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Daily Affirmation challenge #1

My support structure ( God , family and friends) are a constant. They accept me as I am and encourage me to be me. I am blessed.

What’s yours? Spread it, let’s hear these affirmations. The world is in need of some positivity.

Love and light from just an ordinary girl 

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I think it will all be okay. 

There is no greater confidence than knowing that you have a solid support structure; God, family, friends ❤️

Isn’t it amazing how God works? We may never understand his plan but I’ve learnt that it always works out. 

So Friday night I went through something very emotional. Something that’s going to take a while to get used to or to get over. Something that makes me feel robbed but at the same time, makes me beat myself up for a million reasons, because I feel so shitty. 

But, even through this ordeal, there’s no way that I can ever be blinded to the blessings that God continue’s to remind me of.

I don’t think that it was a coincidence that I had just watched Girls Trip before this took place or that I got to see one of my besties kids who, the moment they saw me, embraced me and couldn’t ask me questions fast enough ( aaah I love kids) or even that one of my other besties is going through something worse and at the very same time, happened to be chatting with me too. I couldn’t be blinded to the fact that yesterday, my plans deviated and I ended up on the beach with my cousins, a friend and her kids and we literally just soaked up the peace and serenity. I also don’t think the conversation with one of the realist people I know ( my mother) happened. 

Now the meaning of the events that occurred above may not make sense at this point, but let’s break it down. 

The movie: Girls trip, is all about reminding ourselves of our purpose and highlighting the importance of having the right people in your corner. The movie focuses on a group of friends that reunite after years without seeing each other. They go through a series of events that reveal some of the struggles they’re all facing. They eventually find themselves and their purposes and it all works out.

I was forced to sit and think about my purpose, forced to be grateful for the people behind me and forced to look within myself and see exactly how and what I could have done differently, and now? I take all of that and start working on growing myself, righting my wrongs and working on being a better me.

Seeing my friends kids… if you know me, you know I adore kids. But I think my number 1 emotional need of feeling appreciated was fulfilled. These kids, and I can never fathom why, reciprocate my love and for some reason, feeling their tight hugs and seeing their smiles made something in me feel like it’s all going to be alright. Research suggests that a human being’s greatest emotional need, is to feel appreciated , I think me and research are on the same page (: 

When somebody goes through something worse than you, you tend to relook at your situation and you realize that it could be sooo much worse. One of the strongest people I know is also going through something that’s really not cool. Looking at how she handles her situation gives me a ray of hope that I can and will find my strength. Big ups to you G, there’s no prouder friend than I. We’re going to be okay ❤️

And then, seeing Gods work. We really underestimate what just chilling on the beach and watching waves can do. It was absolutely beautiful and I was reminded that God is present and his creation is beyond beautiful. I know he’s working on me (; 

Today, I got to see my mentee, God I am blessed. She couldn’t tell me fast enough about the events of her holiday. She literally spoke my ear off but just being with her , even with me feeling broken and all, calmed my heart. I don’t know if it was her innocence, her being grateful for the littlest of things or if it was how she aspires to do great things with her life… but I felt liberated after spending time with her.

So I felt obliged to share this with you. Work on earning yourself an excellent support structure, whilst having this won’t guarantee no heart Ache or drama or challenge, it does help you get through and face each challenge with a certain type of confidence.

There’s always a lesson to be learnt and something to be grateful for, with every experience or encounter. Remember this always.

May peace, happiness and contentment be the order the week to come. 
❤️ and 🌈 from just an ordinary, shitty person trying to be better🙏🏼

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Student 101: Essentials of planning 

Failing to plan is planning to fail 

~ unknown

So after the eventful weekend and a Monday off, it was back to the grind; the chaos, the admin… you know how it goes. 

I also received my study material from the University of South Africa (UNISA). I was so eager to go through everything that as soon as I got home and prepared supper, I dived right into it… 

And then I got so overwhelmed sigh! 

I had to remind self that we’ve been here before and others have too, and they’ve been ok, so we’ll be ok. Self calmed down and then I decided to start working constructively. 

One thing I’ve taken away from the corporate world that brilliantly applies to managing ones studying, is planning. I honestly am guilty of taking this for granted and not giving it the importance it deserves. 

Once you learn to plan, you plan to succeed. You are aware of deadlines, you’re more organized, you are able to manage your time to ensure that whatever needs to be done, gets done.

And so I decided to start with reading through my tutorial letters, marking the assignment pages for each module with little sticky notes and then plotted it on a year planner (UNISA sent me one, you can make one if you don’t have an already printed one) 

I colour coded mine to make it easier to identify what’s due when at first glance and well to make it more colourful (: I then pinned it up on my wardrobe.

I have a key ( as you can see right on top) indicating which colour represents which module. All entries marked with “1” are placed on their respective due dates. These are one of two assignments for each module this semester. All entries marked with 2, are placed on their respective due dates and these are the second assignments due for each module in this semester. 

Finally, all entries marked “exams” are placed on the days that I’m set to write and the times. 

You can plot this on your phone if you’re more tech savvy, jot it in your diary, schedule emails to yourself or set reminders if you will…. just plan (: 

If you would like to adopt a similar method to mine, here’s the things that you would need:

  • Year planner 
  • Sticky notes ( various colours to colour code the various modules)
  • Pair of scissors 
  • Sellotape 
  • Pen
  • Your study material

You could even plot your assignments and exam dates by writing with different colour pens if you wish. It really is up to you. 

Today’s quote is therefore dedicated to the essentials and importance of planning. This may apply to any project, your job or simple goals or simple things that you’d like to do around the house. #justplan

Hope this helps Xx 

Love and light from just an ordinary girl Xx

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Cafe’ hopping: The Antique cafe’

I honestly did not know that durban has such amazing cafe’s! Life outside from under the rock is so fulfilling! 

I had plans to get my electronic student card, only to be told that they only do those from Tuesday onwards… 

Decided to check out another cafe that my cousin was raving about: The antique cafe. 

Boy am I not sorry that I tried this place out. If you’re looking for a mello, low-key, Italian vintage kinda vibe, this is the place for you. 

Also situated in the heart of durbs, this place oozes creativity. Who would ever think that mismatched things could compliment each other so well?

They have books, antiques, flowers and clothes on sale too! 

The Menu prices are fair, we tried out their chai tea latte’s, toasted rye cheese and tom samies with sweet potatoe fries and then ended it off with a yummy slice of baked cheesecake. Bill including the tip was R160. 00. 

It took a while for us to get served however, The owner is amazingly sweet and the hospitality thereafter was amazing. Oh! And they have free wifi too 😉 so all that made the wait worthwhile 🙂

For contact details, address and menu details click here

Make sure to pop in, I promise you will not be disappointed.

♥️|🌈 and all things 🍭 from just an ordinary girl. 

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Cafe’ hopping : The freedom cafe 

In a desperate attempt to get a decent chai latte, a very good sister friend and I decided to search for a cafe joint in durbs where we could get one.

With the studying underway, I suggested we try out a new joint each Sunday where I can work on assignments over a cuppa coffee and her, read a book. 

This week we tried out the Freedom Cafe’ 

Situated in the heart of Durban, this place is the epitome of peace. It’s serene surrounding and calm vibes make it the perfect place for a Sunday afternoon chill , a place to free your thoughts or midweek breather. 

Their menu is well priced ( 2x chai latte’s plus the tips AND a role of sweets = R55.00), their staff are so pleasant and design is as vintage and retro as they come. 

How gorj?

For their menu and contact details, please click here

Feel free to share a selfie and your thoughts or, to make any suggestions on places we should consider.

♥️|🌈 and all things 🍭from just an ordinary girl