This time of year always exhausts me emotionally and I really can’t tell you why my spirits damper. Maybe it is because this was the month I found out I was pregnant ? I’m not sure.
In times like these, where my spirits are scraping the floor, I often reflect. This year it’s that much worse because my mentee and I spent our last Sunday together (after two years) and also because I’m awaiting exam results.
Anyhow, I came across today’s quote and was forced to reflect on friendship, both on the giving and the receiving end.
- What is a true friend?
- Can you be 100% of yourself, be it in a good or bad space.
- Is there a way a true friend should act or react?
- If you’re wrong… do you have friends that can politely tell you to get over yourself coz you’re wrong?
These kinda questions I ask myself.
I came across this quote and it put so much into perspective.
You don’t lose friends, because real friends can never be lost. You lose people masquerading as friends, and you’re better for it.
There’s the answer to all of those questions.
There is no right or wrong way a friend should act in a temporary situation. We human.
Whilst we must always be truthful, the important thing is that we are always there. No matter what.
If you have friends that judge you or pull away from you when you’re way up high or down below… chances are those aren’t your real friends.
If you have friends that get closer to you only or more often when it’s beneficial to them, and when it’s not they disappear, then you need to check your circle.
If you have friends that forget about you the moment another being is more active or resurfaces in their life then you know what you need to do.
They should be able to call you out when you acting like you five and celebrate you whenever you achieve something. They should call you out when you not treating them well and demand that you respect yourself and them. It’s all about building each other up for greatness and respecting each other.
A friend, in my opinion, shouldn’t always have the right answers, say the right things coz then you know something Is wrong! what they should possess is consistency: Always be there during the Good , bad , happy or sad times. Life gets busy, we know that first hand… but people prioritize what’s important to them and what isn’t.
These are qualities I strive to possess. For I wanna be that real friend.
It’s time to be legendary. We need real people around!
Love and light always from just an ordinary girl