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DFH #66

Dear future husband,

I may have mentioned this before but I feel I need to mention it again:

Love God

Love yourself

and then come and love me.

I want all of you, the best of you. I don’t want pieces of you. Prepare yourself to be great in the eyes of God so that you can be great for me. I promise that I am doing the same.

Love,

Your future wife.

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Break the mediocre cycle. Let 2018 be your year!

 

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2018! Hello you beautiful thing. It is well underway and has already showed most of us, what it has in store.

First post of of the year!!! Before we continue, let me take this opportunity to wish everybody who comes across this post, a prosperous and happy New Year! 2000 and greateen ( as called on social media) is the year to prepare for BIG things. It’s the year to work hard and push boundaries. It is the year to visit those goals and places we’ve allowed ourselves to think are too big for us to achieve, and its time to achieve them. Can I get an aameen! #LOL

So a couple of weeks ago I drafted a blog post regarding self-development and what an important role self-reflection plays in the development of one’s self.

I researched, compiled and summarized some of the pointers that appealed to me and today, the post was shared at work. To be honest? I even forgot I submitted it to be published but it was just what I needed to read and after such brilliant feedback from colleague’s who have read it,  I felt obliged to share it here. And so here it goes:

“I need to lose weight”, “I need to start studying”, “I need to get promotedI need to be more spiritual”… doesn’t this sound like many of us around New Years?

We are always so hyped up when we’re setting our New Year resolutions and then stuff happens in the year and before we know it, its New Year’s all over again. #bummer

An integral part of self-development is being able to reflect on the goals we’ve once set and then to look at the choices and actions taken to achieve those goals.

Self-reflection assists us in identifying and resolving inner conflict and “road-blocks” that may be preventing us from achieving our goals.
Sounds over-whelming right? I know. But it really is only to better ourselves and to push our boundaries, so that we can be the best version of ourselves, always.

It is important that we identify inner conflicts or road-blocks that prevent us from reaching our goals, so that we can work on finding solutions to move passed them. Examples of inner-conflicts or road-blocks could be a fear, past experiences, your mind-set or even the company you keep.

Below are 5 simple steps that can help you identify your inner conflicts and find solutions to overcome them.

1. De-clutter your space

Think of a dirty mirror, you will barely be able to see any reflections when looking at it, similarly, if your mind and surroundings are cluttered, you will not be able to effectively self-reflect. Simple actions like switching off the TV, leaving your cell phone aside and having a clear mind will assist with de-cluttering your space, thus , enabling you to self-reflect.

2. Ask the right questions

Be honest with yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions you’re really thinking. Stray away from asking “Why” questions as it will allow you to make excuses. Instead, ask “How can I…” questions, these are focused at being pro-active and solution-driven. Examples of appropriate questions to ask are: “ How can I make time to exercise” as opposed to “Why am I not exercising” and “How can I get promoted” as opposed to “Why am I not promoted yet”.
3. Be 100% truthful when answering your questions

Be as truthful and literal as you can. Do not let the opinions or beliefs of others, conflict your opinions or your beliefs or allow you to make excuses for why it can’t be done or why you haven’t done it yet. Example: If studying is a goal you’ve wanted to achieve, don’t let the opinions of others about the application process, put you off from applying. Similarly, if weight loss is a goal of yours, don’t be okay with “take-out once a week won’t hurt right?” It’s all about being truthful and being disciplined.
4. Attain clarity – Analyze the answers to your personal questions and come to a solution

Write down the answers to your questions and when you get the “aha, this is it” moment, make a note of it. This will be the constant reminder and goal that you will set. Example: Question: “How can I be more active, ” Answer: “ wake up 30 minutes earlier every day and do Zumba”. Your answer will be your solution.
5. Commit

Once you and self has come to a solution or plan of action to reach your goals, commit to it. This really is the only way of achieving them. There’s no luck when it comes to success. It is all hard work and determination. As the self-motivation guru, Robin Sharma would say: “change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end”.
In the wise words of Dr Paul T P Wong: “Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted – it is an intimate date with yourself.

So come on, go on that intimate date with self. Out with mediocre and settling

It’s time to be legendary. It starts with you.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl. ♥♥♥

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#QOTD #49

Been having a particularly tough time managing my stresses, especially at work. Generally, positive thinking is what I do, it’s my natural approach to anything I face. 

However, of late it’s becoming more and more difficult for me to do. This is a very dangerous space to be in, especially for me because I’ve worked so hard to get out of a verg negative era of my life. 

So amongst other things, I’ve been perusing online in hope to come across something that would spark some sought of positivity within… 

Bubblegum characters always lighten up my soul

… to shed some light in what seems to be a very dark space, I came across these bubblegum figures and this quote: (God bless the written word and the writers who write them)

” The darkest hour has only 60 minutes “

~ Morris Mandel 

Right?! 

This quote got me pondering instantly. It reassured me that nothing in this life time is ever permanent and that even dark times have their expiry dates. #aameen

I remember reading that actions derive from thoughts. This stuck with me and will continue to stick with me as I journey through this thing called life. 

This is why, when I think about more negative than positive things, I frantically search for something, anything, just to change my thought process.

I think it’s essential that we do this before we get consumed. Seems like this quote and my bubble gang are  my life lines for today, tomorrow shall see for itself.


♥️ and 🌈 from just an ordinary stressed out girl! 

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#QOTD #48

I got this random message from one of my closest girlfriends the other morning and it just made me realize how important it is for one to choose the people they keep around them. This message literally brightened up my whole day.



Tonight, I got invited by another close girl friend of mine to attend a fundraiser for such an amazing organization. I’m busy working on doing some research on this phenomenal org and will definitely be sharing it with you all. The night comprised local and international acts of singing, poetry and comedy. All in the name of encouraging normal folk like you and I to get involved do our part in making our community a better place to live and grow in. But I will dedicate an entire post to giving the 411 on this amazing org.

Moving along, These two gestures from my girlfriends have inspired the quote of today:

Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company

~ Booker T Washington 

I absolutely agree. 

You are, who you hang around with and that’s a fact.

We often hear the old folk say : if you lie with dogs, you bound to wake up with fleas. They knew what they were talking about. 

I’ve got a lot of wrongs to right, but one thing I’ve always been blessed with, is my support structure. My circle of real friends has grown significantly smaller over the years, but the bond between my friends and I, has grown so much stronger. 

We are each other’s strength, courage, sight, logic, comic, sister, stylist, driver, shrink, cheer leader, confidence, entertainment and even a target. The beauty lies in that even when we make each other so mad, when it comes to the wire, we don’t  have to question who will be there and who wouldn’t. 

These are the people we need in our lives, the ones who we can love when they’re down and when they’re up and the ones who can love us at our worst through to us being our best. 

Your friends should ultimately push you to be and do better. And I can confidently say that mine do all of the above, even when I’m stubborn as a Muel. 

So on that note, let’s take some time  to reflect on the people we deem close to us. Let’s look at the character of the people we call friends pay more attention to those whom we let into our circle. It may seem trivial, but it is so important.


❤️and 🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #44

It’s been a while since I’ve posted …3 whole days to be precise! What a trying week! 😭

A friend of mine shared this quote with me; such a simple, yet such a profound quote and I had to share it with you all.

 It goes:

You are always one decision away from a totally different life 


~ unknown 

Just one decision. 

You just need to want whatever it is bad enough. Tired of the silent treatment? Ditch pride and say sorry. Want to go on holiday, ditch procrastination and save at that moment. Want to lose weigh? Ditch that chocolate and start eating right and excersing. 

I think we get so overwhelmed in certain aspects of our lives that we forget we have choices, we come up with tons of excuses as to why we can’t do the certain things that we want but it’s just that, excuses. It’s fear subconsciously stepping in giving us all of the reasons why we shouldn’t because we’re scared of the unknown.

I’m a firm believer of, if you really want something, you can go out and get it! We sometimes always look for the quick fix, but nothing that’s worth is ever easy!

So remember : You always have a choice (: 

Isn’t this quote so thought provoking? 

Love and light from just an ordinary girl ❤️

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#QOTD #40

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss in life is what dies inside us while we live. 

~ Norman Cousins 


Death. A topic none of us, well atleast many of us don’t like to speak about, even though, to me, it should be discussed a lot more. 

With the world we live in, it’s so easy to get consumed and to forget that this life is temporary, it’s just a test. This life was never meant to be permanent. 

This quote resonated so well with me because death is something guaranteed, it’s something we should expect right? Therefore, it cannot be the greatest “loss” of life because in many cases when you lose something, it’s unexpected, you have no warning that you’re going to lose it.

The greatest loss is indeed one where we have the capacity to do what we love and what’s required of us but we don’t, for whatever reason that may be. The greatest loss is losing our heart, or our fire; that passion that we was once had. We lose our mark and become a thing just existing day after day. 

We lose sight of the career goals we once dreamed of. We lose sight of the essence of family and friends and true relations. We lose the kid in us, we forget how to see fun, colour and happiness in everything that we do. We forget the importance of God and our religious and spiritual obligation, we lose our humanity and moral obligations. We get consumed with things that really don’t matter. 

Why? Isn’t that the greatest loss because we have the time, we have the gift of life. We have the opportunity. 

It needs to all change. 


Let’s use our time on this earth to fulfill all of our religious and spiritual obligations and our hearts desires. So that one day when we pass, we would be remembered for just that. 

Life is all about balance, so whilst it’s ok to lose our spark sometime, it’s equally important to reignite that spark again. 

Don’t let that die whilst you’re still alive. If anything, help be the match that reignites the spark back in somebody else. Be purposeful.

May we all strive harder to reignite that spark within and to leave our mark on this earth. 

♥️ and 💡🌈 and a random 💭 from just an ordinary girl 

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Cakeday #March17th

Since Miks passing, I’ve never really celebrated my birthday with our birthdays being so close. So ironic because birthdays  are generally a big thing for me.

I do however, use this day to sit back and reflect on the past year. See what character / religious / career adjustments can be made. Sit and decide what worked for me and what didn’t work for me. This year will be no different.

I didn’t achieve wordly things in the past year. I’m still in the same position career wise, as I was last year. But I did achieve religious and character goals. I’ve put to bed some of the very influential demons in my life. I’ve got the answers I needed and I got to verbally say my truth. Confronted people who needed to be confronted and made an effort to physically remove the drama from my life. I’ve made a conscious effort to stop being such a push over and God did it feel good. I’ve blogged more and started writing my book. I’ve respected my mama more, achieved some weight loss and joined an amazing book club. Trying to do things that actually matter. I’ve also completed a year of mentoring and have successfully entered another year.

I’ve made some religious achievement. I read my Quran most days, previously I’d only read in our fasting month. I’ve worn my scarf more in the last year than I have in the last 5 and I’m working on praying more…..all this bythe almightys mercy and permission. The lesson I’ve learnt in the last year is firstly: 

  • success cannot be measured; by any one or anything. It is subject and you get to control what success means to you.
  • Spiritual/ religious achievements are just as, if not more fulfilling that wordly achievements.
  • How you feel matters!
  • Practice what you preach
  • Not everybody riding with you is willing to die for you, keep your circle small, keep it real

There’s tons of work I need to do for the forthcoming year. Which with the help of God I will do.

I just wanna take a moment to thank Allah, thank him for his unconditional love. For guiding me and protecting me even when I was and am unworthy of it. I want to take the time out to thank our creator for all the favors he has bestowed upon my life. I ask that he make me one of his most sincere and consistent servants. May he continue to bless those around me and help me with the transformations of my character and religious goals that I am aspiring towards. Shukr Allah for your infinite mercies. There really is none worthy of worship but you! 

To my family. Gawsh i sometimes look at you all and think “how do they do it”. I’m sometimes too much for my own self to handle and you guys do it so effortlessly. Shukran to each of you for your constant support. To my friends , my sisters , besties, you guys are the reason I am where I am today. My circle may be  very small but I’d have it no other way. You all are appreciated and I pray that my efforts to express my gratitude toward you guys let you know just how much you all mean to me.

Here’s to another year. May we all let God be the center of everything we do. 27 are you ready for me? Well that’s the question I’d like to ask but deep down I’m freaking out at how old I’m getting 🙈

Happy 1st birthday to my car as well, my didi pops 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻my ride or die, literally.

Happy St Patrick’s day to all and a very happy birthday to the many others born on this day 

Love and gratitude always

From just an ordinary birthday girl