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Ladies only: My journey with abnormal uterine bleeding

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged here. Being in a very confusing and overwhelming state and my health taking a knock, I honestly haven’t had much gumption for anything besides sleep.

Many of you who know me, know that for the past two years, I’ve been battling abnormal uterine bleeding. This post is me documenting my journey with this in hope to offer support to others who are battling the same thing and to get support, tips and tricks from others as well. So here it goes.

My journey!

In 2018, I was admitted twice, by two different gynae’s for abnormal uterine bleeding and discharged without an actual diagnosis. I was treated for the bleeding and it was stopped, all scans and tests came back normal and I was told stress and a bad diet can lead to hormonal imbalances, which is the secondary cause of most cases of uterine bleeding. I instructed to lose some weight and all will be fine and was put on the pill (Marvelon) for a few months and was told all should be sorted. I will admit, my weight has been up and down and I haven’t spent much time focusing on losing weight. It might be an excuse but might I add, the previous Gynae didn’t pin it down to weight loss because he said he’d treated and delivered babies for patients heavier than me.

For a couple of months after that I was fine. Period was regular and hey, the cloud over my head was disappearing…but not for long. Soon after, 1 period lead from one week, to one month to three. The bleeding would then suddenly stop. Then I’d go months without bleeding or getting a period and then the cycle would start all over again.

This has been going on for about two years. I know there are many women who can relate. It’s amazing when you reach out and only then do you hear and come to know of so many women going through this. It isn’t easy to deal with this. Physically, mentally and psychologically. It is draining. We will keep that post ( the emotional roller coaster for another post).

To date I’ve been bleeding heavily for months. About a month ago I visited my GP who gave me medication to stop the bleeding and started me on the pill again (Marvelon). For the first week, the bleeding had stopped, goodness was I relieved but then Aunty Susie and her cousins had withdrawal symptoms and just needed to visit again. Yeap, the bleeding started again, even whilst being on the pill. Just this time is was coupled with the most severe cramps I have ever experienced. If I could compare it, it would def fit the description of a contraction. The heaviness of the pelvic area, the wave of excruciating pain and a sharper pain over the left ovary and my lower back region. This got me really worried.

With all things COVID and the financial burdens it has added on many of our shoulders, seeing a gynae was going to to harden the blow. Nothing less than R1000 for a consult plus whatever meds they were going to prescribe, which I was certain would include something to stop the bleeding, very expensive pills, and another batch of contraceptives, iron supplements and who knows what else.

I decided to research homeopathy instead. Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of feeding my body something synthetic to do what it is naturally supposed to do. So I was never a fan of any form of contraceptive. I’ve always gravitated to all things natural, from oil mixtures for my hair, to making home treatments for my face, the flu, green juices etc. I figured I have nothing to lose by just trying a more natural approach since the more conventional medicine routine didn’t help much.

I googled and found Dr Farzana Hansa based in Musgrave Durban and decided to visit. I was so impressed by her, she just had a wonderful aura and energy. I felt so calm around her. She was really concerned by how long I’d been bleeding for and made a concerted effort to create a time line for me, from family history of illnesses, to my illnesses, to physical concerns from head to toe, to emotional and mental check ins. As a side note I have been under an immense amount of stress from both my work and personal life. To the point where I find it difficult to just cope and manage. I feel so overwhelmed and to still be battling health issues…it becomes much even for strong people like myself. I had divulged all of this to her, including the loss of Mikail, the step admissions I mentioned earlier and all of my chronic illness etc. she even asked for medication intake frequently.

She started me on a regime to try to balance out the hormones and to manage the anxiety and stress. She prescribed 30 drops Ashwaghanda and Rhodliola drops with 30 drops of chasteberry drops in a 1/4 glass of water morning and evening. 5 drops of vitamin D drops every morning under the tongue and my very first homeopathic treatment called calc carb, to help with and manage the stress and moods and that’s 5 drops under the tongue every evening. All this with a probiotic, omega 3 and iron supplement.

My natural medicine regimen

She made me feel hopeful again as she said that there are lots of natural remedies to try but started off with this to see if it works. I am day 4 into the regime and have a check in with her next Friday. Let’s cross fingers and hope the bleeding calms. I have noticed a better quality of my sleep from day 2 but to date, the bleeding is still very heavy. The cramps however, are not as frequent and not as intense. For the four bottles of treatment ( Ashwagandha, Chasteberry, Vit D and the Calc Carb, I already had the other stuff, so she suggested to finish that off) with the consult, my bill was R1 045.00. Compared to what I would’ve paid had I visited a gynae. I was chuffed.

This is where I am at on my journey. I had an idea to try and document each milestone or encounter and really hope this may some how offer support to anyone else going through this. I know how lonely it gets going through this. Just know you are not alone and any other woman reading this, if you know if someone battling this, please make a concerted effort to check in with her every now and then, send anything like a positive message or upbeat song, to uplift a mood. Most often than not, just those small things helps us get through the day on some of our worst days.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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Petrichor: [Pet.Truh.Kaw]

Woke up to the sound of rain. A sound that I absolutely love. Came accross today’s word of the day and it ties in beautifully

Petrichor: An English word of Greek origin that refers to the earthly scent after it has rained on dry soil.

We always refer to ‘the smell of rain’ and how refreshing it is…. Turns out, there’s a word for it (=

Love and light always

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Eunoia [Yoo-Noy-uh] ° Greek

Eunoia: A word from Greek dialect that means: a pure and well balanced mind, a good spirit or beautiful thinking’.

It is a very difficult thing to unlearn; to unwire your brain of its negative default setting and to train it default to all things positive. It requires a calculated conscious effort. But like any muscle, once trained, you’re good to go.

Another word that is so relevant to what the world is going through right now. I am honestly in awe of these beautiful, unusual to many, words.

May we all strive towards eunoia.

Love and light always

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MERAKI. [May. Rah. Kee].

MERAKI: a word derived from the Turkish word Merak and is a verb or adverb in modern Greek literature.

It refers to putting something of yourself into your work; soul, creativity and love.

Everything that we do contributes to our personal brand. Perceptions, assumptions and thoughts are conceived by how we present ourselves, be it through our appearance, manner in which we conduct ourselves (behaviour) or our work.

To merely do something for the sake of doing is like leading a life with no purpose or direction. What’s the point?

I say that It is for this reason, that we must do all things Meraki; with sincerity, passion, love, soul and creativity. Every piece of work we put out must have that personal touch. It must ooze authenticity. This is a message I echo to my team at work and it serves as a reminder to me.

So whether you’re in the arts, the Corporate world, medical field, or whether you’re a teacher, administrator, book keeper or even a call Centre agent… Do all things with Meraki.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl.

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FIKA [Fee. Ka].

With the world going through lock down periods. It is uncertain times for us all and it becomes so easy to get lost in all the chaos.

Every minute of everyday we are exposed to information re: COVID-19. News feeds are bombarded with stats, breaking news, new laws, safety precautions, conspiracy theories, fake news and and and.

People are stressing about their family’s health, finances, kids education and job security. It all honestly becomes so overwhelming.

For me, I’ve made a personal decision to slow down. I hardly watch the news and just look out for the Presidents addresses or important info. I hardly speak about COVID-19 and purposely so and I try to live life as normal has possible.

I’ve looked for a deeper meaning to all of this. The bigger picture. As an essential worker, I get to go to work daily and that in its own is a blessing. It has been a tough few months and this lockdown served as a way for me to just take a step back and really focus on the good things.

Everymorning when I wake up, I thank God for everything he has blessed me with, from the bed that I sleep in, to the job that I still have secured, for keeping myself and family safe and even for my faith… You name it, I thank God for it. This act of gratitude honestly just puts the day in play.

I’ve seen many others do the same in their own way, mothers are able to spend more quality time with their kids and partners. Whereas pre COVID-19, there was barely any time. Parents get to try out and cook things they’ve never cooked before, whereas pre COVID-19, it was the quickest thing available to cook. Families are bonding, whereas pre COVID-19, it was each to their own. Earth is getting a break from human distruction; less pollution, less litter. Prayers are increasing and people are becoming more mindful of God.

We really have been granted FIKA and the choice is left to us to grab this moment. Slow it all down and just focus on the good things in life.

As a person who likes to have control over most things. I’ve learnt to take each day as it comes and to trust God more. I do more things with love. Have tasked myself to complete my vision board and stocked up on baking ingredients after months of procrastination.

Take your moment |Slow down | And start appreciating the good things in life.

There has never been a better time ✨✨

Love and light always

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South African lock down: Co-vid19

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It’s been a Hella crazy week. Being part of leadership in an Essential Services organization is no childs play. But looking back at the week we’ve had. I am immensely grateful for the organisation I work with and have a huge sense of pride. I am grateful for the work that we do.

With that being said, to the many people who are part of the lockdown…please abide by the rules of the lock down. You cannot be allowing your kids to play on the road or make use of communal spaces…. It goes against the need for the lock down. People should not be walking aimlessly or having parties, group sessions of any sort or inviting families over just to chill. Work with our police force and SANDF. They are out here sacrificing just to stand at the front line of combating the spread of this virus. Remember, that is someone’s father, husband, bread winner, or son.

Practice your precaution when going out to buy essentials. Sanatize when you’re out. Prevent touching your face. Be as quick as possible. Write a list. When you get home, disinfect everything. Wash your clothes in hot water and Sanatizer. Air your home by opening windows.

I urge you guys to make this time we have count. Use your 21 days to rehabilitate. Get out of bad habits. Form good ones. We’re always complaining that we have no time. We’re complain that we don’t get time to relax or spend time with kids.

You have that opportunity. You are in control of how you view this lockdown and spend this time. You are in control of how you will inspire and influence your families through this lockdown. This really could be the mid-year break you’ve been looking for, a chance to reinforce bonds, get in touch with your inner Gordon Ramsy or Picasso. Excersise. Read books, watch movies, legit Netflix and chill. Cook your own food. Rest your mind. The minute virus has the world bowing to it. Pray, practice gratitude. And in this time our earth gets to rest too.

This is the time that we all have to come together and work together to combat the spread of the virus. We all have a moral obligation to practice discipline. Stick to the rules of the lockdown. It starts with us just doing what we need to do. Share the things or ideas of things you are doing with your family. Cheer on and celebrate those essential services employees. Spread love and light during this very dark time.

It is said our ignorance will kill us, and if people still choose to be so careless, we are doomed.

There is always beauty in the struggle.

Love and light from just an ordinary essential services employee.

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Co-vid19: SA – Divide and conquer successful

Divide and conqur.

Sigh, sadly that’s what’s happening with the whole co-vid19 pandemic, which to me is just Ludacris.

I’ve seen people go back and forth on social media re: the delay of the presidents address. Personally, I can imagine what a daunting task it must be; making decisions that jeopardize the health and safety of your people, their household income and the effects it will have on the economy. However, personally, if I knew I kept my people waiting previously, I would have consulted first and announced the address to the nation after. My view is premature in all fairness, as I do not know a thing of government processes work.

With that said, it really is besides the point. In a time like this, instead of dividing ourselves over something we have no control over (the president and his agendas) we should be coming to together just as strong as, or if not stronger than our opinions and look for ways forward that we all can come out of this or ways that we can help others less fortunate than us (be mindful or leaving things for other people to buy, address symptoms and get them checked, wash hands, social distancing ourselves (this is hard for me sjo but it is important) and spreading love and light).

When the outbreak initially occurred. I feared this would happen. We’re a developing country and countries ahead of us in technology, economy, leadership etc, couldn’t contain the virus. We called out DIRCO and the dept of health to find out why aren’t we educating people on this as much as we should, suggested the travel ban and begged for our SA citizens to be repatriated and after many arranged radio interviews, Facebook posts and emails… We fell short. It’s only now this is being taken seriously.

I do commend our government on the rapid response they’re now taking to #flattenthecurv however, part of me still feels its a very reactive approach by our country and WHO. Travel bans were supposed to be imposed then…. It would definately have not been this volatile. So yes, I do understand the frustration  of our people and the panic and fear.

So here’s what I think:

If people are posting things you don’t agree with, posting  false information or being ignorant and you decide to respond, respond by imparting knowledge and move on. The world needs all of our prayers, good vibes, positive energy and knowledge right now and it feels wasted if we’re going to bash people because either they don’t know any better or don’t agree with us.

We should be coming together as a nation and finding ways of combating this.

I’m also guilty of sometimes prematurely responding or not staying indoors all the time because most of these measures have been implemented by myself and my family from when my sister and her kids were facing this in China, months ago, and sometimes I feel I just need to get out. There is definately more I can do to play part in this, take a stronger stance on the social distantancing thing, create more awareness and educational posts and choose to be the light in these darks times.

Whether you believe this whole thing is a conspiracy theory, the devil at work, God testing us or God giving earth a break…we should be standing together.

That’s just my 2c on this.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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I’m going to Brazil 🇧🇷😀

I began writing this post Thursday Evening, after I won my annual star award. I finally have a moment to post it. If you remember, I posted my thoughts and emotions after I had won a quarterly star award. If you missed that post, click here.

After I had won my annual star award. I began to reflect and all thoughts lead to this post. For those who don’t know, a star award is part of a recognition programme to acknowledge staff within the business for the work that they do. It is the most prestigious award that one could win, within the Discovery organisation…i know right?!

With that said, here it goes 🤗

The wind down

Driving back to the hotel and my mind is on the phenomenal company I work for, the people who have impacted my journey and it’s honestly trying to comprehend that next year, I (an ordinary from Newlands East) will be going to THE Brazil.

I was so emotional, as was I when I found out that l had won a quarterly award. I kept replaying the moment I heard my name being announced and the phenomenal love and celebration I received from people I’d never have known, if it weren’t for this opportunity, my family and my friends. It’s been a remarkably rough year for me and I’m sure for many others, it got to a point where staying afloat was becoming more and more difficult. This award is a reminder of my warrior spirit and will continue to serve as my reminder when I feel I’m not capable or worthy.

The emotion

When they called my name, my brain had to process whether they’d actually called it, I froze in dire disbelief and kept thinking “did I actually hear my name or was it my inner thoughts imagining how it would be if my name was actually called.” Reality set in when I got hugged left right and centre and then the things us women do when we can’t control our excitement began… Yes, I screamed and then cried.

I couldn’t think who to call first, it at one point felt like an asthma attack was coming on hahahaha #imaginethat

When the confiti fell and photos were taken, I felt an immense sense of gratitude to God for always just showing up and showing off at the times it’s needed.

As a side note, I’ve always been drawn to Brazil, their colourful culture and free spirited individuals. My name on mxit (do you guys remember that instant messaging app) was Ms Brazil and my mom would always refer to me as her Brazilian queen and then look at God…like he noted these things and said hey, when you need it the most, I will whip out this big break.

I felt gratitude towards the very many people that have taken a chance on me, who have said yes to me and an idea, those who said no to me, those who invested their time and knowledge in me, my trainers, simulations team leader, every team leader I’ve worked under, my colleagues who inspire me daily in one form or another, management for always leading from the front and my family and friends for always reminding me that I can do whatever I set my mind to do and who never allowed me to fail without trying my utmost best.

Working hard is one thing, but having people by your side to support and grow you is something else. That’s the organisation I work for and the people I’m surrounded by, all of whom Ive always been particular fond of.

The aftermath

Fast forward to the next morning. I’ve barely slept because I think I’m still in shock. I feel special, I feel like what I do honestly matters, I feel overjoyed because let’s be honest, I wouldn’t be able to afford this trip any time soon, on my own. I feel loved, by the many messages filtering through, the kind words and affirmations.

And these are just a few

Seeing a company so dedicated to recognizing the work it’s people does and to this extent is just remarkable to witness. Again, to say that I am honored would be an understatement.

So do everything with love, work hard and trust that it always pays off. Acknowledge the people you think are worthy and just continue to grow in love, light, faith and knowledge. The world has one of everybody else, what it needs is you, so leave a piece of you in everything that you do.

To everyone who has played a role in my journey and took the time and effort to groom me, this isn’t just my award. It’s ours and I thank you.

Love and light always, for just an ordinary girl going to Brazil

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How’s your day?

It has been such a challenging few weeks. You know when sometimes you feel like you’re drowning and the more you want to try and work through things, the more you get overwhelmed because you just know know where to start? That’s been me.

Moving into a new role is challenging enough. I was more excited about this because I was up for the challenge. What I was not prepared for was that, plus my Mums unexpected health shock, all whilst assignments and exams prep is underway.

I sought to pint rest for motivational quotes and other motivational sites to help keep me afloat and the support I’ve received from colleagues, friends and family has been of a great help but the lack of support from the people we sometimes need it from the most just adds to the already overwhelming period.

I just feel like I need to be doing more but I just don’t have the mental capacity to do so right now. Ever felt that way?

I know these moments are meant to make us grow and groom us into better versions of ourselves and I’m always ready for the rough seas before reaching calmer waters. I just needed to vent.

Giving up is not in my DNA. So even the thought of progress serves like a ray of sunshine in what seems to be a very gloomy and never-ending day.

Some personal and honest thoughts and feelings from just an ordinary girl trying to do better.

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Rosefest Durban… Are you ready?

In June this year we wrote up about the Rosefest announcement that multi-award winning artist Shekhinah dropped on us all.

The JHB show blasted off on 09 August 2019 and was such a huge success.

The Durban show is set for 12 October 2019 and Is celebration of the anniversary of the Rose Gold album.

Over the past few days, Shekhinah visited schools around Durban, her home town to pay homage. From the looks and sounds of things, she was warmly welcomed and energetically received. The Rose Fest is for everyone. You can legit bring your whole family.

Images are from the RoseFest Facebook page

Talks of candy-floss, food stalls, a live band and a fun fair are spreading through the airwaves and we are loving it. The only thing better than music at a fun fair, are selfies at the fun fair rocking rose gold tinted glasses!

Shekhinah’s aim is said to not only jive along to the music but to capture memories. And she’s creating a vibe for us to do just that. So grab your Coachella swag, get those tickets. And lets all be rosey!

Image from the Rosefest Facebook page

I’m definitely ready to Suite up and prepared for a uniquely Different music experience. It’s definately going to be one for the books.

Stay updated and be sure to like and follow the Rosefest Facebook page, click here. Or, visit the Rosefest website

Tickets are available at web tickets – book yours now!

Love and good vibes always, from just an ordinary girl.