Love, life & everything's else in between, motivation and inspiration, personal

#QOTD #48

I got this random message from one of my closest girlfriends the other morning and it just made me realize how important it is for one to choose the people they keep around them. This message literally brightened up my whole day.



Tonight, I got invited by another close girl friend of mine to attend a fundraiser for such an amazing organization. I’m busy working on doing some research on this phenomenal org and will definitely be sharing it with you all. The night comprised local and international acts of singing, poetry and comedy. All in the name of encouraging normal folk like you and I to get involved do our part in making our community a better place to live and grow in. But I will dedicate an entire post to giving the 411 on this amazing org.

Moving along, These two gestures from my girlfriends have inspired the quote of today:

Associate yourself with people of good quality. For it is better to be alone than in bad company

~ Booker T Washington 

I absolutely agree. 

You are, who you hang around with and that’s a fact.

We often hear the old folk say : if you lie with dogs, you bound to wake up with fleas. They knew what they were talking about. 

I’ve got a lot of wrongs to right, but one thing I’ve always been blessed with, is my support structure. My circle of real friends has grown significantly smaller over the years, but the bond between my friends and I, has grown so much stronger. 

We are each other’s strength, courage, sight, logic, comic, sister, stylist, driver, shrink, cheer leader, confidence, entertainment and even a target. The beauty lies in that even when we make each other so mad, when it comes to the wire, we don’t  have to question who will be there and who wouldn’t. 

These are the people we need in our lives, the ones who we can love when they’re down and when they’re up and the ones who can love us at our worst through to us being our best. 

Your friends should ultimately push you to be and do better. And I can confidently say that mine do all of the above, even when I’m stubborn as a Muel. 

So on that note, let’s take some time  to reflect on the people we deem close to us. Let’s look at the character of the people we call friends pay more attention to those whom we let into our circle. It may seem trivial, but it is so important.


❤️and 🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #45

When women support each other, incredible things happen 

~ unknown 

Right? I don’t even need to dissect this any further but I’ll enhance on it. 

You don’t need to stand and address an arena filled with women to encourage, inspire or support each other . You don’t have wait until you’re an Oprah or mother Theresa of a nation to start valuing and encouraging women to be the best they can be or to “lead” women away from the superficial crap we consume ourselves with.

A few girlfriends and I planned a mini road trip and one night slumber not far from home. People honestly thought that we were in some foreign place because of all of the amazing pics we posted, but those were just BTWs.

The place we visited
Brekkie @ vovo telo

The significance of the trip was to break away from reality and just to recoop. The trip was planned to act  as a reset button. Time to stop. Reflect and then start again.

Sentimental tokens from each other that we left with

Not everybody knew each other however, all were friends of mine. I suggested  these ladies because I know all of them personally and I know the journeys we’ve all travelled and the destinations we all hoping to reach. So with Des’s idea for the road trip and us all confirming, it was a recipe for success!

The weekend was beyond refreshing and went off smoothly, we all focused on the most important things; being our selves and sharing perspectives to enhance each other’s thought processes, sharing each other’s joys and then becoming more sensitive to the battles that us women face. We chilled, laughed, expressed, ate, cooked, embraced and loved! Oh and posed 😜

Because food is life
Girls just wanna have fun ♥️
 

I will be the first to say that I left that weekend away with loads of gratitude, a wider perspective, beautiful memories, fun photos and sisters for life…yes, we’re already planning our next one.
The most beautiful thing for me is that we’re all so similar yet so different. We don’t all belong to the same religion, don’t all have kids, husbands or boyfriends but we had such an amazing time.

Our Sunday in pics, the boys even popped in!

That’s all you need to encourage and support your fellow women; spend quality time with them for the sake of bettering yourself and them and then the rest automatically falls into place. We had no time for gossip, judgment, shade throwing, scandling , fighting or any cattish behavior.

‘Coz what’s a slumber without novelty bedroom slippers

So! Write your fellow women a note, dedicate a status or throw in a motivating hashtag to a pic. Go for a picnic, take a drive , catch a movie or even stay home and cook and for or bake. Pout. Anything! But start.

Imagine a world where our women are dedicated to building each other up as opposed to tearing each other down. It seems beautiful, amazing, strong and all things nice to me.

❤️ and 🌈🔥 from just an ordinary girl

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#DFH #53

Dear future husband,

If you have the means, I await a bouquet of 🌺’s delivered to my work address just because. No specific special occasion. 

If you don’t have the means, a random, out-of-the-ordinary message to me will suffice.

Look forward to these sentimental gestures😊

Love and appreciation, your future wife 💋 

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#DFH #51

Dear future husband, 

My parents get back today. They’ve been on vacay in China for the passed month.

I have this thing where upon fetching them, I make a “welcome home poster”. Just a small gesture to express my excitement re: their return.


I will do this for you too, should you travel without me be it for work etc. I will be at their airport/ bus or train station with a colourful poster and dashing, Colgate smile waiting for your arrival.

What I do hope is, is that you would join in on this venture.

I hope that you too would get in and help me make these posters for any of our family or friends who return after travelling. 

I want us to be that couple. The positive couple known for their sentimentality and sincere gestures. The couple that goes out of their way to help others and to spread happiness, love and light. The go-to couple when people need a dose of motivation. 

Really hope you’d appreciate this gesture when I do it for you and that you would join in and help when I’m doing it for my family and friends or your family and friends.

We putting it out there (:

Hope you have an amazing day

Loads of love,

Your ordinary, future wife 💋

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#DFH #47

Dear future husband,

I’ve decided to go back to #nocarbs #nosugars. 

You will know by reading through my blogs that I have an issue with my weight. 

None the less, this can make me real grumpy because you know food is life for me. 

Please don’t take anything personal, generally the grumpiness lasts for about a week, just until the cravings are gone.

Just a warning 😃 in case I fall off the bantwagon and start again

Your future wife ❤️

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#DFH #45

Dear future husband,

All that I offer to you in these posts are things I’m going to do for you when we first meet, when we’re 40, 50 and 60. 

I will love you on the last day like I did the first , if not more. Kindly note that this includes my flaws too. So be prepared.

I will cook for you, declare my love in scribbles or on a plate. I will honour , appreciate and support you in all your endeavors. I promise to keep my smart mouth and fiesty attitude (giggles). 

I certainly hope that all the things I ask from you will be returned. I want you to know that even though I will freely love  you , I would still want you to earn my love everyday, like I would for you. I would not want you to get complacent. Because I will not become complacent. 

I would want to be your profile picture when I’m 50 like I would be  now. I want you to buy me flowers ‘coz it’s Wednesday when we’re retired, like I would want it when you send them to me at work in our courting days. I would want love notes 📝 when we making tea toothless and greyed like I would when when I’m highly pregnant and you’re packing my lunchbox. 

I basically want our love to be consistent. If you only going to do things to “catch” me and then get complacent thereafter, then I don’t want it, any of it. 

I’m talking about real love, consistent love, unconditional love. I’m talking about choosing to celebrate me even at my lowest, now and forever. I’m not talking about superficial love. I’m talking about solid ,ride or die love.

Are you with me ? I hope you with you with. Please be with me. 

Secret desires,

From your future wife 

💋