Love, life & everything's else in between, motivation and inspiration, personal


He inspires me to write,Leads me to light ,

Although we may sometimes fight And thats all Thanks to the distance between us’ might.

He inspires me to love.

To let go and soar, like the beautiful white dove, to spread my wings and go Up up and above. 

He gets me, feels me, believes in me. He confuses me, challenges me, and sometimes peeves me. He secures me, assures me and respects me. He makes me laugh, he gives me hope. kisses my forward. He makes an effort and holds my hand. He cares for me. 

He is my kind of perfect. 
He. The creation of God himself. Talented, young and full of aspiring goals. He. The son of beautiful parents, and brother to his diverse siblings. He. The well known and well received guy. He, the guy with the colorful friends. He, I now get to call my person of honour. 

I, am not perfect, I’m not always kind. I get scared and I sometimes cry. I get angry and I curse out , sometimes without any reason or without any doubt. I get defensive, I’m scared of being hurt. I’m not always patient or understanding but I’m human. And he. He gets that.

He is love and light personified. He is my blessing in disguise. He is the closest thing to real I see when I look around. He is amazing even when he’s moody or emotional or imperfect but He, he is mine and I am his. 

He. He is…. #PS and I? I love him 

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My 27th

An extremely late post but as I say, better late than never (:

What an amazing weekend. It started off with my mum and nieces video calling all the way from China 🇨🇳 to sing for me. Mum does it every year in person and even since she wasn’t here, she made a plan 😍❤️

I know I say this often, but I am so grateful for the people in my life.

A group of friends left work early to celebrate my special day with me. We didn’t go partying, or get paralytic drunk. Neither did we get high. 

We went 10pin bowling and dodgem car riding! Yeap! 4 grown women. Oh and what fun did we have. You can tell you getting old when just that and supper get you so tired you can’t even walk. By 20:30 pm we were all exhausted. Laiyah, Amy and Lamz you girls are gems 💎.

My #Bae then traveled all the way from JHB in a bus just to spend the weekend in Durbs for my birthday. For many you’d be like so what’s the biggy? The biggy is that it feels so good to love and be loved. To have people do for you as you do for them. Many a time we just do because we want to and don’t expect anything in return. Which is a good thing. But when you get somebody doing just as much for you, it feels great. 

Birthdays for me, aren’t about gifts. They’re about the beautiful messages and wishes , about spending time with the people who matter the most and doing things that actually matter. 

We love to be spoilt though and my gifts hands down were THE best and well-thought out gifts ever.

My gifts thank you Laiyah, Amy aka Afrah, my Lamz and Pat
#Palladiums you 👟’s are my thing. Thanks Pat 💋
My beautiful #badgirl watch from my girl Lamz , I love it ❤️
My name in lights 😍, a beautiful dress and even prettier balloon 🎈

Life is not about things; materialistic things, it’s about the simple, sentimental things. And I am so grateful that the people in my circle get that.

A weekend spent with people I hold very dear to my heart. 

Thank you to each one of you who went out of your way to call, SMS, message, v note, video call, update pro pics, message on my insta, twitter or FB time line, for the DM’s and comments. I really appreciated every message and attempted to respond to each one.

Love and blessings to all

Gratitude from just an ordinary girl 


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Hello 2017

First post for 2017! Shukr Allah for yet another year! Loads happened in 2016 and I’m sure you have loads planned for the year to come. 

It’s 01:17 and I’m sitting outside, barefoot and on the floor. But guess what? I wouldn’t have it any other way! We ( my folks, lamia and her kids)  braaied, busted crackers, laughed , listened to music ,gave thanks to God, wrote our dear johns and chilled. Yes, blessings on blessings.

Hope you guys are having an amazing , meaningful start to the new year as well. Blank page for 2017, let’s write an amazing story❤️

Love and well wishes from just an ordinary girl xx 

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♥ My friends are better than yours ♥

My mother always told me to choose my friends wisely. Growing up I never understood why and would often get so angry when she’d tell me she didn’t like some of the people’s I’d be chilling with. 

But what an important lesson! I think one that every parent should teach their kids. 

They say that you are who you hang around with. That makes me loyal, kind, real, honest, goal orientated, God fearing, cray cray, imperfect, and gosh the list can go on. I’m all of the above because the people in my circle are all of the above. 

In a life where I tend to get a lot of things messed up and wrong, I can safely say that God has my back because he blessed me with the best friends ever. Friends who encourage me to be me all the time, friends who lead me towards God, who accept my flaws and help me embrace it. Friends who keep it real with me all the time and who are not afraid to tell me when I’m wrong. Friends who will literally sacrifice anything to be there for me. Friends who will encourage my cray cray when need be, who will literally dance in the rain with me without me even asking.  God if ever I am ungrateful, I am so sorry!

What more can a woman possibly ask for, Knowing that no matter what life has in store for me, I have friends who I know will be there with me every step of the way. Speak about blessings on blessing. 

To my peoples, you know who you all are. My circle may be small but really it is all that I need. 

 Thank you so much for everything you guys do for me and without me even saying, you guys always just know what to do or say to make me snap out of shit and get back to reality! I appreciate each and every single one of you and how you guys never allow me to settle or lower my standards or even when I do, how you guys never judge me for it, how you guys never allow me to wallow in my sorrows. You guys just rock awesome. It’s amazing how we are all becoming connected because we are all so alike. Making the circle beeeegar lol.

May the almighty bless you all and put the means in me to shed a brighter light in yourls lives! 

I love you all. And to my parents, I will forever be grateful to you guys for the morals and values instilled in me. To my creator, time and time again I have failed you but your love and mercy is so bountiful, because you keep showing me just how blessed I am in every situation where it would seem I’m at a loss. 

So as we get ready to end this year, mine will end off with gratitude and me being Ray Charles to all the other BS.

A heartfelt thank you from just an ordinary friend. ❤❤❤

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We are blessed 

They say that the most valuable gift you can give somebody is your time and I concur! 
Saturday Amy and I spent the day with work colleagues at the Durban child and youth care center. What an amazing and humbling experience! Thanks to our employer : Discovery Health, for being such a great force for social good! 

We tend to take so many things for granted and this became apparent to me when I was calling the kids to receive their gifts…I don’t know if it was their  excitement and impatient tendacy of ripping apart the wrapping, their eyes that widend and brightened up or their yells “aunty come see what I got (aunty? I know right, felt so old😭) that warmed by heart. 

It became even more apparent to me when we actually sat down and spoke with some of the older kids and listened to their life stories and also when we played, danced with and loved the littler ones… these kids literally have the “survivor of the toughest” outlook on life at such a young age.

…And then I wondered to myself: who gives us the right to complain about steak that’s not cooked properly? Or water that’s not room temperature. lol, and these kids are grateful for just the morning you sacrificed to be with them. We need to catch a wake up!

The one thing that intrigued me was that even with their struggles, they laughed and loved whole heartedly and sincerely and were so grateful and content.

I once again got my reality check. I once again looked at my life and realized how blessed I am and how grateful I should be for the things and people and connections that I have in life. 

If I can change the situation for Atleast one of these kids, I will be fulfilled! 2016 has been great because it is the year that I started making an effort to give back but 2017 is the year that I will make a more conscious effort to giving back to the community especially the kids; through my time. 

I have just 10 days left to visit Miks grave, with mixed emotions, this has just made me realize that even his loss was in fact a blessing in disguise… if I had him, I might not have had the time to make a difference in the lives of these kids .

Love and well wishes always

A dear post and warm smile from just an ordinary girl 

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Blessings on blessings

When they say that the best things in life are free… “They”weren’t lying.

Saturday I spent the afternoon with my dearest sister friend, her super adorable and entertaining kids and my beautiful nieces. 

These kids always know how to turn any dull day into a well entertained day. They evoke sincere smiles, heart melts , hilarious laughter with the darndest things they say and do. 

Meet the crew: 


Lamia and I are friends for probably just over 4 years. We met through my ex husband , she’s actually his cousin. Let’s just say that she is loyalty personified. She is one of my very few friends and always “keeps it real” with me and encourages me towards right. 

The “A” squad

From left to right: Khaleel, Naeela and Afrah. 

These are the keepers of my ❤️. No time spent with them is ever regretted. Whilst they can often be loud and can sometimes work on a person’s last nerve, they have helped see me through some of THE most darkest seasons of my life. 

Naeela: my first niece, the love I have for this child is more than the love for writing itself. I’ve watched her grow from the baby in the family to such an intelligent, humble, responsible 8year old. The kindness she possess is one of such a high magnitude. If measured, the amount she would have in her baby finger… Some people don’t possess in their life time. 

Afrah: our little G girl. From the moment she was born, she let us know that she has arrived. Her spunkified charisma is larger than life itself. At just 4 years old she can be a fiesty one knowing exactly what she likes and dislikes. Even though life has thrown these sisters curve balls at such young ages, they have managed to overcome them and inspire me whenever I get caught up. 

Khaleel: the most passive one of the lot but has his own unique character. Typical boy with his love for cars: our human car. He too often says the darndest things that leaves us all in awe. The progress that you make daily makes me such a proud aunt! 

Then you get: 

lamz’ crew

From left to right: Yara, Laila, Mohammed Yaseen. 

I met these kids some time back and boy oh boy are they so unique but so fulfilling.

Yara: Just 7 years Old but full of life itself, I call her the mother hen and hospitality is her forte’. 

Laila: The most timid, well- respected 14 year old I know. If ever you invision “delicate” it best describes her. Like a flower in spring, she is blossoming into a beautiful young lady. 

Mohammed Yaseen: Out soldier, you are the man of the house and you know it, with that beautiful smile and mischievous demeanor, you will NeVER have a dull moment. 

These kids made my day on Saturday by just being themselves. I hope that they grow up knowing that just being themselves is enough and that like me, there are people that accept and love them like they deserve too. 

The little gestures, watching them play and hearing them laugh and giggle was enough. Sitting in my friends company and talking about life and self- reflection and how to better ones self was just so refreshing. Saturday served as our “pit stop” in this never ending race called life. 

Thank you all for the amazing day! Love you all ❤️


My Thanks to you.


To everybody who took the time
out to read, comment and send well wishes to me and my boy yesterday. THANK YOU!

I realised just how blessed I am and how much God loves me. Each and every one of you are nothing short of a blessing to me. I thank you. I appreciate you and I love you.

May the almighty multiply all your well wishes and prayers sent to me yesterday and return them to you 10 times fold.

It wasnt an easy day but reading your words of comfort, made it all the more easier.

To my mother. Thank you for always being my rock and for being there for me yesterday. I really dont know how I would have gotten through the day without you. My sister, thank you for sharing my pain in your own way and comforting me…I really appreciate it .To my father, showing emotion isnt your thing and whilst you didnt say much, your actions showed me just how much you felt my pain.

PS: I totes enjoyed our coffee date.

To my cousins, Donna, Kashifa and Dosie…I appreciate your’lls support and love. Its so comforting knowing that I can depend on family when I need them the most.


loads of love and blessings

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