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#DFH #65

Dear future husband,

I often ponder about how we would spend New Year’s Eve.

I know prayer is important; so I’d want us to spend some part of it praying for the year behind and ahead of us.

But for the rest, would we be out with friends? Or at home, having the time of our lives with a two-man party, reflecting and having a meaningful convo, then cooking up a storm to some of our favorite jams 🎢 and then πŸ’ƒπŸ» πŸ•Ίtill we can’t anymore? Would we have our own “Idols” or “SA got talent” amongst us two 🎀 or with a couple of friends over just being cray cray.

Or would we jet set to Cape Town and parade on long street, taking in all of the people , Malay choirs and then get ready to watch the klopse over the next couple of days?

I’d imagine that anything with you by my side would be magical πŸ¦„ ✨

Dear future husband, are you by any chance close by?

Awaiting your arrival

Your future wife πŸ’‹

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Looking back at 2017

Last day of 2017… can you believe it!!!

I always take some time out to reflect during this time of year, reflect on the events, people, situations, lessons that year has brought and I have faced.

Some major milestones happened this year. But if I’m honest, it was a year wasted in terms of discipline.

  • I started studying and managed to pass with two distinctions.
  • I was awarded the opportunity to blog on a work platform.
  • I had my first relationship since my divorce.
  • I did more things I said I would do, like car pool karaokes, visiting new places in and around Durban, and through that even got to meet John Legend and Shekhinah.
  • I was more dedicated to my faith and my religion
  • I learnt how to create boundaries and the importance of having a circle of positive friends.

But most importantly I’ve learnt and accepted to be me even in situations where everyone else was against me. That for me was the highlight for This year:

Be you, even if it makes other people uncomfortable because mediocre minds were not made to comprehend great spirits.

– Tay Breezy

It has also however, been a year of financial difficulty and that’s mainly because of me and my unhealthy spending habits, so rest assured 2018 we working on financial freedom. Watch out for more posts on that.

My friends and family have also achieved quite abit in this year and so it’s been a fulfilling year overall .

Over the holidays, my sister and the girls visited, we spent so much of quality time together, I’ll include some pics. I’m mentioning this though because when they left yesterday, my nieces displayed such bravery and are so resilient for their young souls that they’ve actually inspired me;

to always be brave and to always be resilient; to know that all happens for a reason and to trust that the almighty has a plan.

What amazing qualities to leave 2017 with? Whilst there was heartache , friends lost, horrible fights in between, we take the positive and keep moving forward.

We will make be making vision boards over the next few weeks and will be posting about it.

And all I can say is goodbye 2017, it’s been great. And tomorrow, we shall welcome 2018.

May this last day of 2017 be spent meaningfully, be filled with lots of love and light and reflection and be spent with those you love the most.

It’s time to be legendary fam.

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl 🀟🏼

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#QOTD #66: Friendship

This time of year always exhausts me emotionally and I really can’t tell you why my spirits damper. Maybe it is because this was the month I found out I was pregnant ? I’m not sure.

In times like these, where my spirits are scraping the floor, I often reflect. This year it’s that much worse because my mentee and I spent our last Sunday together (after two years) and also because I’m awaiting exam results.

Anyhow, I came across today’s quote and was forced to reflect on friendship, both on the giving and the receiving end.

  1. What is a true friend?
  2. Can you be 100% of yourself, be it in a good or bad space.
  3. Is there a way a true friend should act or react?
  4. If you’re wrong… do you have friends that can politely tell you to get over yourself coz you’re wrong?

These kinda questions I ask myself.

I came across this quote and it put so much into perspective.

You don’t lose friends, because real friends can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as friends, and you’re better for it.

There’s the answer to all of those questions.

There is no right or wrong way a friend should act in a temporary situation. We human.

Whilst we must always be truthful, the important thing is that we are always there. No matter what.

If you have friends that judge you or pull away from you when you’re way up high or down below… chances are those aren’t your real friends.

If you have friends that get closer to you only or more often when it’s beneficial to them, and when it’s not they disappear, then you need to check your circle.

If you have friends that forget about you the moment another being is more active or resurfaces in their life then you know what you need to do.

They should be able to call you out when you acting like you five and celebrate you whenever you achieve something. They should call you out when you not treating them well and demand that you respect yourself and them. It’s all about building each other up for greatness and respecting each other.

A friend, in my opinion, shouldn’t always have the right answers, say the right things coz then you know something Is wrong! what they should possess is consistency: Always be there during the Good , bad , happy or sad times. Life gets busy, we know that first hand… but people prioritize what’s important to them and what isn’t.

These are qualities I strive to possess. For I wanna be that real friend.

It’s time to be legendary. We need real people around!

Love and light always from just an ordinary girl

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#QOTD #65

This week I was introduced to Rupi Kaur’s πŸ“š! I cannot fathom as to why I’ve only come across her now, nonetheless, I’m glad a friend mentioned her and shared her book!

Today’s quote is actually taken from one of her books : The sun and her flowers. Please go and check it out guys, you will not be disappointed especially if poetry is your thing.

πŸ₯› and 🍯 is also a winner. I’ll put up a link to her website so you guys can check it out. Back to the quote πŸ‘‡πŸΌ

You do not just wake up and become the butterfly πŸ¦‹. Growth is a process!

How often do we forget this? In our selves and in others. We have a tendency of wanting change now. We forget that patience is a virtue and all good things take time, including change!

Lately I’ve been having an extremely hard time battling some of my emotional triggers and when I cave in and lose power, I beat myself up because I kinda know where I need to be and what I need to do but I still lose some of these battles.

I came across this and it was such a needed reminder that I felt obliged to share. Growth is a process. It’s an everyday, every encounter choice to do and be better and whilst we may backslide, the mere fact that we get up and try again is all part of this process.

Let’s never forget this, for us and for family, friends and loved ones too.

Growth is a process, we will soon be that πŸ¦‹, beautiful and free!

To check out Rupi Kaur’s books, please click Here

πŸ’• and πŸ’‘ fam, from just an ordinary πŸ›

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12 of 12

Can you believe this year is over?! It is beyond my comprehension as to how fast 2017 passed by.

December days are here indeed. Kicking off with World AIDS Day; get tested and know your status fam. Let’s be proactive!

December December… always a month to remember. The count down officially begins for my sister and the girls to visit South Africa, super stoked. Count down to my uncles wedding…it’s going to be blissful indeed.

Have you ever heard the phrase “’tis the silly season” lol, some of us tend to take the festivities waaaay out of line and Whilst there’s nothing wrong with kicking back and relaxing and enjoying the break after a years work… we tend to forget that this is a chapter that’s soon coming to an end.

With that said, I think that it’s important that we use some of this time as a means to reflect because reflection is an integral part of self development.

Look back at the year and see what has worked and what can be worked on.

Pat yourself on the back for the goals you’ve set out and achieved and work out a plan to achieve the ones you didn’t get around to. Look at your emotional triggers, and find ways to combat them. Re-evaluate your position and find out “where to from here” and no, we don’t necessarily need to this only during this time of year, but the symbolic meaning and symbolism of new year; one of new beginnings, seems like the perfect time to do so (:

Use this time wisely because time waits for no man!

And sure, once you’re done reflecting and know where you’re heading in the new year, sit back and relax. #family #friends #funinthesun

Make a date and get your friends and family to work on vision boards for next year. Make or buy your 2018 planner. 2018, we see you! πŸ‘€

It’s time to be legendary fam.

Now to get packing because an awesome weekend, with amazing people awaits!

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl