Love, life & everything's else in between, motivation and inspiration, personal

#QOTD #29


Mother Teresa once said:

If you want to change the world, Go home and love your family.

I came across this quote and it actually got me sitting and self-reflecting. It was for this reason that I had to share it.

The world is moving in a very different direction, a selfish one if I can. It’s moving away from sentimentality and more towards a superficial nature. The dynamic of family is no longer what it used to be and that is such a shame.

How many great memories do we have growing up? Do you think that our kids will have the same?

We often have big dreams in terms of the contributions we want to make to the world, starting up our own businesses, blogs, setting up NGO’s, plans to study or travel even. We spread messages of good will, positivity, love and unity  which is all fantastic, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and kudos to you if you’re doing this because it is needed!

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Question is! do we put that much effort towards the goodwill of our family?

How many times do friends ask for a ride and we’re every ready to jump up and go. Yet, if our siblings or family member’s ask, we complain about fuel… 

How many times, do our folk call and ask us when we’re coming home to visit, and we’re like ” I’ve just been so busy, there’s just no time” yet, let our colleagues ask us to catch a drink and we’re ever ready and time avails itself… 

Or, how many times does your girl or wife ask you to spend some QT (quality time) and you be like “babe, i’m so tired” but minutes later you’re gaming or catching up on social media or better still, let your boys call and say they’re coming  over and the tiredness magically disappears…

Ladies, how many times does your significant other mention things to you but half of the time you don’t hear because you’re too interested in that conversation about Keyshia’s cousin who slept with Keyshia’s man… I hope you’re following me with this.

Doesn’t it make sense? That if we cant love our families, how do we expect to love strangers? 

If we cant appreciate the little things that they do for us, how do we expect to appreciate what the world has to give us? 

If we cant respect the people who we are constantly around, how do we expect to respect people we barely know and if we cant make time for our family, how can we for any other random person?

We have generations and generations which form part of our family trees right? and more that are still to be birthed. So what we do now and how we act now has a huge impact on the people that we will bring into this world right? It’s logic.

Imagine this, we love our families, we appreciate them, we support them , we invest in them and we encourage them. These attributes will get passed down to our kids, and their kids, and their kid’s kids etc. Creating a movement of love and light which we and they will automatically share with the world. If we all did this, don’t you think the world would be a better place? I think so.


They say that charity starts at home and I agree. The magnitude of a gesture or deed lies in the amount of heart put into it.  So let’s all make an effort to appreciate our parent’s, siblings, cousins, aunt’s, uncles, grandparents a little more than we do now. Make that cup of tea for your mom, kick that ball with your kids or nephews, draw with your nieces, catch a movie or sport with your cousins, have chill sessions with your siblings, go on date nights with your person of honour, call your folk or grand folks every now and then. It starts with you and I.

This quote really touched me and it almost felt like a wake up call because I am guilty of sometimes not loving and appreciating my family as much as I should.  You always hear me preaching about spreading love and light. So this is me beginning to put more of an effort into that and it starting with my family.

An epiphany from just an ordinary girl and that’s all thanks to Mother Teresa ♥️🙏🏼

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Life lessons: Gran edition

Some of the lessons my Ma Una taught me it, both by advise and her actions, is what I live by today. 

These lessons have seen me through the darkest moments life had to offer me and has molded me into the being that I am today,

They are: 

• Walk with grace 

• People give you nothing, be real.

• Always have faith 

• Fake no lovers, buy no friends

• When anything goes wrong, turn to God or…food! 

• The less you speak, the more you actually say! 

• What the right hand does the left hand shouldn’t know about. 

• How much you is how much you don’t know.

•Don’t be a mime; always show people that you are one better.

• Don’t dwell in pain, let it become your teacher by letting go and letting God.

• Charity starts at home.

• And lastly, it costs you nothing to be nice.

Juma Mubarak Almal and happy Friday!!!

Posted by: Just an ordinary girl


The 411 on Ramadaan

* Ramadaan is the month in which versuses of the Holy Quran was revealed to Prophet Muhammed (Peace be upon him).

* It is the nineth month of the Islamic calender.

* It includes one of the most powerful auspicious nights; the actual night the Quran was revealed. This occurs on one of the odd nights in the last 10 days.

* Muslims are ordered to obstain from food, drink and other wordly pleasures from dusk till dawn. This is with the intention of focusing on prayer, spirituality and chatity. We all come down to one level and feel what it is to go without food for the day, irrespective of how much wealth you have.

* Gossiping, anger and other impurities are to be obstained from aswell.

* The exact start date of Ramadaan is dependant on the sighting of the new moon.

* Islam functions on the lunar calender which is different to the Gregorian calender. Whilst our auspicious days remain the same on the islamic calender, they change,generally 10-11 days earlier, on the gregorian calender each year.

* Charity plays a huge role during this month also, muslims have to pay Zakah through out the year, this is obligatory charity. During ramadaan, many also give beyond that which is known as Sadaqah: voluntary givings. Any good deed you do during this month is said to be rewarded with a greater blessing.

* Ramadaan forms part of the 5 pillars of Islam.

* It ends with a celebration called Eid-Ul- Fitr

If you, muslim or non muslim, want to wish someone a blessed ramadaan, you can say Ramadaan Mubarak.

To all of muslim family, friends and readers, I wish you a prosperous Ramadaan. May all of our efforts be accepted and rewarded by the almighty Allah SWT and may changes made in this month be permanent in sha allah (God Willingly)

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Ramadaan Mubarak