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Have you ever had your dream come true? 

I’ve had a couple of mine come true but none that left me with such humility and pride than the one that came true yesterday. 

Yesterday, 26 September 2017, my very own, first blog was published on a portal at work. When I received the link, I literally felt like crying, weird I know. Me (Tasneem) blogging for one of the  largest corporate’s (in SA) online portal. Yessis ! 🙌🏼💃🏻#donotwakemeup! #dontpinchmeeither.

What was even more amazing, was the positive feedback and the comments from my fellow colleagues, known and unknown.

“Such an informative read” 

“well written” 

“brilliant piece” 

…were some of the 392 comments left at close of business today. 

I always say that 

if your craft is able to touch the life of Atleast one person, you’ve received more than you could have bargained for.

 I mean isn’t that one of, if not our main purpose? To help others? 

And even though some may say: “what’s the biggy, it’s just a blog” and others: ” so, what? I mean it’s only on a voluntary basis

I say: Eeeerrrrr JUST a blog? What are you smoking! And Stay in your lane and leave me to share a piece of me with those around me, even if it’s on a voluntary basis”#wink

I was not born to sit on the side lines and neither were you! We are born with a Devine purpose. So even if I gotta juggle work, studies, personal and corporate blogging, then I’m gonna do what I gotta do! I know there’s folk out there working ten times harder than I, to pursue their dreams. If you’re one of them, you’re my role model! 

Shukr Allah for this amazing opportunity! Shukr to my family for the constant support and encouragement and to my friends and colleagues, you guys are THE best!

Share your dreams that have come true with us, and let’s celebrate each other. Yeah? Yeah! 

Spreading love and light always 

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#QOTD #60

What a restful, beautiful long weekend I had. Slept more than I’ve done in ages, watched more movies in these three days than I have in the whole year and spent some much needed quality time with my mama and my pops.

I think this weekend was needed especially when we consider the saying:

Life doesn’t get easier, but you just get stronger.

– unknown 

How true is this? As we grow older, we face so many challenges, and they just keep on coming; work, personal, relationships, finance etc.

I truelly believe that these challenges are meant to make us stronger and wiser. These challenges prepare us for the next; to make us the people we were meant to be.

So get ready, shift in to gear and be mentally prepared for challenges to come, even if it means that you press the reset button from time to time and just chill, like what I did on this long weekend. 

You got this! 

Love and light always from:

Just an ordinary girl 

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Me as a full-time working, student #QOTD #59

Every cloud has a silver lining 

English proverb 

How does one deal with being a full-time employee and a student?

Aaah, it’s not easy hey! We all have those moments where we just want to switch -off the alarm and roll over. 

Being a student on its own, is difficult; managing your time, figuring stuff out on your own (if you’re doing correspondence learning) and just being overwhelmed with the very many assignments you have to do. 

All of that, plus juggling a full time job, which comes with stresses of its own, throw in a family and yeah… it’s like being overwhelmed on steroids, like the walking dead personified.

How does one cope? How does one keep the momentum? 


I envision it, I picture it. Me, receiving that piece of paper called a degree. I envision the honour, gratitude and humility I am going to feel on my graduation day when I put that gown and that 👩‍🎓 hat on. The feeling I’m gonna get when my name gets called to the stage and the look I’m going to see on my parents face.
I envision THE picture! The one that somebody’s gonna snap as I throw my hat into the sky with that “I finally got this shit) smile on my face. 

Yes…. I envision it all.

I envision myself telling my success story when I’m in my dream position, speaking at a conference or road show, talking about how I started off as a call centre consultant and how hard work and determination, late nights and arguments with self , all lead up to me being a profound name in the communication world: print, broadcast and even digital.

I envision telling my success story of me building my brand, my blog and not to brag, oh no! But to inspire and hopefully give people hope to push themselves and their boundaries.

I have an amazing support structure, my God, my family and my few but true friends, always encouraging me to go for the moon. They literally pick my spirits up when its scraping the floor, they  speak words of positivity, love, light, power, encouragement and life into me. Fam, I don’t know what I did to deserve the amazing people in my life, but I’ll take it, take them and remain grateful for as long as I’m alive and kicking.

So you want to know how I do it? How I , even though it’s a struggle, get up to that alarm and even after a hectic day at work, personal problems and dealing with a break up, am able to sit and submit the 10 assignments per semester and still prepare to study? There you have it, by envision the end and having myself an amazing support structure 

That’s all I got. Nobody said it will be easy ya’ll. But nothing that’s ever easy is worth it right! 

Remember! Every cloud has a silver lining. Our turn is coming!

Love and light always 

From just an ordinary full-time employee/ student. 

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#QOTD #58

“The quality of life is based on the authencity of your connections”

~ TayBreezy

I had another thought this morning ya’all, feeling like Dr Phil up in here 🙌🏼😊🤣. ( I loved Dr Phil BTW)

On the reals though, I honestly do not believe in coincidence. I believe that everything that happens in your life is part of a plan, a plan that’s meant to grow you as a person and to build your character. 

I believe that Life is full circle and that Everything we go through, every person that we meet, is a test and a lesson. How we pass those tests and learn those lessons determine how we spend the days to come. 

Treat everybody you encounter with respect. It really doesn’t cost you anything to just be nice because you really don’t know when you might need that very same “irrelevant” person. God and Murphy have a way sometimes!

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying be nice JUST to or in hope of getting something in return, but I am saying generally, what you put in, is what you get out. 

So here’s a thought:

If we had to receive whatever we gave…. wouldn’t we make sure that we give off our best at all times? Well then touche’.

So no, we not saying be fake, if you really don’t like somebody and you’re meant to encounter them, perhaps it’s a reminder of how not to be. Just keep your distance, respectfully , and then keep moving forward.

So the next time you get a friendly smile from a stranger, return it. The next time some random person on social media needs help, offer to help if you’re able. The next time you see a wet floor at work, go around it (we see all of you who have no regard for the cleaning staff). The next time you see an elderly person standing and you’re seated, offer your seat, the next time you go to a super market, remember, the cashier did nothing to you and neither is she obliged to smile at ya, stop feeling entitled. And the next time you witness something wrong or an injustice, speak up and stand for what’s right. This is what being authentic is all about.

We need to remind ourselves of ourselves before we quick to pass judgements on to the next, because the quality of our life is based on how authentic we are with our connections. 

The world needs your sparkle. 

Some say chivalry isn’t dead and I believe them. 

#thoughtfulthursday 🙌🏼

❤️and🌈 always. 

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#QOTD #57

We’ve been quiet with these for the longest of time. I had a thought this morning and when explored, it made so much of sense. A #wisewednesday indeed! 

If happiness is a state of mind. We can safely say that you cant find it (happiness or a state of mind) but can rather create it. Stop trying to find your happiness and start creating it

~ TayBreezy

Makes sense doesn’t it? Far too often I’ve found myself and others saying “I’m finding my happiness” but when you actually sit down and think about what happiness actually is, it’s impossible to find. It’s not a thing you pick off from a super market shelf or that you can find hanging on a wrack, neither is it something that you unwrap from a box or can buy. 

Happiness is all you. 

With that said, I hope you all have an amazing day. Start working on creating your own happiness. You have the power. 

❤️ and 🌈 always. from just an ordinary girl 

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Don’t be basic ❌

I always have an urge to change things. I have to add abit or T sparkle to even the clothes I wear. Whilst I wish that I had more time to do these things, I have fun when I actually get the chance to transform something into my own. 

In the below post, I will show you how I turned this (I forgot to take a pic of my actual Tshirt ( this is a regular men’s Tshirt from Mr price under 60 bucks)

To this

So I’m going to my God daughters party in a few and I was puzzled 😕 WRT what am I going to wear. She’s having a Minnie themed party and I have nothing pink or polka-dotty. So, I took to google and found the idea of DIY bleaching and then it just transformed. 

Things that you will need:

  1. Tshirt
  2. Bleach 
  3. Water
  4. Spray bottle
  5. Piece of card board 
  6. Pritt 
  7. Pen
  8. Scissors 
  9. Space 

So, you will firstly need to get a stensil of whatever shape you’d like on your Tshirt, I went with a Disney/Mickey/Minnie shape to match the theme of the party. 

I drew this on normal paper ( used a CD to draw the “face” and a glass bottom to draw the “ears), I would however suggest that you use cardboard instead of paper as, as you can see, the bleach seeped through my stencil and so my shape isn’t as neat, as black and as crisp as it should be. 

You will stick cardboard stencil on your T using pritt. (You can place it, anywhere you want).

In your spray bottle, you will add bleach and a little water. 

Place your T on a wide surface and put another piece of cardboard inside of your tshirt ( to prevent the bleach from seeping through to the back).

Then squirt squirt squirt and watch the magic happen. I was abit impatient, my colour didn’t change straight away and so I rubbed bleach into the tshirt. Please DONT do this, you can see that my “orange colour” is all inconsistent because of this. Leave to dry, or iron it out if you’re impatient like me and vwala! You should then maintain a more consistent bleached look.

It should look something like this, this isn’t mine, it’s a pic I worked off on, from google 

Now, I couldn’t leave this as is, so I got my scissors and got snipper-happy. 

I widened the neck region to sit wider on my shoulders by cutting out the collar. I also cut off the hemmed part of the sleeve ( don’t know what you call it lol) but it’s the end , neat part of the sleeve and did the same with the hemmed, neat part of the bottom of the Tshirt. I wanted a more playful look so I cut “strips” all the way through the bottom of the tshirt, like this:

And that’s the T sparkle ( Tay sparkle) that I added to this plain, old, men’s Tshirt ( I prefer men’s as it’s more of a relaxed fit) but you can use a tshirt of your choice and a colour of your choice. 

I will pair this with a pair of jeans that I ripped. And a pair of black sneakers with two buns in my hair and I’m ready to go! 

Have wonderful Saturday to you all.

❤️ and 🌈 always, from just an ordinary girl 💋

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What’s meant for you, will never miss you 

So too many times I hear folk say how maybe things would have gone differently if…I’m not even going to finish that sentence because I’m sure you’ve finished it for me. Too many times we find ourselves thinking or saying “should’ve , would’ve , could’ve ” and many times it’s when we feel like things would have turned out differently, or as we wanted it to be, if we had done it differently, chose differently or prayed differently.

We then go into thought overdrive and either beat ourselves or others up because we so wanted it to go according to our plan. We lose focus and get so consumed and stress over things that we have no control over.

Reflection isn’t a bad thing, but it can be when when we’re not using it to reflect the right way. 

What do I mean? 

Reflecting to better yourself or work on something that can be worked on, is great… we’re elevating ourselves. But reflecting to fuel our disappointment, anger or misery… is not good. Reflecting that consumes you negatively, is not good. Reflection that is used to make excuses, is not good. Quite!

What ever is meant for you will never miss you. Be it a job, relationship, car or even more money at the end of the month. God has a plan and we need to try and figure out what lessons are meant to be learnt in order to move forward. I mean how do we move forward if we keep harping over things that have missed us, relationships that didn’t last, jobs that were giving the somebody else? 

I’ve learnt this after wasting so much of my time (that I’m never going to get back) and I aught to share my epiphany with you all. 

You’d be amazed at how less disappointed you are, when things  miss you or don’t go according to your initial plan. I’m not saying don’t fight for what you want, or not to take away anything from an experience. Or to use this to shirk or not put in the hours or work or studying or efforts. I’m saying let go of the things that you can’t control and let God and work on the things he can control… you really could be using that time and energy to fuel your success and goals.

So remember, whatever’s for you, will never miss you. #Trust

Work hard, give off your best and let God do the rest.

Some wisdom for this Wednesday 

❤️and 🌈always , from just an ordinary girl who’s wasted loads of precious time in the past (: 

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You cannot blend in when you were born to stand out 

Listen, you cannot blend in, when you were born to stand out. 

You were born to see the world through your eyes,  not as it is, but how it should or could be. 

That, should be your driving motivation to be the change that you want to see. To sprinkle your fairy dust upon this world through every interaction. It should be your driving force to not be mediocre and to leave your mark on this world and in the hearts and lives of people.

When you’re bold, brave, courageous and kind enough to understand that you’re different and when you accept that you are different, people will reveal their truest selves. 

You will encounter two kinda folk:

The 1st kind, will be people who will persuade you to think otherwise, they will pretend that they all for you and that they keep it 💯 but in actual facts are people who will gun down your ideas and tell you just how bad, stupid or irrelevant they are. People who will, with effort, purposely bring you down to hinder your success… coz don’t you know? You can do well but just not better than them.

And then you’ll get the second kind:

The people in your corner , the people who will believe in your purpose, respect your ideas, dreams, goals and attributions. They will encourage you to be you, and not who they think you should be. You will know when they are being sincere and giving you their honest opinion about an idea but they will make you understand that it is just their opinion and will not impose it on you.

Stay true to your intuition and never doubt the power of prayer, as both will guide you. You will feel when something is right, or needs to be done. It will play on your mind and have the “stone, stuck in your shoe” kinda nag, constantly reminding you of what needs to be done.

You do you, for nobody else but you

You cannot be kind to the world if you are not kind to yourself. You cannot see the world as it is, if you cannot see yourself as you are.

Embrace yourself with your flaws and all because, 

you cannot blend in when you were born to stand out! #beYOUtiful #beYOUnique

Love ❤️ and light🌈always,
From Just an ordinary girl 

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Push your passion.

Nothing that’s ever easy is worth it and Anything that’s worth it, takes hard work and sacrifice. It’s a given! 

Many of you know my love for the written and spoken word. Many of you would also know that I’m huge on communication and have enrolled for a degree in communications. 

Where I’m at in my career right now, isn’t ideally where I’d like to be, but it’s a stepping stone to where I need to be. Can I just highlight though, that 

you can literally apply your passion to your job, even if your job isn’t necessarily in line with your passion. 

What do I mean by this? Well here’s how I apply my passion to my job. So I love radio, it’s something I would love to persue one day. With every telephonic interaction with my clients, I envision it as an interaction “on air”. Just like radio, that’s governed by the BCCSA and other regulatory bodies to ensure information provided is fair and true, we have quality assessors who assess the information and the conduct of our interactions with our clients. This helps me approach my interactions, with even irates, a lot calmer and actually gets me looking forward to the call. You may laugh, but it works. Try it (: if you’re into acting maybe, pretend that what you’re doing is a role you’re auditioning for, and run with it.

So a couple weeks ago our service team hosted a team of executives. I was on leave, and was asked if I’d consider sharing my thoughts with them, on a portal that we use at work. It’s an online gaming / live-update feed/portal, which has weekly blogs containing important updates and information regarding the business. After each blog, you have to complete a short survey and by doing so and interacting on this online portal, you gain chances of winning rewards in the form of some really cool gifts. (VR glasses, headphones, travel bags etc)

So me, who loves things like presentations or public speaking, jumped at the opportunity because firstly, I was honoured to even be considered and secondly, presenting on something you’re passionate about is a no brainer. Win -win. So going into the office on my day off wasn’t even an issue for me. 

Extremely ashamed to say, I was not familiar with some of the executives that I was presenting to, but one of them happened to be an exec of the department that is responsible for the blogs on this portal. . . Yes… it’s going there. 

Fast forward to a brief intro, couple of emails and you’re looking at someone who is now given permission to contribute to the blogs on this portal. Yeap, be it drafting of blogs, giving content ideas or simple feedback, Nothing too formal or structured but more so an oppotunity to voluntarily apply my passion to my everyday work… so you see? You def can apply your passion to the work that you do. Be authentic, push that passion and you’d never know where this could lead.

Now, to many this may not be a thing. I mean it’s voluntarily and it’s blogs about company info. To me? It’s a door opening to a world of knowledge. With the different content ideas in place, it will now force me to learn about other aspects of the business, increasing my knowledge, insight and perspective. I get to learn new or different blogging styles and a different method of having my blogs published. You see where I’m going to with this? I even get a chance to impact people and share the knowledge I gain 😊

As if that weren’t enough of an honor, a friend and I got asked to host our performance excellence awards today and We thoroughly enjoyed every single minute of it. I felt at home! Celebrating? Engaging and just being you… who could say no to hosting that (: 

It’s been such a hectic week, spirits dragging on the floor on some days, but overally, it’s been a week of oppotunity; blogging, hosting and impacting people’s lives positively. All of my passions, applied in the current job I’m in.

So with all of that said, today’s message is literally to just encourage you to keeping pushing your passion. It takes one person and just one oppotunity to change the game ❤️ but in between all of that, just keep doing you and just keep pushing that passion. 

Love and light always, from just an ordinary girl