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Co-operation- lifeguard edition

I feel obliged to write this post and urge every reader to please share. Especially since beach trips are more popular as we enter the hottest periods of our summer season.

My heart is so heavy right now as for me also, this was just another Sunday afternoon trip to the beach to relax…

Sadly it turned out tragically. We witnessed the most devoted, selfless acts of multiple lifeguards, battling a rescue boat to this extremely rough and angry sea, trying to save a child drowning 😦

After multiple defeats to the high and rather rough waves, they managed to bring the little girls body to shore.

It’s been a good 15minutes since and they are still trying to revive her. Doctors that were walking the promenade stopped to assist and multiple rescue teams responded with in minutes, we pray for this little girls survival.

The point of this post is to urge each and every single one of you reading this, to please co-operate with the life-guard teams.

If they tell you to stop swimming, please respond to the command and vacate the water, these guys and girls are highly trained and know the sea and it’s capabilities better than you and I.

Parents, seeing you kids frolicking in the water during our summer season is a delight to the heart and sight however, in a blink of an eye it can turn tragic.

When waves are extremely high, refrain from standing or walking on the piers, a wave swept this little girl off the pier ☹️

Please assist your local life guard team. It really is only yours and your loved ones best interest they gave at heart.

Co-operation is key folks, they really aren’t just trying to spoil your fun.

A heart-felt piece, from just an ordinary girl.

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#DFH #61

Dear future husband,

It’s exam time and again, I’m on the no carb no sugar run (yeah yeah it’s about the third time- no judgement) AND Aunty Suzzie is over for the week, so please bare with me.

My levels of cranky are gonna be escalated. Please take any random outbursts with a pinch of salt and don’t take it personal but take it personal, I know you understand what I mean 😊

Thanking you in advance for your patience.

Xx

Your future wife 

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#QOTD #49

Been having a particularly tough time managing my stresses, especially at work. Generally, positive thinking is what I do, it’s my natural approach to anything I face. 

However, of late it’s becoming more and more difficult for me to do. This is a very dangerous space to be in, especially for me because I’ve worked so hard to get out of a verg negative era of my life. 

So amongst other things, I’ve been perusing online in hope to come across something that would spark some sought of positivity within… 

Bubblegum characters always lighten up my soul

… to shed some light in what seems to be a very dark space, I came across these bubblegum figures and this quote: (God bless the written word and the writers who write them)

” The darkest hour has only 60 minutes “

~ Morris Mandel 

Right?! 

This quote got me pondering instantly. It reassured me that nothing in this life time is ever permanent and that even dark times have their expiry dates. #aameen

I remember reading that actions derive from thoughts. This stuck with me and will continue to stick with me as I journey through this thing called life. 

This is why, when I think about more negative than positive things, I frantically search for something, anything, just to change my thought process.

I think it’s essential that we do this before we get consumed. Seems like this quote and my bubble gang are  my life lines for today, tomorrow shall see for itself.


♥️ and 🌈 from just an ordinary stressed out girl! 

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#QOTD #47


Today I had a rather interesting and rather challenging interaction with somebody. This interaction inspired the quote of today and I hope this quote will help you, especially in situations that may evoke anger.

I say an Interesting interaction because it’s amazing to see how an ego trip can literally make a person feel entitled to the point of belittling a fellow human being, one whom they’ve never met…

I say it was an Interesting interaction because we’re so consumed with being “seen” in a certain light amongst other people, that we would literally go to extreme lengths to achieve a specific label or just to prove a point… to somebody who you probably never speak to again in your life! ( pathetic I know! )

I describe the interaction as Challenging, because those who know me, know that I am very verbal. Because I hate bottling things in, I say how I feel then and there… and well then it’s done, no festering of volatile emotions, no venom infecting my spirituality, zilch! 

This isn’t always helpful in situations and over the years, I’ve learnt that there’s a time and place for everything and also that not every battle needs to be fought. 

I’m generally a no-nonsense kinda girl and still have emotional triggers that can cause me to become temprimental. One of these triggers are idiots who feel patronizing somebody else just to execute power is ok by speaking to folk in a condescing tone. I promise you! I can literally go from lady to a savage  beast in 0.5seconds when I witness this. 

Today? I was on the receiving end. But I was pleasantly surprised at how I handled the situation. I suppose it comes with the numerous attempts of trying to be a better, stronger version of myself. A version that plays this game called life by God and my rules only

My intellect was questioned, my competencies were faulted, I was insulted and this person was just a rude, arrogant, shovenist who couldn’t get his own way and so typically started throwing his toys out the cot.  ..this is an example of a typical “man” in our generation. #sigh

And How did I respond?

With a smile and  “it’s your opinion and I respect it”

I think this ticked him off even more because he realized that that’s all it is, an opinion. One he clearly felt strongly about. I suppose I challenged him because he didn’t respond to what I was actually saying, but rather responded by insulting my capabilities. 

And it was actually ok. Even though i had to work harder at some points during our interaction to keep my composure. All I wanted to do was tell him exactly what I thought of men of his caliber.

I finally learnt what is it not to be  reduced by others. I experienced what victory  felt like because as much as he left that convo feeling like he was the don…it had to take him numerous blows to try to get the reaction he was looking for, which he didn’t end up getting.

And this brings us to the quote of the day:

“He who angers you, controls you”

~ Prophet Muhamed ( may Peace and blessings be upon him) 

It’s an amazing feeling seeing the fruits of my spiritual journey. I love the woman I’m evolving into and whilst it may not always be 🌹s and 🌈s, this feeling of the victory I felt is one I can enjoy getting used to.


No person is worth you dropping your standards, especially when you’re being used to brush their ego. You deserve to sit on your throne and to not be shaken or moved by irrelevant people. 

…Because he who angers you,  literally controls you and really, they  don’t deserve that kind of power over you! 

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl h

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Happy 4th birthday Mik


As I write out this post to wish you, the  tears automatically fill my eyes. Which is normal for me.

Slamaat on your 4th birthday my son. I have no doubt that the angels are making your day a special one, atleast I hope they heard my prayers and are doing so because you deserve nothing but the best.

I know I would have woken you up already to the birthday song with candles lit. I would have been  planting a gazillion kisses on your face and then would have made the most heart-felt dua and wish for you. 

Our moment was snatched away but the Almighty knows best l.  I’m trying to celebrate you and so this is the first birthday of yours that I didn’t take leave. Your mama is gonna get dressed up for your birthday and is going to try to celebrate it. It’s just so hard. And I’m just so emotional, so cross your little fingers and let’s hope all goes according to plan. 


May you be wrapped in love and light until we meet again boytjie. You will always be a huge part of the woman I’ve become today. Thank you for making me a mother. I love you with my all Xx

Happy 4th birthday my baby 

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The pain 

Tears well up. 

It’s the overfloweth of my cup. 

How ironic because my soul feels empty. Its yearning for you to be here. With me. 

Emotions are peeking. 

I swear it’s a side effect of my soul seeking. You! 

It’s worse than having a knife put through your back, that kind of pain will eventually heal. 

This pain, demands for me to feel. Oh but how I miss you Mika’il.

The loss of a son. 

Bleeds more than the shot from a gun. 

It’s a pain I will be reminded of for the rest of my life. 

I would really have preferred the pain of that knife. 

I wish that Gods breath of life remained in your soul. It would make my life purpose-filled. Whole. 

Perhaps life would be easier if you were here see, Merrier. Happier . Happy her. (Me!)

I know you’re above beyond the clouds. 

You will always remain in my heart. Vows! 

Till we meet again son. Rest In Peace. 

With oceans of love, your mum❤ cease.

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The move: 🇿🇦 to 🇨🇳 


Everybody knows that when I’m emotional I write. 

It’s the last day I have with my nieces and whilst them emigrating is good for them, not having them is going to be torture for me.

My nieces have been with us at home since birth. We share a weird kind of a relationship. One that goes beyond the normal aunty- niece relationship. They are like my kids in the sense of the love I have for them. 

I’ve woken up in the middle of the night for them, have been through every milestone and all their “firsts”;  first tooth, step, day at school, doctors visit.  Attended every awards day, have listened to their most hilarious and darndest thoughts. Have been with them for all their major hospital admissions. I’ve even fought for them in malls after being pushed.

I’m glad that my sister allowed me to be such an active force in their lives. But they’re going now and I don’t know what I’m going to do. My normal week included having them for the weekends and for the school holidays. They gave me things to do…which I’m not going to have anymore. They have brought such joy to my life and heart in the passed years that it has helped in me healing after Miks passing.

It has dawned upon me that I won’t beable to attend their first day at their new school, or hear about the new friends they’ve made. I won’t be there to comfort them when the new country gets overwhelming or when they’re struggling with anything. I think I’m suffering from a case of FOMO.

It’s an emotional day. I don’t even want to think of what seeing them off at the tomorrow is going to be like. All I can do is pray that they don’t feel anxious and don’t have to deal with any unnecessary issues of having moving country’s. 

I ask the almighty to make their transition easy, perhaps if I see them enjoying it then it wouldn’t be too bad for me I suppose. I ask the almighty that their special sparkles don’t get dulled by this move and that this move will enhance everything good that they have already. I ask the almighty that he removes their fears and helps them blend in, that he makes their little hearts remain filled with love, life, happiness, peace and compassion.

I pray the same for my sister and wish her everything of the best in her new endeavor. May the almighty make her transition easier. Moving as a single parent with two kids seems as though it can be daunting; having to worry about you settling in and adapting to a new place and surrounding with no support structure physically there and also worrying about the well-being of your kids. May Allah create the perfect balance for you my sissy.


There’s so much more in my heart that needs to be said but then I’d have you all reading forever. So I will leave this here because I have a feeling I’ll be back here putting my emotions and thoughts down in hope it will bring me some relief .