” The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home”
~ Confusius ( doesn’t seem confused to me 🙈)
I know I say this about every quote I publish, but I love this quote!
What is integrity?
To me, integrity is doing the right thing when nobody’s watching, it is doing what needs to be done based on principle and not on personal gain.
You agree? (Feel free to drop a comment and tell what it means to you.)
If we look around, how strong are our nations? I can tell you that mine is losing the trust of its people as the days go by. We’re constantly hearing of the bribery, fraud and corruption that’s going on in and with our government. The number of married people having affairs are on the rise. Kids are being kidnapped, cars are being hijacked, people are being killed for what’s rightfully theirs. Businesses are overcharging and under delivering. Service in general is just on the decrease.
If we all practice integrity and Inturn teach our young and loved ones by our actions, people would be doing the right thing always or atleast most of the time. We wouldn’t have as much of the stresses that we’re facing today and life would just have one less thing to deal with.
Whilst it would be rather utopian to think this is as simple as night and day, as we know the devil is a liar and is always lurking around, I believe we can reduce this significantly and just like everything else, it starts with you and I.
So let’s do the right thing always, let’s do what’s fair based on principle and not on personal gain. Not only will we strengthen our nation, but God will be pleased with us as well!
Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss in life is what dies inside us while we live.
~ Norman Cousins
Death. A topic none of us, well atleast many of us don’t like to speak about, even though, to me, it should be discussed a lot more.
With the world we live in, it’s so easy to get consumed and to forget that this life is temporary, it’s just a test. This life was never meant to be permanent.
This quote resonated so well with me because death is something guaranteed, it’s something we should expect right? Therefore, it cannot be the greatest “loss” of life because in many cases when you lose something, it’s unexpected, you have no warning that you’re going to lose it.
The greatest loss is indeed one where we have the capacity to do what we love and what’s required of us but we don’t, for whatever reason that may be. The greatest loss is losing our heart, or our fire; that passion that we was once had. We lose our mark and become a thing just existing day after day.
We lose sight of the career goals we once dreamed of. We lose sight of the essence of family and friends and true relations. We lose the kid in us, we forget how to see fun, colour and happiness in everything that we do. We forget the importance of God and our religious and spiritual obligation, we lose our humanity and moral obligations. We get consumed with things that really don’t matter.
Why? Isn’t that the greatest loss because we have the time, we have the gift of life. We have the opportunity.
It needs to all change.
Let’s use our time on this earth to fulfill all of our religious and spiritual obligations and our hearts desires. So that one day when we pass, we would be remembered for just that.
Life is all about balance, so whilst it’s ok to lose our spark sometime, it’s equally important to reignite that spark again.
Don’t let that die whilst you’re still alive. If anything, help be the match that reignites the spark back in somebody else. Be purposeful.
May we all strive harder to reignite that spark within and to leave our mark on this earth.
♥️ and 💡🌈 and a random 💭 from just an ordinary girl
A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way
Whilst there’s many dads who are non existent, today we celebrate the fathers who are present in their kids lives, the ones that go far and beyond to do and be better.
Today I celebrate my father who is my guiding light. I started writing this post late lastnight, my dad wasn’t home yet, neither was he out with his friends. He was busy worshiping our creator at the mosque…at that time! I knew that I needed to finish this post as a small token of honour and appreciation.
You see my father is the best, I know it may seem biased because all girls are generally for their dads and all think that their fathers are the best, rightfully so.
But here’s why I say mine is. My father is the perfect example of what a Muslim should be; flaw-filled but always striving to do and be better in terms of character.
As old as I am, he still is my provider, my protector, my counselor, my confidant, my therapist, my guide, my example, my teacher. He still is my favourite soccer player, my movie date partner and sometimes my frenemy.
He is so bold yet so humble, my dad does tons of community work in our area. He makes time to visit and look after the elders in our community and also has such a playful yet impactful relationship with the youth. He makes me strive to do to more for others… what better example could I possibly need?
He literally makes lives easier, during the week he will clean and do our washing, he will go out of his way to ensure that he’s family is always #1, that we’re comfortable and happy even if it may tire him.
He is so fit 🙈at 53 he still plays soccer every Saturday and trains during the week ( this is one thing I could not follow suite with hahahah)
My fathers dedication to his faith is one of the most admirable things about him, he ensures he answers the call to prayer 5times a day, at his age, he is still learning to read Arabic and still attends madressa to learn more. God is really the greatest!
He is the perfect grand dad to my nieces , takes time to do the little things that make their little hearts happy, be it tickles, movies, outings etc.
He tries his best To honour my mother and that is such a beautiful thing to witness! Because she is a queen and he knows that. Witnessing him love and respect and honour her is a perfect example to us as his daughters because we know what not to settle for.
He is just an all round amazing dad and if he knew I published this, it would probably upset him because he’s that humble in all he does. I always get told after taking a picture of him “don’t put that on FACEBUCK” 🤣Yeap technology and him aren’t friends! #bless
So Daddy, words will never be able to thank you enough for the role you play in my life. Always there to push me when I’m struggling and there to catch me when I’m about to fall.
You are a Muslim personified, you teach me that it’s ok not to be perfect but that I should always persevere to be better in character for the sake of my creator and nobody else.
You teach me that I should want for my brother and neighbors all that I want for myself. You teach me that helping others is an obligation and not just a thing to do. You teach me to have courage and stand for what’s right even when it may not be fruitful and you teach me to be kind.
May the almighty bless you with a long , happy and healthy life so that you can continue doing the amazing work that you so wonderfully do, may he make it so that one day I could be nearly as impactful as you are inshallah ( by the will and permission of Allah). May all your hearts desires be fulfilled because I know they’re all pure. May Allah always be your guide and may he always help you with every difficulty you face. Aaameen
Happy daddy’s day to all the amazing dads out there! We need you.
Love, light and appreciation from just an ordinary girl
So today, I’m sharing a quote that came to me whilst I was writing this post. I’ve been seeing the behavior of some women outchea together with doing some self reflection and that got me 💭. So here it goes…
If you know me, you’d know that I am all about empowering people, women especially. I believe us women are Devine species, we have power. We birth nations. We subtle yet fierce. We are plan makers. We’re strong, both emotionally and physically. We endure with a smile and well the list of how awesome I think we are can go on for days.
We often are quick to call out men and deem them trash, some of whom rightly deserve such tags. But let me tell you about the two kinds of women on this earth because honestly, some of us are beneath trash!
You get the woman who knows her power, she knows that she can do what men can do, but chooses not to because she knows that her Devine purpose was not to be like men. She knows that her devine purpose is to be something more powerful; support, companionship, compassion, fierce, teachers of the home, of the nation!
What she does, she knows that nobody, not even men can do. She knows that men have a purpose and so do women and so she’s only concerned with being the best she can be in fulfilling that purpose. (I aspire to be just like this)
Then you get the woman who THINKS she knows her power and Inturn misuses it. The one who judges and looks down upon her fellow sisters, the one who is more consumed with being in competition for worldly things than actually getting her eish in order. The one who is arrogant and feels like the world owes her. The one who will encourage ruthless behavior just to prove a point to validate herself. ( I’m guilty of some of these things, I never encourage ruthless behavior and I don’t compete though!)
Women can destroy, as easily as they can build nations.
We will never be equal to men because then we’d need to be compared to them and really! There’s no comparison.
Men were put on this earth to carry out their own set of purposes; head their homes, provide for their families, Protect their loved ones, Persue their person of honour etc. It really wouldn’t be fair to compare!
If we can just go back to the basics (of understanding men and women were put on this earth for different purposes) for a second, lots of things can be changed. It’s effects can be powerful.
If we can raise women who know their power as opposed to thinking they know their power or misusing it, things like affairs, divorces, broken homes etc. will minimize. If we go back to being okay with what our sole purpose is, and force men into fulfilling what they’ve been put on this earth to do (by not settling for less) we would not have the repercussions of kids acting out coz their fathers are nowhere to be seen. Abuse to women and children will minimize and the world will just be a more respectful place to live in. Utopian you may say? I say say it starts with you and I.
Imagine, all this lies in the power of a woman and the choice of how she will use her God-given power.
And no honey, God will never send you somebody else’s husband. Having an affair should not give your airs and graces about yourself. You should not feel like you’ve “won” because men aren’t prizes, and your fellow women are not your enemies. Also, gaining anything in this world on anything but merit should not make you feel proud.
Always think, if what you do to others were to be done unto you, how would you feel. If it’s not good, you know what to do.
|Love yourself |respect yourself |Own your power |Go!
” The first reaction to any calamity, should be patience.”
– Prophet Muhammed (May peace and blessings be upon him)
I believe that a calamity can be anything difficult that you’re facing; an argument, anger issues, loss of a job or loved one, car accident, health issues etc.
I chose this as the quote of the day because this is something I need to work on, patience. I’ve been getting it right on a few occasions and then the rest, the savage, dramatic coloured in me gets resurrected and well yeah, things don’t end well. So I definitely need to practice this more. I came across this quote and I knew that I needed to share this with you all because I feel it’s something that we all could use or practice more of.
Through the spiritual journey that I am embarking on, I’ve learnt that patience is a virtue indeed. I once read that a moment of patience in a moment of anger can save you a hundred moments of regrets, for a word spoken can never be taken back.
This resonates well with me as I was once extremely tempremental. But, by the almighty’s will and permission, I’m working progress 🙂 and it feels good, you actually feel a sense of power when you can control your emotion towards the difficulty that you may be facing.
So, the next time anything difficult strikes, remember that God is well aware of all that happens and then be patient, he knows what’s best for us.
Although we may sometimes fight And thats all Thanks to the distance between us’ might.
He inspires me to love.
To let go and soar, like the beautiful white dove, to spread my wings and go Up up and above.
He gets me, feels me, believes in me. He confuses me, challenges me, and sometimes peeves me. He secures me, assures me and respects me. He makes me laugh, he gives me hope. kisses my forward. He makes an effort and holds my hand. He cares for me.
He is my kind of perfect.
He. The creation of God himself. Talented, young and full of aspiring goals. He. The son of beautiful parents, and brother to his diverse siblings. He. The well known and well received guy. He, the guy with the colorful friends. He, I now get to call my person of honour.
I, am not perfect, I’m not always kind. I get scared and I sometimes cry. I get angry and I curse out , sometimes without any reason or without any doubt. I get defensive, I’m scared of being hurt. I’m not always patient or understanding but I’m human. And he. He gets that.
He is love and light personified. He is my blessing in disguise. He is the closest thing to real I see when I look around. He is amazing even when he’s moody or emotional or imperfect but He, he is mine and I am his.
What a trying week; preparations for Ramadan, work, work and more work and then having the flu barging in and unannounced. Yeah, yeah (: I know, it could be loads worse!
So listen. Today’s quote was one that reminded me of a sentiment I hold quite dear. I firmly believe that in order to be empowered, you need to empower. Almost like the “be the change you want to see” kind of vibe.
Through every interaction, this is what I strive to do. Believe me when I say, that I don’t always get it right because human nature can sometimes spark the judgemental side I’ve been trying to put to rest lol. But nevertheless, I mostly get it right. (I think🙈)
One of my all time favourite poets/ author once said:
If you get, give. If you learn, teach.
You guessed it (:
~ THE Maya Angelou.
Such a simple concept that is widely underestimated! And I simply love it.
I mean, what could you possibly lose by giving what you got or teaching what you’ve learnt?
…Scared someone else may get that job or that they may know or be liked more than you? I suppose I can understand however, when you know that God has a special plan just for you, you kinda just chill hey!
You know that no matter what anybody tries to do or say or that what anybody doesn’t do or say, it will come to you if it’s meant for you. That should be enough for us. Knowing that God has a plan.
So I say: Don’t be selfish! Give what you got and share your knowledge even it’s just for the sake of being a force for social good. Be the person that people know they go to when in need because they confidently trust that if you can, you will help. I’m striving to be that person; the one who gives unconditionally and not only when it suites them.
Instead of throwing shade, talking down upon or about others and just being negative, let’s invest that energy in empowering, giving, teaching and sharing 🙂 I mean, Barney ( yes, the purple dinosaur) did say “sharing is caring” right 😃
I don’t call it #thoughtfulthursday for nothing.
May peace and blessings be upon each of you always and may we continue to spread love and light.