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Power to the “Shes” of the world

I occasionally write for a platform at work. And with all the chaos happening around us. It inspired this post. Take a read:

I find it ironic how, in the wake of women’s month, we wake up to news reports headlining the gruesome murders of kids, teens and adults; most of which are female. This blog post is not going to be a feminism escapade or a female rant at that. Instead, it is going to pay tribute to the very many, powerful and influential queens of the world. #queendom.

It is an affirmation for the queens and serves as a reminder to the kings, to appreciate every woman they encounter.

I|AM|A|QUEEN

I am queen because I’ve overcome hurts and pain that was meant to break me. I turn pain into power!

I am a queen because God made me and because I know I can only do things with his will and permission and hey, I’m okay with that.

I’m a queen because when I do something, I do it with love and all things positive. I don’t do it based on condition or because I have to. If it’s well within my soul, it’s the purest and most sincere.

I am a queen because I treat people with honesty, love and respect, like the kings and queens that they are; Because what’s the use of identifying somebody as a king or queen but never treating them with the honour that they deserve…

I am a queen because I err. I am flaw-filled but I wear those flaws confidently because we were not born perfect, we were born to work towards being better than who we were yesterday.

I am a queen because I’m a warrior and not a worrier. Nothing can keep me down for too long. Call me my own knight in shining armour! I soldier on proudly in the constant wars that happen between the self and I, and those that continue around me. Forget justice, I am in the league of Hercules and Maximus Decimus Meridius

I am a queen because I choose to celebrate the best in people and not compete. You can never compare me to you. Our struggles are different and therefore our battles are different.

I am a queen because I fight for what’s right, irrespective of race, colour or creed so best believe, if you are coming for me, you better come correct.

I am a queen because I love to learn. I try different things to widen my perspective and self-growth and mastery is what I’m after.

And hell, I am a queen because I brush my hair some days and others I don’t, I listen to rap music one day and then jazz the next. I rock purple orange and green on some days and black and grey on others.

Point is, I’m a queen in my own right and my soul is royalty! Rest assured, you and yours are too.

Love, light and supreme delight: from just an ordinary queen!

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My head is barely above water

I had to work extremely hard today to control the anger,to keep the memories from swallowing and drowning my heart. And I’m exhausted now.

Memories of the different encounters of abuse, the affairs, the loss of my son, the violence, the struggles of just being a true authentic human being and people often taking that for a weakness, the heartache… It all came flooding back. I know what happens when I allow it to wash me away to depressing shores and so I fight daily to keep afloat. Today I’m barely making it.

See, what people don’t understand is that when you go through something traumatic, it never goes away. We work hard daily to rise above it all and keep moving, to work at it, to restore faith and trust. Its an everyday job where leave is something utopic. Some days we’re successful and are euphoric and other days we struggle, barely keeping our faces above water.

Today was one of those days for me.

To the pretentious kind. I don’t have the energy to deal with you today, so stay at bay.

To the judges of the world, do me a favour and take 30 to just relook at your own life. I can almost bet the judgment you possess towards me will be making a 360 towards yourself.

To the perpetrators, come correct… Kind is somewhere in my DNA, just not at the forefront of my logic today… So preservation of the positivity in my optimism well is the main goal for now. Not your pride or your ego…that I generally nurture in hope of yourll doing and being better.

I still have a house to clean, a prayer to say and tons of assignments to do. Allah if ever I needed you, it’s today.

Truest feelings, from just an ordinary girl trying to stay afloat

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Team All_things_nice Millennial Group (AMG) = hope personified.

Chapter one

The gist

Many South Africans “stood” in solidarity yesterday by wearing all black. This was a stand up against the brutal attacks on women and the xenophobic attacks that have escalated in past weeks.

I decided to stand with my fellow South Africans in, what I believe to be, a different way.

See, Maya Angelou once said that people will forget what you do for them but they will never forget how you make them feel… Or something along those lines. And I for one, agree with her.

So I set out on a task, which started out prematurely but ended in the most heartfelt, touching way.

Chapter two.

Filling in the gaps

Towards the end of July 2019 I applied to be a simulations Team leader. It’s basically a team leader coach to new people entering the business, in their training period. I was successful. People have always been my passion and I love making people smile and just helping out in general. Not blowing my own horn, but just giving you an idea of why I was so excited when I was awarded this opportunity.

What was daunting is that the group I was selected to help out with, is a Learnership group. Yeap millenials who are mostly fresh out of high school…

I’m sure you can understand why this was a teeny weeny bit nerve wrecking!

Fast forward a month and a half, a couple of coaching sessions, hilarious and sometimes inappropriate comments/encounters and unforgettable moments… These guys and girls have literally changed my life and have each earned a place in my heart.

The final chapter.

The lasting impact

Friday, the 06th of September 2019. I woke up and dressed in navy blue. I honestly forgot about the whole wear black escapade. Don’t judge me, it was a really rough week, with late nights, early mornings, minimal sleep and still thoughts of spending the weekend buried in text books and having to finish 11 assignments. So go easy on me now.

With all of the chaos happening around us; the negativity, anger and darkness our country seems to be in, I wanted to create a positive hub in our training room. The aim was purely to lift our spirits.

The thinking behind this task was to encourage these young girls and guys to always show gratitude, to focus on the positive and to always seek the silver lining; to see hope in adversity.

The task of the day was for each of them to write one thing that they like best about themselves and then to go around the room and tell each of their training buddies one thing that they like about them.

No lie, it started out funny. But believe me when I say that by the time we were done, it was one of the most fulfilling, heartfelt, sincere and memorable moments I’ve ever witnessed. I saw young kings show vulnerabilty and gratitude towards their fellow kings and watched them pour their inner most feelings out to the fellow queens in our training group. I saw young queens commend and speak life into their fellow queens and watched them uplift our young kings.

It was a beautiful and inspiring encounter. Ego, pride, shade, conspiracy, negativity, fakenicity (its a word, don’t ask further) had no place in that room. It didn’t exist. And boy was that refreshing.

The whole task was so authentic that I woke up inspired to write this post.

My Learnership guys have given me hope. Hope in our future. Hope in our young men and women. They aren’t just delinquent, entitled millenials. They are young, bright, sincere, real, talented and respectful beings.

I am super blessed to have encountered each and every one of them.

Team AMG. You guys rock awesome!

Love, light and cool vibes only… From just an ordinary simulations team leader.

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Is your positivity well drying up? Ask for help!

Whenever I have down days and my positivity well is drying up, I often pray and reach out for help.

You know the feeling when your mind is very busy and cant be calmed and your spirits are scraping the floor and you feel like you just tired of fighting and pushing through? When your head spins, heart aches and eyes tear? Or when you feel like every fibre in your body is being challenged? It’s at that moment that you can let it all consume you, or you can reach out and ask those around you to help you.

This morning I woke up feeling like what I’ve described above. I prayed and then asked the people on my contact list on what’sapp to share any motivational reads or content.

I instantly got responses with some beautiful reminders. Does it make it all go away? Durh no! But it challenges your mind to think about the message in front of you and in most cases, that message helps fill up your positivity well.

We were not meant to go through this journey of life alone.

So just remember, you’re never alone. Whilst there are some folk who are just horrible, there’s a ton of folk or are ever ready to help wherever they can.

Observation

The people who reached out to me this morning, I know personally. And all of them are fighting challenging battles. It’s a choice to just get out there and do and be better. That in its own inspired me so much.

Check out some of the responses I received below

I also received this video which is so inspiring

Please be sure to check out.

Love and light always, posted by just an ordinary girl.

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Golden Black creates waves #BAM

With June amongst us, rest assured we’re going to come across some very inspirational reads on our news feeds. With it being Youth month and that generally meaning that youth doing great things are showcased and celebrated, I find this post fitting.

Just over two months ago Golden Black released their first project titled BAM (By Any Means). The 15-track album is a pure delight to listen to, whether it is in the car on your way to work, having a cleaning jam session or even if you’re set to paint the town red; it creates an all- round feel-good vibe.

My favourite tracks on the album are: Perfect service, Set it off, I need you and Prjkt wolf and my hubby’s (yes, he is an avid listener) is Cream. It was a shocker to see him select the album in the car for us to vibe to, because he hardly ever listens to local music. (hey, judge him, not me…I’m a local is lekker kinda girl #giggles).

We are not the only ones who are feeling the l.o.v.e for this album. To date the hip hop/ afro-trap trio has steady album sales and close to 50K online streams. SA’s hip hop sensation Nasty-C also showed love to the group when a video was uploaded showing him jamming along to the groups “set it off” track. Click here to check it out. Need we say more? Nah! But we want to, so read along.

The group announced that there will be music videos for each track on the album and mentioned a potential deluxe version of the album featuring Nasty-C in the pipeline. For a first –time project, the group is certainly making sure it creates just the kinda waves we like to ride 😎. To make sure you don’t miss out on the 411 and the group’s next move, be sure to follow them on the social media streets. Handles to be noted at the end of this post.

The group itself consists of three young, vibrant and extremely creative individuals: Anston Kling, Fxrgo and Slay. Their real names are: Lungelo Msomi, Thabiso Mngadi and Siyalonda Mtshali respectively. Started off almost a decade ago, the group has faced their fair share of trials, but they made sure that those trials only fueled them to be bigger and better and left no room for failure or negativity.

They bounce off each other’s creativity and vibe like a well-oiled machine. These boys know what they want and will stop at nothing to ensure they get it. They are dedicated personified and understand beautifully that what you put in is what you get out.

The group is no stranger to the industry though, they have worked along side some of SA’s icons, be it as Golden Black or as Saak Beats; the group but as producers. Yeap, they are the full package. They make beats, produce, write lyrics and alles. Speak about being the full package 😊. They have worked with La Bron, Nasty C, Jnr B, Junior De Rocka, Dj Rico, Reason and Tellermann, just to name a few. I told you, they’re no strangers 😉

We certainly look forward to more amazing projects from this talented trio and wish them nothing but love, light and success.

To take listen to the album, see the links below:

iTunes: https://t.co/4Z3KiskvPc

Google Play: https://t.co/Hd46dsw7DL

Audiomack: https://t.co/OdjWLWu9uv

You can follow Golden Black on the following social media handles:

Facebook, Twitter, Instagram: GoldenBlack_ZA

Email: goldenblackent@gmail.co.za

Too much love and light, from just an ordinary girl 😊

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I won a quarterly Star Award

The begining

From the first day I walked inside the KZN DH (my employer) offices, I knew I wanted to do great things.

My journey at DH was the start of a new Era for me. Leaving behind a toxic marriage, getting over the death of my son, and two grans; I knew I needed to dust myself off and steer this ship into positive, calmer waters. DH was the begining of that journey.

I’ve worked my behind off, trying to better myself both personally and in my career. And when I heard what a star award was and everything you needed to exude and possess to be nominated or even to win one, I knew I wanted to hold the title of this award. Not for the title itself, but to prove to myself that I am worthy and I possess all the right qualities to keep myself ahead and afloat.

Random info bits

Everyone who knows me, knows that 2013/14 were the toughest years of my life.

What people don’t know is that 2018/19 were even tougher.

Battling health issues, an array personal soul-eating and positive sucking battles, being a student whilst juggling work and personal projects, I found myself working triple time just to stay afloat. This is how I’ve been feeling.

Fighting battles that challenged my spirit, my faith, my character, my identity and almost surrending.

It’s been rough and tough. I’ve never been challenged this much. But I know that you only grow when you’re out of your comfort zone.

The call

Friday, 07 June 2019, I went to get some rest to prep myself for a night of studying. I get a phone call telling me that I’ve won a quarterly Star award. I was in shock. Literally. All I remember was thanking the management team and then crying when I put the phone down.

There were other times I’d deem myself “on top of my game” or “worthy” but of late I’ve been feeling burnt out. Drowning almost. Never in a 1000 Years did I expect that I’d be chosen to win at this point. I mean I knew I’ve been working and working hard. But that’s never been an option; not working hard. I guess with all the negative stuff thats been around me, it felt too good to be true. Like this was my break almost.

What the award means to me

This award is confirmation to myself that I still have so much more fight, so much more passion, so much more to give. It’s God’s way of telling me I am enough and that the devil cannot and will not steal my joy. It’s the universes way of telling me to keep my head up and keep going because I am one of its brightest stars and my shine has not been dulled. It’s my employers way of telling me that my efforts are not unnoticed.

Know this

I’ve never ran from adversity. It’s not in my DNA to. Even when I don’t know it, my body’s natural instinct is to gear up and fight my best fight. I may have been down temporary, but this girl is coming back with a vegence.

Thank you

Thank you to all my team leaders. From my extended hour team to where I’m currently at as a client relationship manager. I could never have gotten this far with out you guys. To my dearest work friends that have now become my family, thank you for always encouraging me and pushing me. To the management team thank you for leading by example and paving the way for us. Thank you for believing in me. For the person who nominated me, thank you for deeming me worthy of your time and of this award. I am forever grateful. To my family and my husband, thank you for never letting me stay down, for never allowing me to throw my own pity party, for always encouraging me. And then last but but least, shukr Allah, for listening to me and putting me through trials and tribulations to teach me the lessons I needed to be taught. Thank you for never giving up on me. I am forever grateful.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary quarterly star award winner ❤️