Girl power, Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

The move: 🇿🇦 to 🇨🇳 

Everybody knows that when I’m emotional I write. 

It’s the last day I have with my nieces and whilst them emigrating is good for them, not having them is going to be torture for me.

My nieces have been with us at home since birth. We share a weird kind of a relationship. One that goes beyond the normal aunty- niece relationship. They are like my kids in the sense of the love I have for them. 

I’ve woken up in the middle of the night for them, have been through every milestone and all their “firsts”;  first tooth, step, day at school, doctors visit.  Attended every awards day, have listened to their most hilarious and darndest thoughts. Have been with them for all their major hospital admissions. I’ve even fought for them in malls after being pushed.

I’m glad that my sister allowed me to be such an active force in their lives. But they’re going now and I don’t know what I’m going to do. My normal week included having them for the weekends and for the school holidays. They gave me things to do…which I’m not going to have anymore. They have brought such joy to my life and heart in the passed years that it has helped in me healing after Miks passing.

It has dawned upon me that I won’t beable to attend their first day at their new school, or hear about the new friends they’ve made. I won’t be there to comfort them when the new country gets overwhelming or when they’re struggling with anything. I think I’m suffering from a case of FOMO.

It’s an emotional day. I don’t even want to think of what seeing them off at the tomorrow is going to be like. All I can do is pray that they don’t feel anxious and don’t have to deal with any unnecessary issues of having moving country’s. 

I ask the almighty to make their transition easy, perhaps if I see them enjoying it then it wouldn’t be too bad for me I suppose. I ask the almighty that their special sparkles don’t get dulled by this move and that this move will enhance everything good that they have already. I ask the almighty that he removes their fears and helps them blend in, that he makes their little hearts remain filled with love, life, happiness, peace and compassion.

I pray the same for my sister and wish her everything of the best in her new endeavor. May the almighty make her transition easier. Moving as a single parent with two kids seems as though it can be daunting; having to worry about you settling in and adapting to a new place and surrounding with no support structure physically there and also worrying about the well-being of your kids. May Allah create the perfect balance for you my sissy.

There’s so much more in my heart that needs to be said but then I’d have you all reading forever. So I will leave this here because I have a feeling I’ll be back here putting my emotions and thoughts down in hope it will bring me some relief .

Love, life & everything's else in between

#DFH #38

Dear future husband,

I’m so curious to know whether you would read my blog or book/s. And whether you would actually give me your honest opinion.

I often wonder if you would be proud of it, and promote /share posts or or reviews that are published from time to time. 

I wonder if you would eagerly await my next post or book and question me on what it’s going to be about.

Hmmmm. 🤔 

I certainly hope you would but I guess we will have to wait and see.

Hope Monday was kind to you.


Your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #37 

Whilst I want to cater to and for you, please don’t take advantage of that. I’m not you maid or your mama.

You put that toilet seat down if you lift it up for any reason. You put your dirty clothes in the laundry basket and dare not leave it on the floor where you took em off and that plate and glass you used? You , at the very least, put in it in sink.

Yes! I’ll be that wife. We’re adults so I’m sure this won’t be a problem? If it will be, child…!

Thanking you in advance,

Your future wife 😊

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #36

Dear future husband,

Some of the very important people in my life are guys. Yes, I have boys as friends; true friends.

Would this be a problem? I really hope not because I know that when you meet them, you will appreciate them as much as I. 

They have helped see me through some hectic parts of my life. They inspire me to do and be better each day in my pursuits to follow what I love doing.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this. For now though, it’s the day of Jumua so Juma Mubarak my love and may peace and blessings be upon you always Xx

Your future wife ❤️

Love, life & everything's else in between

#DFH #35

Dear future husband,

I have future aspirations. 

I’ve started writing a book, I want to study , I have projects and companies that I have dreams of starting and opening. I want you to be apart of this. 

Now I don’t expect our interests to be the same  but I do expect us to be actively involved in each other’s interests. It’s all about compromise and support.

I would want to offer my support , my encouragement , ideas or even my time for something that is dear to you and would so appreciate it if you would do the same for me.

Having somebody push you when you need to be pushed towards your dream is something many can only hope for. Especially with life’s knocks and unexpected turns. 

I don’t want to just hope for this. I want this and I need this.

A request, 

From your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #33

Dear future husband, 

Know that I am aware of all of my flaws and try my hardest to never run away or deny them. 

You will soon learn that I am extremely passionate about things that I deem close to me. Passionate about my likes and dislikes. About certain views and topics. I can be domineering and can also be very opinionated. I try not to impose my opinions on others however, sometimes this can be mistaken or delivered in such a way because of how passionate I am about a specific view/ topic. It is never done to intentionally force my view or opinion on you, if anything I almost enjoy not having people agree with me because it opens me up to perspective.

I can be very bold and am loud spoken and can sometimes be abit too honest ; this is only because I wanna keep things 100 all the time, especially with those close to me.

If this is something that may peeve you  , I apologies in advance because the intention is never that; to peeve you. 

You are always welcome to bring this to my attention and I will gladly accept and work towards not making you feel peeved.

I try to be as true and transparent as I can be even if it’s something that others may dislike. But it is me and I am a working progress. 

I pray and ask God to help me overcome my flaws but I nor you were meant to be perfect. So there probably will always be something’s that would just irk you about me….hope that won’t be reason for you to leave but rather for you stay 🙂

Thanking you in advance for your patience and understanding,

Your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #34

I wanna be like the kyles from my wife and kids.

I think their relationship dynamics and their way of parenting is so cool.Fun but always with a lesson learnt. 

I love their unity and how they feed off each other’s crazy. I love their insane ways of offering their support and interest in each other’s goals. I love how God remains at the center of what the do. 

Am I crazy to want to be like people from a sitcom ? Does relationships like this even exist?

Can we be like this anyway? Can we never forget our friendship and can we keep the fun rolling…even when we need to teach lessons or when we’re needing to be taught? Can we feed off each other’s crazy and build each other up as opposed to breaking each other down? Can our ideas be tried no matter how ludicrous they may seem? Can our love be unconditional and be selfless? 

A plea, 

From your future wife 


Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #32

Dear future husband,

We need to save, save to travel, save to buy things for our home. Save to spoil our parents and kids and those close to us. Save to study further or landscape our back yard even.

You will soon know that I love decorating things. I love unusual things and doing things that aren’t average. Because I’m far from average (kidding). But I do love buying stuff and DIYing. 

 Can we save? But not to not spend. Our savings must have purpose. We must make goals and things we want to experience and then work together to help each other achieve those things. We must enjoying spending our savings so that it can all be worth while.

Can we do a bucket list; one for me and one for you. Then we save up to do one from my list and then yours and so forth…

It will be new for me but I know that doing anything with you will be far greater than any anxiety I may have. I know that I will beable to trust you and hope that this will be equally fulfilling for you as it will be for me.

A thought, from your future wife 

Love, life & everything's else in between, personal

#DFH #30

Dear future husband,

Valentine’s Day isn’t a biggy for me because I believe love should be celebrated everyday.

However, being as sentimental as I am, I would probably get you something , like I would on any random day and would appreciate any gesture you show and efforts you make to do the same for me.

Can’t wait to love you with my all.

Your future wife