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I owe my freedom to…

This morning I had a conversation that really made me sit and think about life, my purpose, blessings, experiences and then also who made it all possible;

  • God
  • My parents
  • Circle of friends and family

Having celebrated freedom day yesterday, I feel this post is fitting.

I have no shame telling people my story; not because I want or expect pity or even to bad mouth anybody, but to create hope in knowing that with prayer and the right people you allow in, you can overcome any and all adversities.

I fell pregnant, married the love of my life at the time, sh%t went south, was abused, lost my son at birth, lost my gran a few months after, got cheated on, got a divorce, lost my other gran and all in the space of a year and few.

GOD

When I returned home, I returned dignityless, broke as broke could be and with buckets full of emotion and questions and hurts and pain. I questioned God, everyone who knows me knows I love children and that my love is unconditional… why would he take those two things away from me. I was okay with being abused and unhappy, I was okay with making God and my parents unhappy; as long as I was with him and had my son, I was okay. Can you begin to imagine our absurd that is?

Truth is, lots of women feel and think that way.

Having nothing else to do, I started finding God, researched religions, I needed to know about this power that could do such, at his will. And trust, it was the best decision of my life.

I am born Muslim, but today I sit here saying that I choose to be Muslim. Upon reading and researching, I began to pray, at early hours of the morning. I would cry and ask God to pacify my heart because the pain was unbearable. I hid it well, maybe because of pride or even embarrassment? But I hid it well.

My perspective changed and I read about how babies who pass away will intercede for their mums on judgement day, I learnt that those who are favoured by God, are tested… I mean look at all the prophets and what they endured? I learned how women are valued in Islam and how we should be treated, and so I started expecting nothing less.

I became stronger and started seeing my blessings, my courage-meter started rising and rebuilding and reforming myself was what I began to do. Perhaps losing all that I lost, forced me to get closer to God; he is a jealous God after all. Perhaps it strengthened me to leave the toxic environment that I and him (my ex hubby) created. Perhaps Mika’il was an angel sent to save me from myself, so that I could find my purpose and fulfill it….

PARENTS

The beings we often take for granted. I come from an average background. Whilst we weren’t as poor as others I know, there were days we went with the bare minimum and everything we owned was worked for; sweat and tears literally.

Part of high school fees were sponsored and I remember taking lemon creams for a cake sale (in a private school with rich brats) because that’s all my dad could afford, they obviously pushed it aside because it weren’t as good for them as their novelty cakes.I couldn’t care less about them but felt more loved than anything, because MY DAD took his last and bought that for me.

My parents gave my siblings and I the best they had @ 100%… selfless, imperfect beings that were going through their own adversities but put our needs first. They made sure that we grew up with sound education and religion knowledge especially because they couldn’t teach us themselves… they only knew so much.

I look at them both today; Mum studied and is now a senior manager for one of SAs leading retailers and my dad, so religious inclined its unbelievable. My mum worked as a casual worker for EIGHT years before she became permanent. Yet she persevered. My dad was all things naughty, he drank, drugged, was affiliated with one of the most popular gangs in Durban but when my sister was born, he began his journey. Leaving school in grade 8, he now works independently as a tiler, being his own boss and growing in character and knowledge day by day.

With these two as an example… how could I quit? Sure we had and still have problems, but all families do. My parents are real-life examples of how perseverance, hard work and prayer can pull you out of any situation. And so I aspire to be just like them.

⭕️ OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY

My mum always told us to choose our friends wisely, back then it made no sense. Today, as 28 year old…it makes perfect sense. Science says that you become like the five closest people to you. Religion says that you should be wary of the company you keep… surely Mum, science and God cannot be wrong. You see, humans feed off each other in a non-parasitic way. We feed off energies. If you’re around negative, non-spiritual, uninspired folk…you will soon become just like them. On the flip side, if you affiliate yourself with people who are positive,warriors, those who know God and practice their faith each day and those who aspire to do many great things… it’s only a matter of time before you become just like that too.

I have had amazing people in and around my circle over the years. Ive had the best religious examples around me and I’ve had the most goal-driven people in my space. There was no way they were going to allow me to cave permanently.

They encouraged me when giving up was the easiest thing to do after days, weeks and months with internal battles and battling the trauma and adversities I been battling for so long. I was encouraged to pray and get closer to my creator, I was encouraged to re-wire my brain to look at the positives in every situation. I was pushed to set goals and boundaries for myself.

Today I sit here, looking back at yesterday; freedom day, and pondering over who was responsible for my freedom and they are:

  • God
  • My folks
  • My circle

Through my adversities I was reminded how highly blessed and favored I was and still am.

It’s 2018, 4-5 years after everything has happened and whilst it was not and still isn’t an easy road. I am way better off from where I started. I have achieved the littlest of things that made the hugest difference and I continue soaring and fighting on like the warrior God made me to be.

I am not where I want to be, I’m not Gods most loyal servant, I’m far from perfect. I’m miles away from financial freedom. But I am free. I am still. I am persevering and My faith is unshakable.

Love and light always; from just an ordinary girl

*all pictures are sourced from google*

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#QOTD #78: Hard work

I know it has been wayyyy too long. There has been so many amazing opportunities that have availed. Be sure to check out my social media profiles or you can visit the SA BLOGGERS website to find out what we’ve been up to.

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I came across this quote at the back of a Huletts sugar sachet and it inspired me.

It says:

If you wish to move mountains tomorrow, you must start by lifting stones today

~ African proverb

Right?!

Nothing that’s ever worth it is easy. Hard work, determination and prayer is the only combination key to success.

You have to start somewhere and that somewhere generally is at the very beginning; the bottom.

As humans we have a tendency of wanting to skip the hard work and the being patient part and tend to always want instant results. So we become ambitious, take on everything and then crash before not even one of those things we took on are complete or achieved.

This proverb for me highlights the concept that success isn’t overnight and that it takes hard work and determination to reach your end goal. It highlights that there are no easy ways or overnight shenanigans when it comes to success.

So if you’re not where you need to be, do what you can today, tomorrow and even the day after that and trust and believe that one day, your mountain ⛰ (goal) will be moved (achieved).

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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QOTD: #77: Your purpose

There have been loads of discussions, all coincidental by the way, with some of my closest friends and some of my colleagues at my “9-5” regarding our passion and purpose. We been speaking about how and when does one find something they’re truelly passionate about and then how to start working on it, to pursue It.

One of my dearest friends sent this to me. She just knows my love for the written and spoken word and knew that this would be something I’d find profound and something I’d treasure. I had to share it with you. Please take heed.

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away

~ THE William Shakespeare

All of us are born unique with a set of strengths and weaknesses. We all are born with a gift, I call it a superpower, that we can choose to use, to make the world a better place and by that I mean, to touch and change the lives of even those just around us or choose to let it go to waste.

Most people, creatives, don’t believe in themselves enough. Fear of rejection and self-doubt always tend to win and I never understand why.

Personally? I believe that the world needs allll of our superpowers to make it a better place; to inspire each other and to bring out the best in each other.

Whilst we may have love for similar things, each of us are unique and therefore will always bring something unique to the craft. So don’t ever sell yourself short and don’t ever think that there’s never enough room for you. The world we’re in is always hungry for authenticity. Your time is now.

I really hope that this post will inspire and encourage you to tap into that superpower and to start sharing that with the rest of us. You need to fulfill your purpose (:

Some super power thoughts from just an ordinary girl.

Love ❤️ and light 💡 always

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#QOTD #72: Push your passion 💪🏼

Today’s quote was inspired by an opportunity that recently availed.

Amy Tangerine scripted:

Do what you love and you will inspire and awaken the hearts of others.

I really cannot stress how important and rewarding it is to do what you love; sacrifice for it, work hard at it and never ever give up on it.

We all have dreams of “making it big” and being impactful. That dream starts with doing you love; quite the cliche’, but a true one nonetheless.

You see when you have something that you love to do, it becomes a go-to place when everything else seems to be falling apart.

The opportunity-Gods almost wait for those tried and failed moments and wait to see how adamant we are…before they bless us with that big break and then the rest is history.

Most artists will tell you how difficult it was in the beginning before “their big break” or that “one-person” came along.

I was recently awarded the opportunity to write an article for SA Bloggers

(www.weblogforlove.com)

The post was well received and my oh my, did it feel good.

You’re welcome to check out the post that was featured, on basic and random cooking tips I’ve compiled by clicking Here

This was huge for me because blogging is my go to place, it’s my thing, it’s what I love and every opportunity I get to put my work out there, makes me feel like I’m honoring and am worthy of my passion especially since I’m still figuring this blogging thing out as I go along.

The post and quote is shared in hope that it will inspire at least one person to push their passion.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl 💋

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An affirmation for the ladies. Say: I am a queen

I | A M | A | Q U E E N

I don’t need anybody to tell me that because daily, I make conscious choices to try and better myself, for myself, for God and for my loved ones.

I am queen because I’ve overcome hurts and pain that was meant to break me. I turn pain into power!

I am a queen because God made me and because I know I can only do things with his will and permission and hey, I’m okay with that.

I’m a queen because when I do something I do it with love and all things positive. I don’t do it based on condition or because I have to. If it’s well within my soul, it’s the purest and most sincerest.

I am a queen because I treat people with honesty, love and respect, like the kings and queens that they are; Because what’s the use of identifying somebody as a king or queen but never treating them with the honour that they deserve…

I am a queen because I err. I am flaw-filled. But I wear those flaws confidently because we were not born to perfect, we were born to work towards being better than who we were yesterday.

I am a queen because I’m a warrior and not a worrier. Nothing can keep me down for too long. Call me my own knight in shining armor! I soldier on proudly in the constant wars that happen between self and I and those that continue around me. Forget justice, I am in the league of Hercules and Maximus Decimus Meridius

I am a queen because I choose to celebrate the best in people and not compete. Lol you can never compare me to you. Our struggles are different and therefore our battles are different.

I am a queen because I fight for what’s right, irrespective of race, colour or creed so best believe, if you coming for me, you better come correct.

I am a queen because I love to learn. I try different things to widen my perspective and self-growth and mastery is what I’m after.

And hell, I’m a queen coz I brush my hair some days and others I don’t, I listen to rap music one day and then jazz the next. I rock purple orange and green on somedays and black and grey on others.

Point is, I’m a queen in my own right and my soul is royalty! Rest assured, you and yours are too.

Love, light and supreme delight: from just an ordinary queen!

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#QOTD #69: Make every moment count

Every second that passes is time that we’re not getting back.

In one of my previous posts, I spoke about how we wish moments away. We have a bad day and we can’t wait for it to be over.

We get invited to a function that we really don’t want to attend, and then spend more time thinking about how we should have , could have, would have but didn’t and time just passes us by.

Lol, I know you know what I’m talking about.

Today’s quote was a reminder of a message our service executive shared with us a couple of weeks ago and is a popular quote by one of the world’s bests.

I came across the same message today and boom, here we are.

Don’t count the days…

Make the days count

~ Muhamed Ali

We’re all guilty of “Ag I can’t wait for Friday” but why wait till Friday to catch a break or have fun or be happy or become legendary?

Let all the days be days that we push boundaries and achieve smart goals. Let each day that passes fuel you to be and do better than the next.

If anything we should be alil afraid of Friday because it will need to supersede the days that have passed .

Being legendary means being everything and anything but mediocre.

Next time you “can’t wait for Friday” shift your mindset into gear and work on ways of making your days count.

Things that you can do:

  1. Start a gratitude challenge
  2. Set daily, smart goals and work on achieving them.
  3. Set aside time for your books if you’re studying.
  4. Pray
  5. Spread positivity
  6. Give compliments
  7. Do what makes you happy
  8. Listen to your favorite song and sing along on your way to work.
  9. Walk more
  10. Drink more water
  11. Visit your folks
  12. Read a new book
  13. Start dancing
  14. Learn a new instrument
  15. Start a blog.

Heck, the world is your oyster lol.

The things that you can do is limitless.

Remember, every second that passes is time you’re not getting back.

Live life with love, laughter, learning and leave your legacy of being legendary.

Go on, make your days count #2KGR18

❤️, 🌈 and all things nice, from just an ordinary girl

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DFH #66

Dear future husband,

I may have mentioned this before but I feel I need to mention it again:

Love God

Love yourself

and then come and love me.

I want all of you, the best of you. I don’t want pieces of you. Prepare yourself to be great in the eyes of God so that you can be great for me. I promise that I am doing the same.

Love,

Your future wife.