that our kids will have the same?
We often have big dreams in terms of the contributions we want to make to the world, starting up our own businesses, blogs, setting up NGO’s, plans to study or travel even. We spread messages of good will, positivity, love and unity which is all fantastic, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and kudos to you if you’re doing this because it is needed!
Question is! do we put that much effort towards the goodwill of our family?
How many times do friends ask for a ride and we’re every ready to jump up and go. Yet, if our siblings or family member’s ask, we complain about fuel…
How many times, do our folk call and ask us when we’re coming home to visit, and we’re like ” I’ve just been so busy, there’s just no time” yet, let our colleagues ask us to catch a drink and we’re ever ready and time avails itself…
Or, how many times does your girl or wife ask you to spend some QT (quality time) and you be like “babe, i’m so tired” but minutes later you’re gaming or catching up on social media or better still, let your boys call and say they’re coming over and the tiredness magically disappears…
Ladies, how many times does your significant other mention things to you but half of the time you don’t hear because you’re too interested in that conversation about Keyshia’s cousin who slept with Keyshia’s man… I hope you’re following me with this.
Doesn’t it make sense? That if we cant love our families, how do we expect to love strangers?
If we cant appreciate the little things that they do for us, how do we expect to appreciate what the world has to give us?
If we cant respect the people who we are constantly around, how do we expect to respect people we barely know and if we cant make time for our family, how can we for any other random person?
We have generations and generations which form part of our family trees right? and more that are still to be birthed. So what we do now and how we act now has a huge impact on the people that we will bring into this world right? It’s logic.
Imagine this, we love our families, we appreciate them, we support them , we invest in them and we encourage them. These attributes will get passed down to our kids, and their kids, and their kid’s kids etc. Creating a movement of love and light which we and they will automatically share with the world. If we all did this, don’t you think the world would be a better place? I think so.
They say that charity starts at home and I agree. The magnitude of a gesture or deed lies in the amount of heart put into it. So let’s all make an effort to appreciate our parent’s, siblings, cousins, aunt’s, uncles, grandparents a little more than we do now. Make that cup of tea for your mom, kick that ball with your kids or nephews, draw with your nieces, catch a movie or sport with your cousins, have chill sessions with your siblings, go on date nights with your person of honour, call your folk or grand folks every now and then. It starts with you and I.
This quote really touched me and it almost felt like a wake up call because I am guilty of sometimes not loving and appreciating my family as much as I should. You always hear me preaching about spreading love and light. So this is me beginning to put more of an effort into that and it starting with my family.
An epiphany from just an ordinary girl and that’s all thanks to Mother Teresa ♥️🙏🏼
” The first reaction to any calamity, should be patience.”
– Prophet Muhammed (May peace and blessings be upon him)
I believe that a calamity can be anything difficult that you’re facing; an argument, anger issues, loss of a job or loved one, car accident, health issues etc.
I chose this as the quote of the day because this is something I need to work on, patience. I’ve been getting it right on a few occasions and then the rest, the savage, dramatic coloured in me gets resurrected and well yeah, things don’t end well. So I definitely need to practice this more. I came across this quote and I knew that I needed to share this with you all because I feel it’s something that we all could use or practice more of.
Through the spiritual journey that I am embarking on, I’ve learnt that patience is a virtue indeed. I once read that a moment of patience in a moment of anger can save you a hundred moments of regrets, for a word spoken can never be taken back.
This resonates well with me as I was once extremely tempremental. But, by the almighty’s will and permission, I’m working progress 🙂 and it feels good, you actually feel a sense of power when you can control your emotion towards the difficulty that you may be facing.
So, the next time anything difficult strikes, remember that God is well aware of all that happens and then be patient, he knows what’s best for us.
Although we may sometimes fight And thats all Thanks to the distance between us’ might.
He inspires me to love.
To let go and soar, like the beautiful white dove, to spread my wings and go Up up and above.
He gets me, feels me, believes in me. He confuses me, challenges me, and sometimes peeves me. He secures me, assures me and respects me. He makes me laugh, he gives me hope. kisses my forward. He makes an effort and holds my hand. He cares for me.
He is my kind of perfect.
He. The creation of God himself. Talented, young and full of aspiring goals. He. The son of beautiful parents, and brother to his diverse siblings. He. The well known and well received guy. He, the guy with the colorful friends. He, I now get to call my person of honour.
I, am not perfect, I’m not always kind. I get scared and I sometimes cry. I get angry and I curse out , sometimes without any reason or without any doubt. I get defensive, I’m scared of being hurt. I’m not always patient or understanding but I’m human. And he. He gets that.
He is love and light personified. He is my blessing in disguise. He is the closest thing to real I see when I look around. He is amazing even when he’s moody or emotional or imperfect but He, he is mine and I am his.
It’s a tradegy you’re going to face, especially if you love and feel deeply. One that you will be faced quite often.
The sooner you accept it, the easier it becomes to deal.
Isn’t it amazing how you can attempt things with the best intentions but it gets received in a different way? I’ve encountered this so many times and each time, I would have tried to approach it in a different way.
The toughest part though is trying to explain yourself and your intentions and then, folk tending to forget you’re human and you feel too.
My word of advise is: You can try, out of respect, to explain yourself and if it isn’t good enough well then tough. We really are too old to be playing chasing games.
Dont ever apologize for who you are because if they know your heart, they’d know you’d never do things to purposely hurt or upset anybody . As I always say, it’s between you and God. He knows (:.
This can sometimes damper your want and will to love and to allow yourself to feel but don’t let it (: you are born a lover. Embrace it.
With that said, I hope you all have a beautiful Sunday. Keep loving because to love is a beautiful thing.