I thought time would have healed me abit and by now I’d be abit more stable when your birthday comes… I guess I was wrong. I think time has taught me to keep myself distracted, but on days like this, it’s impossible.
I try to celebrate you, in fact, I celebrate you daily. You have pushed me to be the woman with characteristics of the mother I would have wanted to be to you. Each time I’m In a situation, I think “what example would I be leaving if Mika’il were here”.
Precious child, you have made such an impact in my life. I really thank Allah that he chose me to carry you.
Flashbacks of the day that I lost you came flooding in from 01:05am when my sleep broke this morning.
As much as I trust Allah had different plans for you, I still question if you’d be here if only I had made different decisions or if only I stayed off my feet and rested as I should have.
But anyway, you would have been six today. Lol no guessing that I would have been way more excited than you. You would have also started big school. Gawsh, I don’t think they make phones big enough to house all the photos I’d take of you daily. I often wonder how it would have been; me coming home to help you with homework, teach you. You going to madressa and learning more about your religion. I often wonder what type of questions you’d be asking me.
I often wonder… I do that alot actually.
So on your special day. Know that mum and a whole lot of aunts and uncles, cousins, Junaid and Ma & PA are thinking of you. I know you’re in a much better place my son.
The love I have for you will never die. Till we meet again sweet child.
The Deluca coffee shop offers a variety of yummy goodness, from fine coffees to decadent shakes to amazing pizzas, burgers and samies. They have it all.
My all time favourite is their spicy NewYork cheese fries (they have it in mild too).
The portion is enough to feed two to three people #airpunch! We love decent portions. Hubby and I are healthy eaters and so it was enough for just us two. #grin.
Their cheese sauce is cheesy and out of this world… I mean taste is everything! The ratio of sauce to chips is perfect. This ratio is so important because real foodies don’t do a dollop of sauce on top and nothing at the bottom. We need an even spread. They got It down to a science peeps and if all that isn’t enough, each portions is topped with chicken strips and pickled jalepenos.
The smell is enough to make you have foodgasm!
The pricing is not that bad at all, considering it feeds 2-3 people. @just R76.00, you can enjoy all this yumminess. I swear! it’s like angels tickling your taste buds.
Whilst I make my own chilli cheese fries that hubby adores, these are by far one of the best chilli cheese fries I’ve had. Try it out and be sure to let me know.
Love and light always, from just an ordinary foodie.
Can I just commend the folk involved in rescuing this baby and the many other abandoned babies out there. And an even huger thank you to all the baby and kiddies homes out there. You guys are making a difference!
As always, majority of our community members used this opportunity to judge, belittle and curse the mother of this baby without knowing who abandoned the baby or what the mother’s situation was. I for one, felt for that baby. As a woman who has lost a kid and is looking to have my own soon, my heart bled for that little girl and I could somewhat understand the anger and frustration from everyone but till an extent.
For me, my heart bled even more for the mother of that baby. I kept thinking and wondering what space she must have been in to do something like that. I kept wondering how desperate she must have been in.
Personally, I know what difficult situations can do and the state they can sometimes leave you in… And not all of us deal with these difficulties or aftermaths in the same manner.
I mean I know God has a plan and part of me felt like he knew that he would protect that baby and so I couldn’t help but think that just maybe it all happened because this mum needs help.
As women we often go through so much and yet it becomes so easy for us to tear someone else down without knowing their story. Imagine if that was your sister, niece, cousin or friend… and you knew nothing about what they were facing but came to hear of it after. Would you still judge as harshly as you are now?
As a community, our first reaction is to judge from behind a phone or keyboard. That’s one of our biggest problems; quick to vent and complain but not many put their hands up to actually change a situation.
We become vial and suddenly play the roles of being sinless or holier than thou. We forget that there may be things that we are not particularly proud of that we may have done, be it an affair, sex before marriage, gossiping, lying, stealing, drugging, murder etc etc…you can see where I’m going with this.
It is so important to know that opinions are just that and they never warrant us judging someone just because they sin differently to us, especially without knowing all the facts.
We fail to think that maybe this is an opportunity for us as a community to change and become more proactive. Look at the devil.
Maybe if this mom knew that her community would stand by her through what ever she was going through as opposed to knowing how we usually judge and so would judge her irrespective, or even knowing how she’d be blasted on social media(because that’s what we do) , just maybe the outcome would have been different.
We use our energy on prying on other people’s pain,… Maybe to prevent us from actually looking at ourselves and taking accountability for the wrongs we’ve done. You don’t call that justice. It’s actually pathetic. We complain about racism, sexism, terrorism but oppression towards people who make mistakes, or suffer from mental disorders or feel like they don’t have any other way out becomes okay…how messed up is that. And even if they are “whores” or whatever else one might call them… It is not our place to judge.
I’d like for something positive to come out of this, even if it is just awareness.
WE know that there are alternatives to dumping unwanted kids… But for someone battling a mental illness or disorder or going through a difficult time… sometimes their judgment is clouded.
Can we circulate alternatives? Letting distressed mums to be or mums who feel they don’t have options, know that they actually do have options?
Mothers can leave their unwanted babies at a baby safe. There is an organization dedicated to making baby safes to prevent babies being abandoned. For more information or even if you’d like to sponsor, please click here or you can google The baby safe.
There are baby safes on the Bluff. In Amanzimtoti, PMB and Durban North.
And if you you are anywhere else in the country, the website has a list of baby safes in other provinces as well.
If you know of any other way, like Crisis Centre information or where people can find out more about family planning and contraceptives etc. Please comment below or share it on your social media platforms, in your community or even at your work place?
We need to take our community back and we are only as strong as our weakest link… Let that sink in.
Love and light always, from just an ordinary community member.
You watch her do her, as best she can. Fiercely she takes on challenges one after the other; and boy are you drawn to this; her fight.
You study her, the way she walks, talks, smiles, walks into a room and steals the hearts of those around her; turning a dark room into a brightly lit ball of energy.
You admire her courage, her living life to the fullest; you see all of her pictures on social media, checking in with her closest friends, having the time of their lives and you can’t help but want to be apart of it all.
You hear about how fierce she is at the office, how she stands firm for the things she believes in. You love that she speaks her mind, and confidently so and is so passionate about the things and people close to her… and you can’t help but want to be in a closest of circles.
We all know someone like her, don’t we?
But what many don’t know is that you only seewhat she wants you to see.
What you don’t know, is what got her to that point, how many tears she cried to get to a point where she promised herself that she will NEVER depend on anyone else, but herself, for her own happiness.
You don’t know what toughened her and made her Ray Charles to the BS and all that’s superficial around her. You don’t know what broke her only to build her stronger than before.
She wears pain like a pearl necklace around her neck and often that distracts how scared and anxious she really feels inside.
You don’t know what abuse she succumbed that numbed her and hence now she’s living life to the fullest.
You see behind every strong, independent woman, is a story of hurt, pain, anger; struggle. There’s a story of sacrifice and strength.
You see this beautiful Bella but when you’re close enough, the cracks start showing, the anxiety and vulnerability start over flowing. She’s okay in her own because she knows self will never let her down.
Will you still want to befriend or love her then? When she’s not so strong and the cracks become more visible. on some days. Would you still want to be amongst her closest?
She knows strength. She’s TKO’d pain and she’s overcome heartbreak.
Let’s take a moment to acknowledge and celebrate a strong woman today.
Love and light, from just an ordinary strong woman.
It’s okay to have down days and it’s even more okay to ask for help on those days.
Yesterday I woke up and my spirits were literally scraping the floor. I asked some of my contacts on my what’sapp list to send me some positive stuff. Man, the support and amount of positive dosages I got were enough to get my spirits up and about.
I’m going to share some of the stuff I received yesterday with you, incase you’re having my yesterday, today.
Each post I received moved me and heightened my spirits. People took time to send me stuff, just because I was down and expected nothing in return.
May God bless each and every one of you who helped me through yesterday. Aaameeen.
Love and light always; an appreciation from just an ordinary girl. 💋