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Ladies only: My journey with abnormal uterine bleeding

It’s been a while since I’ve last blogged here. Being in a very confusing and overwhelming state and my health taking a knock, I honestly haven’t had much gumption for anything besides sleep.

Many of you who know me, know that for the past two years, I’ve been battling abnormal uterine bleeding. This post is me documenting my journey with this in hope to offer support to others who are battling the same thing and to get support, tips and tricks from others as well. So here it goes.

My journey!

In 2018, I was admitted twice, by two different gynae’s for abnormal uterine bleeding and discharged without an actual diagnosis. I was treated for the bleeding and it was stopped, all scans and tests came back normal and I was told stress and a bad diet can lead to hormonal imbalances, which is the secondary cause of most cases of uterine bleeding. I instructed to lose some weight and all will be fine and was put on the pill (Marvelon) for a few months and was told all should be sorted. I will admit, my weight has been up and down and I haven’t spent much time focusing on losing weight. It might be an excuse but might I add, the previous Gynae didn’t pin it down to weight loss because he said he’d treated and delivered babies for patients heavier than me.

For a couple of months after that I was fine. Period was regular and hey, the cloud over my head was disappearing…but not for long. Soon after, 1 period lead from one week, to one month to three. The bleeding would then suddenly stop. Then I’d go months without bleeding or getting a period and then the cycle would start all over again.

This has been going on for about two years. I know there are many women who can relate. It’s amazing when you reach out and only then do you hear and come to know of so many women going through this. It isn’t easy to deal with this. Physically, mentally and psychologically. It is draining. We will keep that post ( the emotional roller coaster for another post).

To date I’ve been bleeding heavily for months. About a month ago I visited my GP who gave me medication to stop the bleeding and started me on the pill again (Marvelon). For the first week, the bleeding had stopped, goodness was I relieved but then Aunty Susie and her cousins had withdrawal symptoms and just needed to visit again. Yeap, the bleeding started again, even whilst being on the pill. Just this time is was coupled with the most severe cramps I have ever experienced. If I could compare it, it would def fit the description of a contraction. The heaviness of the pelvic area, the wave of excruciating pain and a sharper pain over the left ovary and my lower back region. This got me really worried.

With all things COVID and the financial burdens it has added on many of our shoulders, seeing a gynae was going to to harden the blow. Nothing less than R1000 for a consult plus whatever meds they were going to prescribe, which I was certain would include something to stop the bleeding, very expensive pills, and another batch of contraceptives, iron supplements and who knows what else.

I decided to research homeopathy instead. Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of feeding my body something synthetic to do what it is naturally supposed to do. So I was never a fan of any form of contraceptive. I’ve always gravitated to all things natural, from oil mixtures for my hair, to making home treatments for my face, the flu, green juices etc. I figured I have nothing to lose by just trying a more natural approach since the more conventional medicine routine didn’t help much.

I googled and found Dr Farzana Hansa based in Musgrave Durban and decided to visit. I was so impressed by her, she just had a wonderful aura and energy. I felt so calm around her. She was really concerned by how long I’d been bleeding for and made a concerted effort to create a time line for me, from family history of illnesses, to my illnesses, to physical concerns from head to toe, to emotional and mental check ins. As a side note I have been under an immense amount of stress from both my work and personal life. To the point where I find it difficult to just cope and manage. I feel so overwhelmed and to still be battling health issues…it becomes much even for strong people like myself. I had divulged all of this to her, including the loss of Mikail, the step admissions I mentioned earlier and all of my chronic illness etc. she even asked for medication intake frequently.

She started me on a regime to try to balance out the hormones and to manage the anxiety and stress. She prescribed 30 drops Ashwaghanda and Rhodliola drops with 30 drops of chasteberry drops in a 1/4 glass of water morning and evening. 5 drops of vitamin D drops every morning under the tongue and my very first homeopathic treatment called calc carb, to help with and manage the stress and moods and that’s 5 drops under the tongue every evening. All this with a probiotic, omega 3 and iron supplement.

My natural medicine regimen

She made me feel hopeful again as she said that there are lots of natural remedies to try but started off with this to see if it works. I am day 4 into the regime and have a check in with her next Friday. Let’s cross fingers and hope the bleeding calms. I have noticed a better quality of my sleep from day 2 but to date, the bleeding is still very heavy. The cramps however, are not as frequent and not as intense. For the four bottles of treatment ( Ashwagandha, Chasteberry, Vit D and the Calc Carb, I already had the other stuff, so she suggested to finish that off) with the consult, my bill was R1 045.00. Compared to what I would’ve paid had I visited a gynae. I was chuffed.

This is where I am at on my journey. I had an idea to try and document each milestone or encounter and really hope this may some how offer support to anyone else going through this. I know how lonely it gets going through this. Just know you are not alone and any other woman reading this, if you know if someone battling this, please make a concerted effort to check in with her every now and then, send anything like a positive message or upbeat song, to uplift a mood. Most often than not, just those small things helps us get through the day on some of our worst days.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl

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MERAKI. [May. Rah. Kee].

MERAKI: a word derived from the Turkish word Merak and is a verb or adverb in modern Greek literature.

It refers to putting something of yourself into your work; soul, creativity and love.

Everything that we do contributes to our personal brand. Perceptions, assumptions and thoughts are conceived by how we present ourselves, be it through our appearance, manner in which we conduct ourselves (behaviour) or our work.

To merely do something for the sake of doing is like leading a life with no purpose or direction. What’s the point?

I say that It is for this reason, that we must do all things Meraki; with sincerity, passion, love, soul and creativity. Every piece of work we put out must have that personal touch. It must ooze authenticity. This is a message I echo to my team at work and it serves as a reminder to me.

So whether you’re in the arts, the Corporate world, medical field, or whether you’re a teacher, administrator, book keeper or even a call Centre agent… Do all things with Meraki.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl.

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FIKA [Fee. Ka].

With the world going through lock down periods. It is uncertain times for us all and it becomes so easy to get lost in all the chaos.

Every minute of everyday we are exposed to information re: COVID-19. News feeds are bombarded with stats, breaking news, new laws, safety precautions, conspiracy theories, fake news and and and.

People are stressing about their family’s health, finances, kids education and job security. It all honestly becomes so overwhelming.

For me, I’ve made a personal decision to slow down. I hardly watch the news and just look out for the Presidents addresses or important info. I hardly speak about COVID-19 and purposely so and I try to live life as normal has possible.

I’ve looked for a deeper meaning to all of this. The bigger picture. As an essential worker, I get to go to work daily and that in its own is a blessing. It has been a tough few months and this lockdown served as a way for me to just take a step back and really focus on the good things.

Everymorning when I wake up, I thank God for everything he has blessed me with, from the bed that I sleep in, to the job that I still have secured, for keeping myself and family safe and even for my faith… You name it, I thank God for it. This act of gratitude honestly just puts the day in play.

I’ve seen many others do the same in their own way, mothers are able to spend more quality time with their kids and partners. Whereas pre COVID-19, there was barely any time. Parents get to try out and cook things they’ve never cooked before, whereas pre COVID-19, it was the quickest thing available to cook. Families are bonding, whereas pre COVID-19, it was each to their own. Earth is getting a break from human distruction; less pollution, less litter. Prayers are increasing and people are becoming more mindful of God.

We really have been granted FIKA and the choice is left to us to grab this moment. Slow it all down and just focus on the good things in life.

As a person who likes to have control over most things. I’ve learnt to take each day as it comes and to trust God more. I do more things with love. Have tasked myself to complete my vision board and stocked up on baking ingredients after months of procrastination.

Take your moment |Slow down | And start appreciating the good things in life.

There has never been a better time ✨✨

Love and light always

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Slamaat on your 7th birthday Mika’il

Every year anxiety kicks in mounting up to this day. For most of the year I manage to grieve you in silence and also celebrate you in some instances.

Happy birthday boy!

But on this day, the painful memories I usually try to block out, find a way to come flooding in and boy oh boy does it overwhelm me.

Today you would have been 7. I picture you waking up in your favourite Jaamies, bushy hair (like your mommas) and some missing teeth, I think it’s safe to say your milk teeth would have started to fall out. I picture you humble as ever, standing in front of a cake I would have probably been obsessing over for weeks, praying you’d like it. There would probably be balloons, lots of them, including a number 7 foil Balloon or with the letters of your name. Your party packs for school would have been packed and your gifts would have been stacked, all ready and waiting for you.

I picture myself being way more excited than you, singing your happy birthday song, making a Dua for you and then planting a gazillion kisses all over your precious face. If the love I have for you is this intense and I only carried and birthed you after close to 7 months, I can only imagine how much more intense it would have been over the years.

Slamaat on your 7th birthday Mikail. Today is a reminder of how much Allah really loves me. I’m reminded that I am a mother. I’m reminded that you are the fruit of my womb. I’m reminded that out of the billions of women around, I was chosen to mother you and take care of you. And whilst our time together was very short. You are the only person who has ever been so close to me, literally and figuratively. You’ve seen my heart and felt it beat from the inside. You’ve made me a mother and for that I am forever grateful. I feel so blessed even in the midst of the chaotic emotions I’m feeling this morning. You are an angel indeed just as your name suggests!

I know you’re safe where you are and hope you’re having a ball today son. I celebrate the time we shared together today, I cleanse my soul with the tears I cry because I still don’t think you deserved to go the way that you did and I remind myself that Allah knows best.

It’s only 6.30 and you have so many wishes already from all your aunts. You and I are truelly blessed.

So from your momma:

Here’s a kiss for every year that has passed 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋 slamaat baby boy. I love you.

Heavenly birthday wishes to my son, from just an ordinary mom.

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International Woman’s day – 2020

What a beautiful day

I allowed myself to take a walk down memory lane today. Stopped at every street corner and landmark and mellowed there for bit.

I reflected on the women in my life. Those that were around me all the time, the ones that raised. I remembered their stories and it legit gave me goosebumps. My Mar Una, my aunt Carol and my mum are the three women that I can honestly say have been the most influential and impactful.

Growing up and as kids, we always just saw the effortless smiles. We got happy for the tasty food and the beautiful clothes. What we weren’t exposed to, were the struggles that went behind awarding us those things.

My Mar una made school holidays and all our visits memorable. She was the glue that stuck our family together. Memories of all my cousins, uncles and her sitting around her brown coffee table playing cards or dominoes are my fondest. The laughter, the agony of losing and the good vibes, to this day warms my heart. She went out of her way to cook each person’s favorites and always did it with love. When I learned of the life she had lived, only after her passing, I couldn’t believe that someone who endured so much, could be so graceful and carry those burdens with effortlessly.

My Mar Una

My Aunty Carol. The aunty that was and still remains our second to my Mar Una. Always there to celebrate our victories and nurture our hurts and pain. She always ran our ‘mothers race’ at our school sports and made sure she won! Every hospital visit, every school award, she was there. Till today, she will accompany me to my doctors visits. Cook for me and our family functions and never complain. When I look back at all she’s endured in her personal life and with her health and I see her always willing to reach out and help others. I’m remimded at just how much God loves me for surrounding me with such strong and courageous woman….ever since my mars passing, she is the person that would do what my Mar would do for us.

My Aunty Carol (on the left)

My momma bear. Fiesty, goal-driven and brutally honest. A mom, in many cases, is a daughter’s best friend. She’s a daughters first nurturer, teacher and doctor. Growing up and becoming my own woman, I found myself clashing alot with my mom, sometimes judging her. Until God shows up and makes you endure stuff and then you look back and have a ‘now it makes semse’ moment. My mother has endured alot in her life time and till today, let’s nothing and no one stand in her way. Whilst I might not like it, but her being brutally honest has guided me and forced the hand of change in my life. What no one else has the guts to say, she does it effortless, but all from a place of love. No body, and I mean nobody can mess with her kids. And she is very vocal about that. She’s a hands on mom that gets things done and puts people in their rightful places. My mother loves hard. She pushes boundaries, she creates waves and she is influencial. She can be so delicate at times and at others can be so head strong. Her drill seagant ways of ensuring chores were done and on time and right way, has enabled me to run my own home effortlessly and when she thinks it’s not up to standard, best believe she will call me out. With all of this, she has moulded me into the woman I am today.

My Momma

Strong, courageous, fierce, passionate, persistent, queens… Are just a few characteristics of these three beautifully strong women! Women that i was raised by and who have had such positive influences over my life

So this international Womans day is dedicated to them. Remembering their struggles, celebrating their achievements and being inspired by their hustle and journey.

Love and light, from just an ordinary girl

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Don’t be that girl. It’s #20plenty

Queens supposed to see queens. But it’s us “queens” who are also very quick to tear down others. Start a scandal. Make people’s lives miserable etc etc. We also tend to be our own worst enemies. I’m pro queen but some of our queens need to be called out. So heres what I gotta say:

In 2020. Don’t be that girl.

Don’t be that envious girl. The girl that doesn’t work as hard but has the most to say when someone worthy achieves something.

Don’t be that girl that does things just and solely for recognition

Dont be that girl whose known to be a gossip monger amongst a crowd or community. The one whose in everyones business.

Don’t be that girl who has pent up anger. Forgive. Let go and let God.

Don’t be the girl that misplaces her anger. I mean if you wanna be angry, be angry at the right people sis.

Don’t be that girl whose bitter because a relationship didn’t work out and then goes and speaks about baby daddy’s new queen because it makes you feel better. Do yourself a favour and make yourself feel better by legit being better. Focus on you, get your life, flourish.

Courtesy of pintrest

Don’t be that girl who uses their kid as a pawn to get what you want from your kids daddy. It’s disgusting. It’s desperate and we don’t do that here. We’re raising our future leaders. Even men need their peace of mind. Stop using your kids opportunity to say your say. It’s embarrassing mamacita.

Don’t be that girl whose worth is determined by a man. Know your worth!

Don’t be that girl who does shit to others and when karma knocks at your door you throw yourself on floors and play victim. Grow up sis, straighten that crown and use your energy wisely.

Don’t be that girl who would rather use their mouth to belittle someone rather than inspire and help others.

Don’t be that girl that gets consumed by things that are out of your control. Life it’s honestly too short. Conrol what you can and leave rest the left to God.

Don’t be that girl who hates on behalf of someone else. It’s unnecessary and it’s childish. If you are going to fester such, atleast let it be valid.

The world is toxic enough. The load is heavy already. Just cut the BS out and let’s all keep it moving. There is enough peace, happiness and joy to go around, don’t waste your life trying to steal someone else’s.

Love and light, from just an ordinary almost-30 year old

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I’m going to Brazil 🇧🇷😀

I began writing this post Thursday Evening, after I won my annual star award. I finally have a moment to post it. If you remember, I posted my thoughts and emotions after I had won a quarterly star award. If you missed that post, click here.

After I had won my annual star award. I began to reflect and all thoughts lead to this post. For those who don’t know, a star award is part of a recognition programme to acknowledge staff within the business for the work that they do. It is the most prestigious award that one could win, within the Discovery organisation…i know right?!

With that said, here it goes 🤗

The wind down

Driving back to the hotel and my mind is on the phenomenal company I work for, the people who have impacted my journey and it’s honestly trying to comprehend that next year, I (an ordinary from Newlands East) will be going to THE Brazil.

I was so emotional, as was I when I found out that l had won a quarterly award. I kept replaying the moment I heard my name being announced and the phenomenal love and celebration I received from people I’d never have known, if it weren’t for this opportunity, my family and my friends. It’s been a remarkably rough year for me and I’m sure for many others, it got to a point where staying afloat was becoming more and more difficult. This award is a reminder of my warrior spirit and will continue to serve as my reminder when I feel I’m not capable or worthy.

The emotion

When they called my name, my brain had to process whether they’d actually called it, I froze in dire disbelief and kept thinking “did I actually hear my name or was it my inner thoughts imagining how it would be if my name was actually called.” Reality set in when I got hugged left right and centre and then the things us women do when we can’t control our excitement began… Yes, I screamed and then cried.

I couldn’t think who to call first, it at one point felt like an asthma attack was coming on hahahaha #imaginethat

When the confiti fell and photos were taken, I felt an immense sense of gratitude to God for always just showing up and showing off at the times it’s needed.

As a side note, I’ve always been drawn to Brazil, their colourful culture and free spirited individuals. My name on mxit (do you guys remember that instant messaging app) was Ms Brazil and my mom would always refer to me as her Brazilian queen and then look at God…like he noted these things and said hey, when you need it the most, I will whip out this big break.

I felt gratitude towards the very many people that have taken a chance on me, who have said yes to me and an idea, those who said no to me, those who invested their time and knowledge in me, my trainers, simulations team leader, every team leader I’ve worked under, my colleagues who inspire me daily in one form or another, management for always leading from the front and my family and friends for always reminding me that I can do whatever I set my mind to do and who never allowed me to fail without trying my utmost best.

Working hard is one thing, but having people by your side to support and grow you is something else. That’s the organisation I work for and the people I’m surrounded by, all of whom Ive always been particular fond of.

The aftermath

Fast forward to the next morning. I’ve barely slept because I think I’m still in shock. I feel special, I feel like what I do honestly matters, I feel overjoyed because let’s be honest, I wouldn’t be able to afford this trip any time soon, on my own. I feel loved, by the many messages filtering through, the kind words and affirmations.

And these are just a few

Seeing a company so dedicated to recognizing the work it’s people does and to this extent is just remarkable to witness. Again, to say that I am honored would be an understatement.

So do everything with love, work hard and trust that it always pays off. Acknowledge the people you think are worthy and just continue to grow in love, light, faith and knowledge. The world has one of everybody else, what it needs is you, so leave a piece of you in everything that you do.

To everyone who has played a role in my journey and took the time and effort to groom me, this isn’t just my award. It’s ours and I thank you.

Love and light always, for just an ordinary girl going to Brazil

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Rosefest Durban… Are you ready?

In June this year we wrote up about the Rosefest announcement that multi-award winning artist Shekhinah dropped on us all.

The JHB show blasted off on 09 August 2019 and was such a huge success.

The Durban show is set for 12 October 2019 and Is celebration of the anniversary of the Rose Gold album.

Over the past few days, Shekhinah visited schools around Durban, her home town to pay homage. From the looks and sounds of things, she was warmly welcomed and energetically received. The Rose Fest is for everyone. You can legit bring your whole family.

Images are from the RoseFest Facebook page

Talks of candy-floss, food stalls, a live band and a fun fair are spreading through the airwaves and we are loving it. The only thing better than music at a fun fair, are selfies at the fun fair rocking rose gold tinted glasses!

Shekhinah’s aim is said to not only jive along to the music but to capture memories. And she’s creating a vibe for us to do just that. So grab your Coachella swag, get those tickets. And lets all be rosey!

Image from the Rosefest Facebook page

I’m definitely ready to Suite up and prepared for a uniquely Different music experience. It’s definately going to be one for the books.

Stay updated and be sure to like and follow the Rosefest Facebook page, click here. Or, visit the Rosefest website

Tickets are available at web tickets – book yours now!

Love and good vibes always, from just an ordinary girl.

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Power to the “Shes” of the world

I occasionally write for a platform at work. And with all the chaos happening around us. It inspired this post. Take a read:

I find it ironic how, in the wake of women’s month, we wake up to news reports headlining the gruesome murders of kids, teens and adults; most of which are female. This blog post is not going to be a feminism escapade or a female rant at that. Instead, it is going to pay tribute to the very many, powerful and influential queens of the world. #queendom.

It is an affirmation for the queens and serves as a reminder to the kings, to appreciate every woman they encounter.

I|AM|A|QUEEN

I am queen because I’ve overcome hurts and pain that was meant to break me. I turn pain into power!

I am a queen because God made me and because I know I can only do things with his will and permission and hey, I’m okay with that.

I’m a queen because when I do something, I do it with love and all things positive. I don’t do it based on condition or because I have to. If it’s well within my soul, it’s the purest and most sincere.

I am a queen because I treat people with honesty, love and respect, like the kings and queens that they are; Because what’s the use of identifying somebody as a king or queen but never treating them with the honour that they deserve…

I am a queen because I err. I am flaw-filled but I wear those flaws confidently because we were not born perfect, we were born to work towards being better than who we were yesterday.

I am a queen because I’m a warrior and not a worrier. Nothing can keep me down for too long. Call me my own knight in shining armour! I soldier on proudly in the constant wars that happen between the self and I, and those that continue around me. Forget justice, I am in the league of Hercules and Maximus Decimus Meridius

I am a queen because I choose to celebrate the best in people and not compete. You can never compare me to you. Our struggles are different and therefore our battles are different.

I am a queen because I fight for what’s right, irrespective of race, colour or creed so best believe, if you are coming for me, you better come correct.

I am a queen because I love to learn. I try different things to widen my perspective and self-growth and mastery is what I’m after.

And hell, I am a queen because I brush my hair some days and others I don’t, I listen to rap music one day and then jazz the next. I rock purple orange and green on some days and black and grey on others.

Point is, I’m a queen in my own right and my soul is royalty! Rest assured, you and yours are too.

Love, light and supreme delight: from just an ordinary queen!

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My head is barely above water

I had to work extremely hard today to control the anger,to keep the memories from swallowing and drowning my heart. And I’m exhausted now.

Memories of the different encounters of abuse, the affairs, the loss of my son, the violence, the struggles of just being a true authentic human being and people often taking that for a weakness, the heartache… It all came flooding back. I know what happens when I allow it to wash me away to depressing shores and so I fight daily to keep afloat. Today I’m barely making it.

See, what people don’t understand is that when you go through something traumatic, it never goes away. We work hard daily to rise above it all and keep moving, to work at it, to restore faith and trust. Its an everyday job where leave is something utopic. Some days we’re successful and are euphoric and other days we struggle, barely keeping our faces above water.

Today was one of those days for me.

To the pretentious kind. I don’t have the energy to deal with you today, so stay at bay.

To the judges of the world, do me a favour and take 30 to just relook at your own life. I can almost bet the judgment you possess towards me will be making a 360 towards yourself.

To the perpetrators, come correct… Kind is somewhere in my DNA, just not at the forefront of my logic today… So preservation of the positivity in my optimism well is the main goal for now. Not your pride or your ego…that I generally nurture in hope of yourll doing and being better.

I still have a house to clean, a prayer to say and tons of assignments to do. Allah if ever I needed you, it’s today.

Truest feelings, from just an ordinary girl trying to stay afloat