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Ladies only: My journey with abnormal uterine bleeding

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged here. Being in a very confusing and overwhelming state and my health taking a knock, I honestly haven’t had much gumption for anything besides sleep.

Many of you who know me, know that for the past two years, I’ve been battling abnormal uterine bleeding. This post is me documenting my journey with this in hope to offer support to others who are battling the same thing and to get support, tips and tricks from others as well. So here it goes.

My journey!

In 2018, I was admitted twice, by two different gynae’s for abnormal uterine bleeding and discharged without an actual diagnosis. I was treated for the bleeding and it was stopped, all scans and tests came back normal and I was told stress and a bad diet can lead to hormonal imbalances, which is the secondary cause of most cases of uterine bleeding. I instructed to lose some weight and all will be fine and was put on the pill (Marvelon) for a few months and was told all should be sorted. I will admit, my weight has been up and down and I haven’t spent much time focusing on losing weight. It might be an excuse but might I add, the previous Gynae didn’t pin it down to weight loss because he said he’d treated and delivered babies for patients heavier than me.

For a couple of months after that I was fine. Period was regular and hey, the cloud over my head was disappearing…but not for long. Soon after, 1 period lead from one week, to one month to three. The bleeding would then suddenly stop. Then I’d go months without bleeding or getting a period and then the cycle would start all over again.

This has been going on for about two years. I know there are many women who can relate. It’s amazing when you reach out and only then do you hear and come to know of so many women going through this. It isn’t easy to deal with this. Physically, mentally and psychologically. It is draining. We will keep that post ( the emotional roller coaster for another post).

To date I’ve been bleeding heavily for months. About a month ago I visited my GP who gave me medication to stop the bleeding and started me on the pill again (Marvelon). For the first week, the bleeding had stopped, goodness was I relieved but then Aunty Susie and her cousins had withdrawal symptoms and just needed to visit again. Yeap, the bleeding started again, even whilst being on the pill. Just this time is was coupled with the most severe cramps I have ever experienced. If I could compare it, it would def fit the description of a contraction. The heaviness of the pelvic area, the wave of excruciating pain and a sharper pain over the left ovary and my lower back region. This got me really worried.

With all things COVID and the financial burdens it has added on many of our shoulders, seeing a gynae was going to to harden the blow. Nothing less than R1000 for a consult plus whatever meds they were going to prescribe, which I was certain would include something to stop the bleeding, very expensive pills, and another batch of contraceptives, iron supplements and who knows what else.

I decided to research homeopathy instead. Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of feeding my body something synthetic to do what it is naturally supposed to do. So I was never a fan of any form of contraceptive. I’ve always gravitated to all things natural, from oil mixtures for my hair, to making home treatments for my face, the flu, green juices etc. I figured I have nothing to lose by just trying a more natural approach since the more conventional medicine routine didn’t help much.

I googled and found Dr Farzana Hansa based in Musgrave Durban and decided to visit. I was so impressed by her, she just had a wonderful aura and energy. I felt so calm around her. She was really concerned by how long I’d been bleeding for and made a concerted effort to create a time line for me, from family history of illnesses, to my illnesses, to physical concerns from head to toe, to emotional and mental check ins. As a side note I have been under an immense amount of stress from both my work and personal life. To the point where I find it difficult to just cope and manage. I feel so overwhelmed and to still be battling health issues…it becomes much even for strong people like myself. I had divulged all of this to her, including the loss of Mikail, the step admissions I mentioned earlier and all of my chronic illness etc. she even asked for medication intake frequently.

She started me on a regime to try to balance out the hormones and to manage the anxiety and stress. She prescribed 30 drops Ashwaghanda and Rhodliola drops with 30 drops of chasteberry drops in a 1/4 glass of water morning and evening. 5 drops of vitamin D drops every morning under the tongue and my very first homeopathic treatment called calc carb, to help with and manage the stress and moods and that’s 5 drops under the tongue every evening. All this with a probiotic, omega 3 and iron supplement.

My natural medicine regimen

She made me feel hopeful again as she said that there are lots of natural remedies to try but started off with this to see if it works. I am day 4 into the regime and have a check in with her next Friday. Let’s cross fingers and hope the bleeding calms. I have noticed a better quality of my sleep from day 2 but to date, the bleeding is still very heavy. The cramps however, are not as frequent and not as intense. For the four bottles of treatment ( Ashwagandha, Chasteberry, Vit D and the Calc Carb, I already had the other stuff, so she suggested to finish that off) with the consult, my bill was R1 045.00. Compared to what I would’ve paid had I visited a gynae. I was chuffed.

This is where I am at on my journey. I had an idea to try and document each milestone or encounter and really hope this may some how offer support to anyone else going through this. I know how lonely it gets going through this. Just know you are not alone and any other woman reading this, if you know if someone battling this, please make a concerted effort to check in with her every now and then, send anything like a positive message or upbeat song, to uplift a mood. Most often than not, just those small things helps us get through the day on some of our worst days.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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South African lock down: Co-vid19

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It’s been a Hella crazy week. Being part of leadership in an Essential Services organization is no childs play. But looking back at the week we’ve had. I am immensely grateful for the organisation I work with and have a huge sense of pride. I am grateful for the work that we do.

With that being said, to the many people who are part of the lockdown…please abide by the rules of the lock down. You cannot be allowing your kids to play on the road or make use of communal spaces…. It goes against the need for the lock down. People should not be walking aimlessly or having parties, group sessions of any sort or inviting families over just to chill. Work with our police force and SANDF. They are out here sacrificing just to stand at the front line of combating the spread of this virus. Remember, that is someone’s father, husband, bread winner, or son.

Practice your precaution when going out to buy essentials. Sanatize when you’re out. Prevent touching your face. Be as quick as possible. Write a list. When you get home, disinfect everything. Wash your clothes in hot water and Sanatizer. Air your home by opening windows.

I urge you guys to make this time we have count. Use your 21 days to rehabilitate. Get out of bad habits. Form good ones. We’re always complaining that we have no time. We’re complain that we don’t get time to relax or spend time with kids.

You have that opportunity. You are in control of how you view this lockdown and spend this time. You are in control of how you will inspire and influence your families through this lockdown. This really could be the mid-year break you’ve been looking for, a chance to reinforce bonds, get in touch with your inner Gordon Ramsy or Picasso. Excersise. Read books, watch movies, legit Netflix and chill. Cook your own food. Rest your mind. The minute virus has the world bowing to it. Pray, practice gratitude. And in this time our earth gets to rest too.

This is the time that we all have to come together and work together to combat the spread of the virus. We all have a moral obligation to practice discipline. Stick to the rules of the lockdown. It starts with us just doing what we need to do. Share the things or ideas of things you are doing with your family. Cheer on and celebrate those essential services employees. Spread love and light during this very dark time.

It is said our ignorance will kill us, and if people still choose to be so careless, we are doomed.

There is always beauty in the struggle.

Love and light from just an ordinary essential services employee.

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Co-vid19: SA – Divide and conquer successful

Divide and conqur.

Sigh, sadly that’s what’s happening with the whole co-vid19 pandemic, which to me is just Ludacris.

I’ve seen people go back and forth on social media re: the delay of the presidents address. Personally, I can imagine what a daunting task it must be; making decisions that jeopardize the health and safety of your people, their household income and the effects it will have on the economy. However, personally, if I knew I kept my people waiting previously, I would have consulted first and announced the address to the nation after. My view is premature in all fairness, as I do not know a thing of government processes work.

With that said, it really is besides the point. In a time like this, instead of dividing ourselves over something we have no control over (the president and his agendas) we should be coming to together just as strong as, or if not stronger than our opinions and look for ways forward that we all can come out of this or ways that we can help others less fortunate than us (be mindful or leaving things for other people to buy, address symptoms and get them checked, wash hands, social distancing ourselves (this is hard for me sjo but it is important) and spreading love and light).

When the outbreak initially occurred. I feared this would happen. We’re a developing country and countries ahead of us in technology, economy, leadership etc, couldn’t contain the virus. We called out DIRCO and the dept of health to find out why aren’t we educating people on this as much as we should, suggested the travel ban and begged for our SA citizens to be repatriated and after many arranged radio interviews, Facebook posts and emails… We fell short. It’s only now this is being taken seriously.

I do commend our government on the rapid response they’re now taking to #flattenthecurv however, part of me still feels its a very reactive approach by our country and WHO. Travel bans were supposed to be imposed then…. It would definately have not been this volatile. So yes, I do understand the frustration  of our people and the panic and fear.

So here’s what I think:

If people are posting things you don’t agree with, posting  false information or being ignorant and you decide to respond, respond by imparting knowledge and move on. The world needs all of our prayers, good vibes, positive energy and knowledge right now and it feels wasted if we’re going to bash people because either they don’t know any better or don’t agree with us.

We should be coming together as a nation and finding ways of combating this.

I’m also guilty of sometimes prematurely responding or not staying indoors all the time because most of these measures have been implemented by myself and my family from when my sister and her kids were facing this in China, months ago, and sometimes I feel I just need to get out. There is definately more I can do to play part in this, take a stronger stance on the social distantancing thing, create more awareness and educational posts and choose to be the light in these darks times.

Whether you believe this whole thing is a conspiracy theory, the devil at work, God testing us or God giving earth a break…we should be standing together.

That’s just my 2c on this.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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Natural hair growth serum

I’ve been on a quest to go natural. From natural face masks to to hair masks, I Google, try, add my own stuff and then see how it works.

Some have worked and well the others… We’ll just leave it there 😁

My hubby, like most, is into growing his beard and more worrying to him, is his hair loss. I didn’t understand his ‘struggle’ until I realised that the hair near my hair line is thinning. It could be because my hair is 90% of the time is tied up, and tightly at that or that my hair has a developed a natural middle path.

Amidst changing paths and ensuring my pony tails or buns aren’t tied very tightly, I’ve googled some oils that promote hair growth and decided to try out a natural oil serum.

I have however, seen more oils that’s needed and so when I get around to getting them, I will add to the serum.

The oils I mixed are:

  • 30mls Jojoba oil
  • 30mls Olive oil
  • 30mls Almond oil
  • 30mls Coconut oil
  • 10 drops tea tree oil (per 100mls of a carrier oil)
  • 10 drops of spearmint oil

I only afterward saw that Rosemary, Thyme, lavender, Caedarwood and apricot kernal oils are also effective for hair growth. When I do get them, I will add 10 drops each into my mixture.

To compensate for rosemary and thyme, I’ve added the herbs to the oil mixture for now. I’ve also added mint leave to the oil since taking this picture.

The products were sauced from Dischem and Gorimas however, you can get them at any herbal shop or pharmacy. They ranged in prices between R8.99 and R79.99 each and is dependant on the size and brand you purchase. You can also get this pump bottle from Dischem retailing at R17. 99.

The smell is devine and this can be used on your skin as well. All these essential oils have been deemed effective in stimulating healthy and strong hair growth. Now we wait and see (= let me know what natural serums you’ve tried and and comment with any tips you may have for me.

Love, light and natural delights from just an ordinary girl

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The Corona Virus and its domino effect

What’s on my mind?

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My sister, her two kids and the many South African citizens abroad in China and this Corona virus.

We can downplay this all we want. But it is an epademic. Why would China suddenly build two hospitals in a matter of days if it wasn’t?

The deaths are real. The infection is real. The risk of infection is real.
Death toll is now at 170. Infected cases are about 7000 plus and and suspected cases are about 12 000 plus. Numbers are multiplying daily.

I stay anxious. My parents are riddled with worry and stress. We are a family of faith and we do believe God is in control. But the human in us comes out to play and the stress and worry is us being human.

My dad is barely eating, sleeping or talking and stays glued to the news Channel. My mum, trying to be strong, panics the moment she’s unable to reach my sister and the kids.

The worry is real.

The heart sore thing about it all is that we have to deal alone. There is no support from our government at all. I would have expected that someone would reach out to people here and there and groups created to let us all know we’re in this together and to actually do something. If other governments are able to do it with the ban Impositions. It is very much possible. And if that’s not an option, atleast take accountability daily and touch base with our citizens abroad. It’s very much possible with social media.

Food is a concern. Yes supermarkets are open and have enough food. Getting there is the risk. There is one taxi that is dedicated and runs per community… This virus is airborne. So I will leave this here. You can figure out why people are wary of going.

The Corona virus is said to 10x worse than the SARS virus. Scientist believe it will only die down in May…

Be wary people. Take the necessary precautions from now.

Up that immune system and start sanatizing frequently. I wouldn’t want any one to feel the anxiety and worry that I and my family are experiencing and that my sister and the very many others abroad are.

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Corona virus : Are you prepared?

First post for the new year and it is on this note. But let’s make the most of it shall we?

Amidst the outbreak of the horrid Corona Virus, news agencies have been reporting daily about how this vicious virus is claiming so many lives and how rapidly it is infecting people. The point of the post is to spread awareness. So please read until the end and share it with someone you know.

I have a sister and two nieces who are abroad. They are based In Hubei, Wuhan; the city mostly affected by this virus. The city is on lock down. Nobody can enter or leave. You need a permit to drive In public. The city is literally quarantined. People are dying; falling whilst waiting to get seen to. Hospitals are packed to capacity. Healthcare workers, no no rather heros, are working around the clock to ensure they cure and see to as many people as they can. I feel like I’m writing a script to a movie.

No doubt that their safety is my biggest concern. But further to that, it is our safety. If Shanghai has declared a level 1 emergency on this (the highest level), why aren’t we seeing preventative posts here In South Africa? I mean people are constantly traveling to and from China. It kinda is no wonder though, when our government doesn’t even care much about its citizens abroad.

Latest stats

What’s even more alarming is that every other continent has recorded cases of infected people except us here in Africa… One case was earlier brought to light but no confirmation on whether it was the virus or not. Are there really no records or is something being hushed? I suppose that’s a conversation for another day. But something just doesn’t add up.

The point of this post though is to spread awareness though, so let’s get back to topic.

Keep your immune systems strong. You can do that by staying hydrated, getting enough sleep, eating more fresh fruits and veggies. You can take vitamin c supplements and other multi vitamins. Excersise often and just stay healthy.

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Another important part of this is hygiene. Sanatize all your belongings atleast twice a day. Use alcohol based hand Sanatizer. Keep it with you. If you go to gym, wipe those machines down and sanatize before and after. If you don’t have Sanatizer, you mix a cap of detol to 400mls of water and spray it over your belongings. Or even use ammonia based products such as bleach and or Domestos.

Spread this as it could help save someone’s life.

The Corona virus is said to be 10 times worse than the SARS virus and scientists estimate that it will only start dying down In May. May God keep all those abroad safe and keep their families here at home calm. Aameen

Concerns, from just an ordinary girl.