So too many times I hear folk say how maybe things would have gone differently if…I’m not even going to finish that sentence because I’m sure you’ve finished it for me. Too many times we find ourselves thinking or saying “should’ve , would’ve , could’ve ” and many times it’s when we feel like things would have turned out differently, or as we wanted it to be, if we had done it differently, chose differently or prayed differently.
We then go into thought overdrive and either beat ourselves or others up because we so wanted it to go according to our plan. We lose focus and get so consumed and stress over things that we have no control over.
Reflection isn’t a bad thing, but it can be when when we’re not using it to reflect the right way.
What do I mean?
Reflecting to better yourself or work on something that can be worked on, is great… we’re elevating ourselves. But reflecting to fuel our disappointment, anger or misery… is not good. Reflecting that consumes you negatively, is not good. Reflection that is used to make excuses, is not good. Quite!
What ever is meant for you will never miss you. Be it a job, relationship, car or even more money at the end of the month. God has a plan and we need to try and figure out what lessons are meant to be learnt in order to move forward. I mean how do we move forward if we keep harping over things that have missed us, relationships that didn’t last, jobs that were giving the somebody else?
I’ve learnt this after wasting so much of my time (that I’m never going to get back) and I aught to share my epiphany with you all.
You’d be amazed at how less disappointed you are, when things miss you or don’t go according to your initial plan. I’m not saying don’t fight for what you want, or not to take away anything from an experience. Or to use this to shirk or not put in the hours or work or studying or efforts. I’m saying let go of the things that you can’t control and let God and work on the things he can control… you really could be using that time and energy to fuel your success and goals.
So remember, whatever’s for you, will never miss you. #Trust
Work hard, give off your best and let God do the rest.
Some wisdom for this Wednesday
❤️and 🌈always , from just an ordinary girl who’s wasted loads of precious time in the past (: