I got this random message from one of my closest girlfriends the other morning and it just made me realize how important it is for one to choose the people they keep around them. This message literally brightened up my whole day.
Tonight, I got invited by another close girl friend of mine to attend a fundraiser for such an amazing organization. I’m busy working on doing some research on this phenomenal org and will definitely be sharing it with you all. The night comprised local and international acts of singing, poetry and comedy. All in the name of encouraging normal folk like you and I to get involved do our part in making our community a better place to live and grow in. But I will dedicate an entire post to giving the 411 on this amazing org.
Moving along, These two gestures from my girlfriends have inspired the quote of today:
Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company
~ Booker T Washington
I absolutely agree.
You are, who you hang around with and that’s a fact.
We often hear the old folk say : ifyou lie with dogs, you bound to wake up with fleas. They knew what they were talking about.
I’ve got a lot of wrongs to right, but one thing I’ve always been blessed with, is my support structure. My circle of real friends has grown significantly smaller over the years, but the bond between my friends and I, has grown so much stronger.
We are each other’s strength, courage, sight, logic, comic, sister, stylist, driver, shrink, cheer leader, confidence, entertainment and even a target. The beauty lies in that even when we make each other so mad, when it comes to the wire, we don’t have to question who will be there and who wouldn’t.
These are the people we need in our lives, the ones who we can love when they’re down and when they’re up and the ones who can love us at our worst through to us being our best.
Your friends should ultimately push you to be and do better. And I can confidently say that mine do all of the above, even when I’m stubborn as a Muel.
So on that note, let’s take some time to reflect on the people we deem close to us. Let’s look at the character of the people we call friends pay more attention to those whom we let into our circle. It may seem trivial, but it is so important.
When women support each other, incredible things happen
Right? I don’t even need to dissect this any further but I’ll enhance on it.
You don’t need to stand and address an arena filled with women to encourage, inspire or support each other . You don’t have wait until you’re an Oprah or mother Theresa of a nation to start valuing and encouraging women to be the best they can be or to “lead” women away from the superficial crap we consume ourselves with.
A few girlfriends and I planned a mini road trip and one night slumber not far from home. People honestly thought that we were in some foreign place because of all of the amazing pics we posted, but those were just BTWs.
The significance of the trip was to break away from reality and just to recoop. The trip was planned to act as a reset button. Time to stop. Reflect and then start again.
Not everybody knew each other however, all were friends of mine. I suggested these ladies because I know all of them personally and I know the journeys we’ve all travelled and the destinations we all hoping to reach. So with Des’s idea for the road trip and us all confirming, it was a recipe for success!
The weekend was beyond refreshing and went off smoothly, we all focused on the most important things; being our selves and sharing perspectives to enhance each other’s thought processes, sharing each other’s joys and then becoming more sensitive to the battles that us women face. We chilled, laughed, expressed, ate, cooked, embraced and loved! Oh and posed 😜
I will be the first to say that I left that weekend away with loads of gratitude, a wider perspective, beautiful memories, fun photos and sisters for life…yes, we’re already planning our next one.
The most beautiful thing for me is that we’re all so similar yet so different. We don’t all belong to the same religion, don’t all have kids, husbands or boyfriends but we had such an amazing time.
That’s all you need to encourage and support your fellow women; spend quality time with them for the sake of bettering yourself and them and then the rest automatically falls into place. We had no time for gossip, judgment, shade throwing, scandling , fighting or any cattish behavior.
So! Write your fellow women a note, dedicate a status or throw in a motivating hashtag to a pic. Go for a picnic, take a drive , catch a movie or even stay home and cook and for or bake. Pout. Anything! But start.
Imagine a world where our women are dedicated to building each other up as opposed to tearing each other down. It seems beautiful, amazing, strong and all things nice to me.
They say that the greatest emotional need of man kind is to feel appreciated. I came accross this quote and I can see why! I believe in it’s truth!
“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly”
~ Tony Robbins
How often do WE EXPECT people to do things for us before we feel obliged to say thank you, or to show appreciation?
If their actions don’t meet our expectation, sorry. Tough! We disregard their attempts and in some instances throw a couple of insults their way. Totally disregarding their efforts. ( I’m guilty of this sometimes)
It becomes so easy to overlook their efforts because all we care about is “I” and “me”. Buggar them or what they feel right?
We tend to show appreciation on condition. On condition of material gain and superficial standards. We often feel entitled like somebody always owes us something, it’s actually revolting when you think of it.
I always say, that our generation doesn’t know about fixing things; we don’t know about peservering and going after the things that actually matter. Hear me out, the minute we feel something is “broken” we’re quick to toss it out ... because we don’t know how to appreciate. I see it everyday, failing relationships, ruthless behavior, vandalizing, kids absconding school… the list is endless.
These days we appreciate things and use people. For as long as we’re gaining, we all good. Right?
I often ask myself where we have gone wrong! Why must we wait to gain before we can express gratitude? Why cant we be fulfilled with the little things in life and the small kind gestures people do, whether it is for us or our communities at large?
It’s so easy to rather find fault in each other, than identify and appreciate the good within us all. Then we die, and suddenly the flowers, well wishes, memories and gratitude start flooding in, too late if you ask me!
This is why I believe in today’s quote so much. Imagine a world where we appreciate people and use things instead? Saying please and thank you and sincerely meaning it? Letting our loved ones know how we appreciate the good things that they do, as opposed to constantly harping on the not so good and the things that irk us?
If we can get this sentiment right and raise our little humans in the same fashion, you won’t get as much failing relationships, vandalizing of community buildings or even kids absconding school. They will learn to appreciate every opportunity awarded to them…. gaining knowledge and then power and since they are our future, imagine how our world can change? The possibilities are endless.
Like everything else, it starts with you and I. My person and I have an appreciation session once a week, where we tell each other the things we’re appreciated in that week and we say our thank you’s. I swear, that feeling of being appreciated and expressing appreciation is better than any high that any drug can give.
Wrapping this up, I would just like to sincerely thank each and every one of you for the constant support. I would not be motivated to continue striving each day if it weren’t for your kind words, time and daily support. I appreciate it and I appreciate you.
Let’s be like pinky and the brain and start changing the world! Because remember, the world owes us sh%t!
A very warm Eid Mubarak to all of our Muslim friends and family around the world.
May the Almighty accept all of your efforts and attempts in the holy month of Ramadan that has just passed and may all the little changes made become permanent insha’allah (if he wills) aaameen.
May we get awarded the opportunity to see this month again, by the permission and the will of the almighty.
Whilst this will be the first year without my sister and my nieces, we will try to make the most of it inshallah.
Hoping that your day is filled with love, light, happiness, peace and joy.
My mission in life is not merely to survive but to thrive; and to do so with some passion🌈 ❤️, some compassion 🤗, some humour 😃and some style 😎💄
~ you got it, Maya Angelou
This week has been an extremely trying week. Work has been beyond overwhelming, it’s the last few days of Ramadan and my spirits have just been sweeping the floor!
Whenever I get like this, I pray and then I turn to some of my favorite authors or poets and peruse through their work. This always creates an escape for me, because I get so drawn into their work.
I came across this beautiful quote and I had to share, because as soon as I read it, my heart smiled!
THE Maya Angelou! What a creative, talented legend was she.
This quote reminded me that I shouldn’t just make it through the day, that I shouldn’t let work, or anything else, take “me” out of me, if that makes any sense lol! It reminds me that even when you feel like giving up, you should carry on, for after every rainy, gloomy day, there’s a 🌈that awaits!
Isn’t this how we should approach life? Let’s think about it:
With some passion, towards the things that warm our hearts.
Compassion, towards all the wrongs and evils and struggles in this world. Supporting and elevating each other.
Humour, because we know laughter is the best medicine contrary to what professionals may think
and then style, because that defines us, it’s ours and besides, some fresh swag, kicks and make up can turn any bodies day around!
Genius I tell you! Maya Angelou was pure genius!
PCHS: our survival kit to get through this journey called life
A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way
Whilst there’s many dads who are non existent, today we celebrate the fathers who are present in their kids lives, the ones that go far and beyond to do and be better.
Today I celebrate my father who is my guiding light. I started writing this post late lastnight, my dad wasn’t home yet, neither was he out with his friends. He was busy worshiping our creator at the mosque…at that time! I knew that I needed to finish this post as a small token of honour and appreciation.
You see my father is the best, I know it may seem biased because all girls are generally for their dads and all think that their fathers are the best, rightfully so.
But here’s why I say mine is. My father is the perfect example of what a Muslim should be; flaw-filled but always striving to do and be better in terms of character.
As old as I am, he still is my provider, my protector, my counselor, my confidant, my therapist, my guide, my example, my teacher. He still is my favourite soccer player, my movie date partner and sometimes my frenemy.
He is so bold yet so humble, my dad does tons of community work in our area. He makes time to visit and look after the elders in our community and also has such a playful yet impactful relationship with the youth. He makes me strive to do to more for others… what better example could I possibly need?
He literally makes lives easier, during the week he will clean and do our washing, he will go out of his way to ensure that he’s family is always #1, that we’re comfortable and happy even if it may tire him.
He is so fit 🙈at 53 he still plays soccer every Saturday and trains during the week ( this is one thing I could not follow suite with hahahah)
My fathers dedication to his faith is one of the most admirable things about him, he ensures he answers the call to prayer 5times a day, at his age, he is still learning to read Arabic and still attends madressa to learn more. God is really the greatest!
He is the perfect grand dad to my nieces , takes time to do the little things that make their little hearts happy, be it tickles, movies, outings etc.
He tries his best To honour my mother and that is such a beautiful thing to witness! Because she is a queen and he knows that. Witnessing him love and respect and honour her is a perfect example to us as his daughters because we know what not to settle for.
He is just an all round amazing dad and if he knew I published this, it would probably upset him because he’s that humble in all he does. I always get told after taking a picture of him “don’t put that on FACEBUCK” 🤣Yeap technology and him aren’t friends! #bless
So Daddy, words will never be able to thank you enough for the role you play in my life. Always there to push me when I’m struggling and there to catch me when I’m about to fall.
You are a Muslim personified, you teach me that it’s ok not to be perfect but that I should always persevere to be better in character for the sake of my creator and nobody else.
You teach me that I should want for my brother and neighbors all that I want for myself. You teach me that helping others is an obligation and not just a thing to do. You teach me to have courage and stand for what’s right even when it may not be fruitful and you teach me to be kind.
May the almighty bless you with a long , happy and healthy life so that you can continue doing the amazing work that you so wonderfully do, may he make it so that one day I could be nearly as impactful as you are inshallah ( by the will and permission of Allah). May all your hearts desires be fulfilled because I know they’re all pure. May Allah always be your guide and may he always help you with every difficulty you face. Aaameen
Happy daddy’s day to all the amazing dads out there! We need you.
Love, light and appreciation from just an ordinary girl