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Ladies only: My journey with abnormal uterine bleeding

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged here. Being in a very confusing and overwhelming state and my health taking a knock, I honestly haven’t had much gumption for anything besides sleep.

Many of you who know me, know that for the past two years, I’ve been battling abnormal uterine bleeding. This post is me documenting my journey with this in hope to offer support to others who are battling the same thing and to get support, tips and tricks from others as well. So here it goes.

My journey!

In 2018, I was admitted twice, by two different gynae’s for abnormal uterine bleeding and discharged without an actual diagnosis. I was treated for the bleeding and it was stopped, all scans and tests came back normal and I was told stress and a bad diet can lead to hormonal imbalances, which is the secondary cause of most cases of uterine bleeding. I instructed to lose some weight and all will be fine and was put on the pill (Marvelon) for a few months and was told all should be sorted. I will admit, my weight has been up and down and I haven’t spent much time focusing on losing weight. It might be an excuse but might I add, the previous Gynae didn’t pin it down to weight loss because he said he’d treated and delivered babies for patients heavier than me.

For a couple of months after that I was fine. Period was regular and hey, the cloud over my head was disappearing…but not for long. Soon after, 1 period lead from one week, to one month to three. The bleeding would then suddenly stop. Then I’d go months without bleeding or getting a period and then the cycle would start all over again.

This has been going on for about two years. I know there are many women who can relate. It’s amazing when you reach out and only then do you hear and come to know of so many women going through this. It isn’t easy to deal with this. Physically, mentally and psychologically. It is draining. We will keep that post ( the emotional roller coaster for another post).

To date I’ve been bleeding heavily for months. About a month ago I visited my GP who gave me medication to stop the bleeding and started me on the pill again (Marvelon). For the first week, the bleeding had stopped, goodness was I relieved but then Aunty Susie and her cousins had withdrawal symptoms and just needed to visit again. Yeap, the bleeding started again, even whilst being on the pill. Just this time is was coupled with the most severe cramps I have ever experienced. If I could compare it, it would def fit the description of a contraction. The heaviness of the pelvic area, the wave of excruciating pain and a sharper pain over the left ovary and my lower back region. This got me really worried.

With all things COVID and the financial burdens it has added on many of our shoulders, seeing a gynae was going to to harden the blow. Nothing less than R1000 for a consult plus whatever meds they were going to prescribe, which I was certain would include something to stop the bleeding, very expensive pills, and another batch of contraceptives, iron supplements and who knows what else.

I decided to research homeopathy instead. Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of feeding my body something synthetic to do what it is naturally supposed to do. So I was never a fan of any form of contraceptive. I’ve always gravitated to all things natural, from oil mixtures for my hair, to making home treatments for my face, the flu, green juices etc. I figured I have nothing to lose by just trying a more natural approach since the more conventional medicine routine didn’t help much.

I googled and found Dr Farzana Hansa based in Musgrave Durban and decided to visit. I was so impressed by her, she just had a wonderful aura and energy. I felt so calm around her. She was really concerned by how long I’d been bleeding for and made a concerted effort to create a time line for me, from family history of illnesses, to my illnesses, to physical concerns from head to toe, to emotional and mental check ins. As a side note I have been under an immense amount of stress from both my work and personal life. To the point where I find it difficult to just cope and manage. I feel so overwhelmed and to still be battling health issues…it becomes much even for strong people like myself. I had divulged all of this to her, including the loss of Mikail, the step admissions I mentioned earlier and all of my chronic illness etc. she even asked for medication intake frequently.

She started me on a regime to try to balance out the hormones and to manage the anxiety and stress. She prescribed 30 drops Ashwaghanda and Rhodliola drops with 30 drops of chasteberry drops in a 1/4 glass of water morning and evening. 5 drops of vitamin D drops every morning under the tongue and my very first homeopathic treatment called calc carb, to help with and manage the stress and moods and that’s 5 drops under the tongue every evening. All this with a probiotic, omega 3 and iron supplement.

My natural medicine regimen

She made me feel hopeful again as she said that there are lots of natural remedies to try but started off with this to see if it works. I am day 4 into the regime and have a check in with her next Friday. Let’s cross fingers and hope the bleeding calms. I have noticed a better quality of my sleep from day 2 but to date, the bleeding is still very heavy. The cramps however, are not as frequent and not as intense. For the four bottles of treatment ( Ashwagandha, Chasteberry, Vit D and the Calc Carb, I already had the other stuff, so she suggested to finish that off) with the consult, my bill was R1 045.00. Compared to what I would’ve paid had I visited a gynae. I was chuffed.

This is where I am at on my journey. I had an idea to try and document each milestone or encounter and really hope this may some how offer support to anyone else going through this. I know how lonely it gets going through this. Just know you are not alone and any other woman reading this, if you know if someone battling this, please make a concerted effort to check in with her every now and then, send anything like a positive message or upbeat song, to uplift a mood. Most often than not, just those small things helps us get through the day on some of our worst days.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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DFH #66

Dear future husband,

I may have mentioned this before but I feel I need to mention it again:

Love God

Love yourself

and then come and love me.

I want all of you, the best of you. I don’t want pieces of you. Prepare yourself to be great in the eyes of God so that you can be great for me. I promise that I am doing the same.

Love,

Your future wife.

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#QOTD #44

It’s been a while since I’ve posted …3 whole days to be precise! What a trying week! 😭

A friend of mine shared this quote with me; such a simple, yet such a profound quote and I had to share it with you all.

 It goes:

You are always one decision away from a totally different life 


~ unknown 

Just one decision. 

You just need to want whatever it is bad enough. Tired of the silent treatment? Ditch pride and say sorry. Want to go on holiday, ditch procrastination and save at that moment. Want to lose weigh? Ditch that chocolate and start eating right and excersing. 

I think we get so overwhelmed in certain aspects of our lives that we forget we have choices, we come up with tons of excuses as to why we can’t do the certain things that we want but it’s just that, excuses. It’s fear subconsciously stepping in giving us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t because we’re scared of the unknown.

I’m a firm believer of, if you really want something, you can go out and get it! We sometimes always look for the quick fix, but nothing that’s worth is ever easy!

So remember : You always have a choice (: 

Isn’t this quote so thought provoking? 

Love and light from just an ordinary girl ❤️

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#QOTD #41

” The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home”

~ Confusius ( doesn’t seem confused to me 🙈)

I know I say this about every quote I publish, but I love this quote! 

What is integrity? 


To me, integrity is doing the right thing when nobody’s watching, it is doing what needs to be done based on principle and not on personal gain.

You agree? (Feel free to drop a comment and tell what it means to you.)

If we look around, how strong are our nations? I can tell you that mine is losing the trust of its people as the days go by. We’re constantly hearing of the bribery, fraud and corruption that’s going on in and with our government. The number of married people having affairs are on the rise. Kids are being kidnapped, cars are being hijacked, people are being killed for what’s rightfully theirs. Businesses are overcharging and under delivering. Service in general is just on the decrease.

If we all practice integrity and Inturn teach our young and loved ones by our actions, people would be doing the right thing always or atleast most of the time. We wouldn’t have as much of the stresses that we’re facing today and life would just have one less thing to deal with.


Whilst it would be rather utopian to think this is as simple as night and day, as we know the devil is a liar and is always lurking around,  I believe we can reduce this significantly and just like everything else, it starts with you and I.

So let’s do the right thing always, let’s do what’s fair based on principle and not on personal gain. Not only will we strengthen our nation, but God will be pleased with us as well! 

♥️ and 💡🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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He 


He inspires me to write,Leads me to light ,

Although we may sometimes fight And thats all Thanks to the distance between us’ might.

He inspires me to love.

To let go and soar, like the beautiful white dove, to spread my wings and go Up up and above. 

He gets me, feels me, believes in me. He confuses me, challenges me, and sometimes peeves me. He secures me, assures me and respects me. He makes me laugh, he gives me hope. kisses my forward. He makes an effort and holds my hand. He cares for me. 

He is my kind of perfect. 
He. The creation of God himself. Talented, young and full of aspiring goals. He. The son of beautiful parents, and brother to his diverse siblings. He. The well known and well received guy. He, the guy with the colorful friends. He, I now get to call my person of honour. 

I, am not perfect, I’m not always kind. I get scared and I sometimes cry. I get angry and I curse out , sometimes without any reason or without any doubt. I get defensive, I’m scared of being hurt. I’m not always patient or understanding but I’m human. And he. He gets that.

He is love and light personified. He is my blessing in disguise. He is the closest thing to real I see when I look around. He is amazing even when he’s moody or emotional or imperfect but He, he is mine and I am his. 

He. He is…. #PS and I? I love him 

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#QOTD #15


I’ve recently been diagnosed with bronchitis ( bleh! ) and have overally been in a very difficult space. 

This been regarding my goals and projects that  I’m supposed to have wrapped up but haven’t started yet 🙈 I’m holding on to the last thread of hope. 

That been said,  it really isn’t easy to keep looking for the positives when you’re mostly surrounded by everything negative and also when you feel like you’ve been working your behind off but it’s like the odds are against you. It feels  like you’re almost destined to fail. Yeah? I’ve been through this before and feel like I’m back in this space again. 

I came across a quote this morning and goodness, doesn’t it make sense?

In order for the light to shine so brightly, the darkness must be present.

Francis Bacon

This is so true. You can’t shine ever so brightly when everything around you is well lit. ( when all is going right in your life)

The darkness is an opportunity for us to showcase exactly how determined we are. To show exactly how strong we are and our how much capabilities we have.

I skipped a day or two of the #QOTD due to me just not feeling well. But this really uplifted me and is one I will write down and pin to my desk, Making it a constant reminder to keep persevering.

I needed to share it with you! 

Happy Thursday everybody, you’re almost there.


Love and light, from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #4

Having started a new relationship recently and celebrating my cousins wedding. This quote is my inspiration today and one which I thrive to be like.

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.

~ The inspirational Maya Angelou


May we all travel this journey and reach our destination of hope by the will and permission of the almighty.

Love and light always.

TayBreezy 

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Dear God …💔

I know that everything happens by your will and I know not to question you. But sometimes I just can’t fathom why some things happen.

This evening I read a story of a mom who lost her son, it brought back all of the emotions that I had when I lost Mika’il and it was at this moment that I knew I probably will never get over losing my son. I write when I’m emotional so if this doesn’t make any sense, please pardon me.

I sit writing this with a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes, I’ve finally faced completing miks baby book. Something I’ve been putting on hold for years. 

Pages from Miks book ❤

I sometimes feel ungrateful when I think of him and cry becAuse you (God) have blessed me in so many ways and i now know just how much you believe in me putting me through all of this and knowing that I will make it through , I’m only saying this because if you knew I wouldn’t make it you wouldn’t have let this happen right? 

I’m sitting here looking at all his ultrasound pictures. My heart is literally breaking into a million pieces yet I am still and remembering all of the logical things to tell myself but I want nothing more than to just punch a wall , or scream and to just break down but then in the same breath I think “what difference would it make” speak about mixed emotions. Is this normal ? What is normal about this God? Is there a “way” us moms supposed to deal with this? I tried forgetting and blocking it all out but that clearly hasn’t helped; I’m sitting here three years later feeling all the pain once again. 

Wouldn’t looking at these make you feel the same way? 

Miks foot print ❤️
Mik sucking his thumb
Facing the 🎥 for mum
Him resting in peace 💔

Mums who have lost their kids, I don’t know your story and can’t tell you how brave you are if you’re still here reading this; the strength that is you. I still to this day only wonder what he would be like, who he would look like, what his favourite food would have been or where his favourite place to visit would be. I still wonder , till this day, what his favorite toy would have been or how he would look when he just wakes up or what his favourite pjs would be. I still wonder how my life would have been if he were still here. I still wonder.

I can’t tell you what has helped me cope or that things will get better because I’ve pretty much winged getting through these passed three years. 

I can however, tell you that God has faith in you if he is trusting you with this burden. He knows you’re stronger than you think you are. 

I can also tell you that you’re courageous. It’s a pain I don’t think anybody can describe and to beable to just live through day by day takes a hell of a lot.

Dear God , bless the very many mums and dads who have witnessed the loss of their kids. Strengthen them and be their peace. Amen 🙏🏼 

An emotional post 

From just an ordinary mum 

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#DFH #15

Dear future husband,

It’s been a hella long day. It’s days like these that I wish I were coming home to you, your warm smile and safe arms.

I look forward to us coming home from work, cooking together, eating together, having our cups of tea and chatting about our day together. Then finally reading our evening prayers together.

I will make every effort to be as involved and present in our relationship as I possibly can. 

Awaiting you patiently, 

Your future wife ❤️