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#QOTD #49

Been having a particularly tough time managing my stresses, especially at work. Generally, positive thinking is what I do, it’s my natural approach to anything I face. 

However, of late it’s becoming more and more difficult for me to do. This is a very dangerous space to be in, especially for me because I’ve worked so hard to get out of a verg negative era of my life. 

So amongst other things, I’ve been perusing online in hope to come across something that would spark some sought of positivity within… 

Bubblegum characters always lighten up my soul

… to shed some light in what seems to be a very dark space, I came across these bubblegum figures and this quote: (God bless the written word and the writers who write them)

” The darkest hour has only 60 minutes “

~ Morris Mandel 

Right?! 

This quote got me pondering instantly. It reassured me that nothing in this life time is ever permanent and that even dark times have their expiry dates. #aameen

I remember reading that actions derive from thoughts. This stuck with me and will continue to stick with me as I journey through this thing called life. 

This is why, when I think about more negative than positive things, I frantically search for something, anything, just to change my thought process.

I think it’s essential that we do this before we get consumed. Seems like this quote and my bubble gang are  my life lines for today, tomorrow shall see for itself.


♥️ and 🌈 from just an ordinary stressed out girl! 

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#QOTD #48

I got this random message from one of my closest girlfriends the other morning and it just made me realize how important it is for one to choose the people they keep around them. This message literally brightened up my whole day.



Tonight, I got invited by another close girl friend of mine to attend a fundraiser for such an amazing organization. I’m busy working on doing some research on this phenomenal org and will definitely be sharing it with you all. The night comprised local and international acts of singing, poetry and comedy. All in the name of encouraging normal folk like you and I to get involved do our part in making our community a better place to live and grow in. But I will dedicate an entire post to giving the 411 on this amazing org.

Moving along, These two gestures from my girlfriends have inspired the quote of today:

Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company

~ Booker T Washington 

I absolutely agree. 

You are, who you hang around with and that’s a fact.

We often hear the old folk say : if you lie with dogs, you bound to wake up with fleas. They knew what they were talking about. 

I’ve got a lot of wrongs to right, but one thing I’ve always been blessed with, is my support structure. My circle of real friends has grown significantly smaller over the years, but the bond between my friends and I, has grown so much stronger. 

We are each other’s strength, courage, sight, logic, comic, sister, stylist, driver, shrink, cheer leader, confidence, entertainment and even a target. The beauty lies in that even when we make each other so mad, when it comes to the wire, we don’t  have to question who will be there and who wouldn’t. 

These are the people we need in our lives, the ones who we can love when they’re down and when they’re up and the ones who can love us at our worst through to us being our best. 

Your friends should ultimately push you to be and do better. And I can confidently say that mine do all of the above, even when I’m stubborn as a Muel. 

So on that note, let’s take some time  to reflect on the people we deem close to us. Let’s look at the character of the people we call friends pay more attention to those whom we let into our circle. It may seem trivial, but it is so important.


❤️and 🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #44

It’s been a while since I’ve posted …3 whole days to be precise! What a trying week! 😭

A friend of mine shared this quote with me; such a simple, yet such a profound quote and I had to share it with you all.

 It goes:

You are always one decision away from a totally different life 


~ unknown 

Just one decision. 

You just need to want whatever it is bad enough. Tired of the silent treatment? Ditch pride and say sorry. Want to go on holiday, ditch procrastination and save at that moment. Want to lose weigh? Ditch that chocolate and start eating right and excersing. 

I think we get so overwhelmed in certain aspects of our lives that we forget we have choices, we come up with tons of excuses as to why we can’t do the certain things that we want but it’s just that, excuses. It’s fear subconsciously stepping in giving us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t because we’re scared of the unknown.

I’m a firm believer of, if you really want something, you can go out and get it! We sometimes always look for the quick fix, but nothing that’s worth is ever easy!

So remember : You always have a choice (: 

Isn’t this quote so thought provoking? 

Love and light from just an ordinary girl ❤️

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#QOTD #41

” The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home”

~ Confusius ( doesn’t seem confused to me 🙈)

I know I say this about every quote I publish, but I love this quote! 

What is integrity? 


To me, integrity is doing the right thing when nobody’s watching, it is doing what needs to be done based on principle and not on personal gain.

You agree? (Feel free to drop a comment and tell what it means to you.)

If we look around, how strong are our nations? I can tell you that mine is losing the trust of its people as the days go by. We’re constantly hearing of the bribery, fraud and corruption that’s going on in and with our government. The number of married people having affairs are on the rise. Kids are being kidnapped, cars are being hijacked, people are being killed for what’s rightfully theirs. Businesses are overcharging and under delivering. Service in general is just on the decrease.

If we all practice integrity and Inturn teach our young and loved ones by our actions, people would be doing the right thing always or atleast most of the time. We wouldn’t have as much of the stresses that we’re facing today and life would just have one less thing to deal with.


Whilst it would be rather utopian to think this is as simple as night and day, as we know the devil is a liar and is always lurking around,  I believe we can reduce this significantly and just like everything else, it starts with you and I.

So let’s do the right thing always, let’s do what’s fair based on principle and not on personal gain. Not only will we strengthen our nation, but God will be pleased with us as well! 

♥️ and 💡🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #37

Be that flower that gives it’s fragrance to even the hand that crushes it 

~ Islamic proverb 

We’ve all been hurt or betrayed at some point in our lives and in many cases, it’s often by those we love the most. I chose this quote because it brings through the essence of forgiveness so beautifully. 

Forgiveness is not a feeling. It’s a choice we make everyday, choosing peace and making a conscious effort to let go of painful burdens and anger. 

It’s a choice we make to clear our hearts of all things ill to make place for all things good; love and light. 

We often read or hear folk say that forgiveness is more for us than it is for the person or people we’re forgiving and I call truth! 

Here’s why:

Choosing to forgive someone is not an act of weakness, if anything, it is courage and strength personified! 

We don’t forgive a person because they necessarily deserve it but rather because we deserve the peace. Let that sink in for a second.

… We know how hurtful situations can literally drain a person; mentally , physically and emotionally! But in saying that, they often force us to realize just how strong we are and I reckon peace is something we definitely deserve after such ordeals.

We should never forget that even when we’re crushed, we still have purpose, like the crushed flower that can still provide fragrance; something pleasant, something refreshing, something…delightful!
When somebody does something hurtful or bad to us, it’s a reflection of them and not of us. It’s essential for us to understand and remember this.


So I say, Be that flower, bloom beautifully, be crushed and let the world smell your scent. Then, make your come back and grow again.

Life is a journey, filled with ups and downs…let’s embrace it all and let’s choose to forgive along the way. Life is way too short to be festering feelings of anger, hurt, pain and suffering.

Make that choice (: 

All images courtesy of google and Pinterest.

✌🏼 |♥️|😃🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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Woman: which one are you? 

So today, I’m sharing a quote that came to me whilst I was writing this post. I’ve been seeing the behavior of some women outchea together with doing some self reflection and that got me 💭. So here it goes…

If you know me, you’d know that I am all about empowering people, women especially. I believe us women are Devine species, we have power. We birth nations. We subtle yet fierce. We are plan makers. We’re strong, both emotionally and physically. We endure with a smile and well the list of how awesome I think we are can go on for days.


We often are quick to call out men and deem them trash, some of whom rightly deserve such tags. But let me tell you about the two kinds of women on this earth because honestly, some of us are beneath trash!

You get the woman who knows her power, she knows that she can do what men can do, but chooses not to because she knows that her Devine purpose was not to be like men. She knows that her devine purpose is to be something more powerful; support, companionship, compassion, fierce, teachers of the home, of the nation!

What she does, she knows that nobody, not even men can do. She knows that men have a purpose and so do women and so she’s only concerned with being the best she can be in fulfilling that purpose. (I aspire to be just like this)

Then you get the woman who THINKS she knows her power and Inturn misuses it. The one who judges and looks down upon her fellow sisters, the one who is more consumed with being in competition for worldly things than actually getting her eish in order. The one who is arrogant and feels like the world owes her. The one who will encourage ruthless behavior just to prove a point to validate herself. ( I’m guilty of some of these things, I never encourage ruthless behavior and I don’t compete though!) 

Women can destroy, as easily as they can build nations. 

~ me


We will never be equal to men because then we’d need to be compared to them and really! There’s no comparison.
Men were put on this earth to carry out their own set of purposes; head their homes, provide for their families,  Protect their loved ones, Persue their person of honour etc. It really wouldn’t be fair to compare! 

If we can just go back to the basics (of understanding men and women were put on this earth for different purposes) for a second, lots of things can be changed. It’s effects can be powerful. 

If we can raise women who know their power as opposed to thinking they know their power or misusing it, things like affairs, divorces, broken homes etc. will minimize. If we go back to being okay with what our sole purpose is, and force men into fulfilling what they’ve been put on this earth to do (by not settling for less) we would not have the repercussions of kids acting out coz their fathers are nowhere to be seen. Abuse to women and children will minimize and the world will just be a more respectful place to live in.  Utopian you may say? I say say it starts with you and I. 

Imagine, all this lies in the power of a woman and the choice of how she will use her God-given power. 

And no honey, God will never send you somebody else’s husband. Having an affair should not give your airs and graces about yourself. You should not feel like you’ve “won” because men aren’t prizes, and your fellow women are not your enemies. Also, gaining anything in this world on anything but merit should not make you feel proud. 

Always think, if what you do to others were to be done unto you, how would you feel. If it’s not good, you know what to do.

|Love yourself |respect yourself |Own your power |Go!


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Who am I?

My name is Tasneem Amos and I  am a twenty something year old female from Durban, South Africa.

I am currently a Client Relationship Manager at one of the leading medical insurance groups in South Africa and am a soon-to-be student, hoping to get my BA in communication science.

I enjoy reading, writing, blogging, cooking and baking, listening to music, socializing, public speaking, hanging out with friends and family and trying new things. I’m drawn to anything that allows me to express myself artistically.

I am an aspiring author and blogger, I’ve been blogging for about two years but really only got INTO it recently. I would love to one day do a photography course just for hobby sake.

I was married and now divorced and lost my son at birth four years ago. This actually inspired me to start writing and has helped me in my healing process. I write when I’m sad, angry, happy or even confused.

The  purpose of my blog is to write about things that affect normal folk like myself, whether it’s about  love, life, beauty, music, work etc.

it’s a place where we don’t judge, we own our flaws and do not conform to the sometimes absurd norms of society. We focus on the little things that can make one happy and appreciative.

I would love you to join me on my journey to self discovery through me blogging. I’ve signed up for blogging courses and this piece about myself was the first assignment to put out (:

So welcome, that’s pretty much all to know about me. I’m human, I make mistakes, I cry then laugh. I’m moody, I’m colourful, I’m me (:

a wonderful Wednesday to you all.

a truthful post from just an ordinary girl