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The tiniest of acts have largest impact❤️

My heart broke into a million pieces last evening. My parents , aunties and I went to see my Uncle who isn’t “doing too well”. He has galloping cancer and yeah… You guys can pretty much make out the rest. 

This trip moved me. And really made me sit and think about all of the things that we take for granted. That casual chat with mum or dad, the random jokes that leave you in stitches, those intimate family moments that we tend to feel “arggg ” about.

We take it all for granted yet this family, is holding onto those because they don’t know when it could be their last moment 🙁

Why is it that regret is stronger than gratitude? Why is it that we tend to take so many things for granted? Why is life sometimes so unfair. I barely know this Uncle of mine, and now I’m asking, why must it take a situation like this for me to visit or for family to spend time together!?

My uncle inspired me… In a space that literally is taking a toll on him  ,the only thing he spoke about is his family and his God. If anything, HE has a reason to be angry, to question God… But how strong is his faith that his God and his family are still the things dearest to him and that is keeping him going. #blesshim. He’s praying and is remaining hopeful and I pray that we all get to a point where God is our be all and end all.
Hearing him and my uncle from Australia speak on the phone; their bond is admirable and I was at the slightest, envious that their generation of cousins are so close and ours is well…

Today was just what I needed. That visit spoke to me in ways I needed to be spoken to. It touched my soul  and whispered to my heart. 

Let’s speak to a person as opposed to sending a text or call. Time invested in those you love can never be deemed as “wasted”. Let’s start spreading love openly, tell mum, dad, sissy, bro, friend, hubby, wifey, grans and gramps just how much you love them. Smile more, hug more, laugh more. It really is these simple gestures that our world is lacking.


I pray for healing for this uncle of mine and for his pain to be removed. I pray for my Aunty and cousins; for the strength and their peace. I pray for our generation… Instead of worrying if your legs touch or eyebrows match, or the price tags to your clothes, car or house… Let’s worry about the things that actually matter and that would matter even if those things get taken away. I pray for peace and comfort for the entire universe. By the permission n the almighty’s grace, Ameen! 

Start today, start with you♥️🙏🏼Thank you Uncle Marcel!

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Xx

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#Motivationgameon💯😎

Monday, you are the start to our week! Whilst many despise you, I welcome you because you allow me to: 

  • Press the reset button and start over ✔️
  • Set new goals ✔️
  • Focus on the present 😎✔️
  • Get closer to Friday 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

You are a new beginning and whilst you can sometimes be blue, I want to make you sparkly.🎉🎉

It’s Monday tomorrow everybody ♥️🔊🔊🔊let’s start on a positive note with some positive words, advice and thoughts! 

Remember to ( daily affirmations are essential so you better) say:

Don’t forget to: 

Want to act cray? Let’s do it the positive way:


My advice? 


So…


And…


Love and sparkle always

Xx

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Use your pain to fuel your gain

Never in a thousand years would I have thought that the most horrible years of my life could award me such an exciting opportunity. 

Not so long ago, I entered a competition at work. We were required to write in and share our ” personal best” stories. 

Naturally, I had an urge to enter… It was asking me to write lol and so I quickly clicked on “reply mail”and started typing. Funny thing about the piece I wrote is that it was the quickest and shortest piece I think I have ever written 🙈

I figured tons of people would enter and it would really just be a ” choose a winner out of a hat” scenario…but I entered anyway.

So I wrote in briefly giving my journey of losing a child, marriage and both grannies, all of this was around the same time that i started at this company, since then iv been achieving things I never knew I could and in such a short time too.

And so my personal best narrowed down to my journey in the company I’m in… It was my new beginning.

The next day, I received an email from the deputy CEO, telling me how my story has inspired him… “Did he really read my story?” Was the first thought that crossed my mind and “me? Inspire him…the deputy CEO😑really??” Followed.

Leaving it after I thanked him for acknowledging it, I eventually forgot about the competition.

Today after gym, I get back to my desk, browse through my email and find this:


You can only but imagine the disbelief… I won’t bore you with the nitty gritz.

But the moral of the story is that we are our own hurdles. We are for some reason afraid and at some point don’t think we are worthy of things… 

We need to change that mentality and let the cards we’ve been dealt fuel our success. We need to deem ourselves worthy and gems in every essence of the word. It always is easier said than done but it definitely is working for me by the almighty’s grace. 

Know that God does not make any mistakes and has planned out our lifes in a certain way for a reason. He sometimes makes us go through dark moments to prepare us for the brightest ones to follow. 

Night ya’ll

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Happy Birthday Princess Layla

How time flies! Just the other day you were born and I met you in your little purple JLO tracksuit. Lol

With the boldest eyes and the chubbiest cheeks ever. We knew then that you were going to be the lil diva that you are now. 

2016 has been such a tough year for you baby girl, yet I’ve seen you overcome it as though it were nothing. You didn’t allow it to dull your sparkle and that my dear love is so courageous and a lesson I will take and learn from you. 

Happy 6th birthday Layla, my wish for you is that you remain this courageous lil girl through out your life’s journey, your charismatic demeanor and divarish tendencies remind us more n more about just how blessed we are to have you. May God be the centre of your world always! May you grow to love and respect your parents just as you do now. May Gods blessings, favour, peace and protection be with you always! Amen.

Keep shining baby girl. 


Love always

xx

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We are all leaders 

A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle” Italian proverb. 

This speaks volumes! Religiously, we are governed to share knowledge. I’ve always had the sentiment that in order to be empowered, you need to empower. 

I firmly believe that we were put on this earth to help each other like some people are more fortunate than others INORDER to help those less fortunate. 

Life is no competition or race and that’s what we, especially the younger generations, need to understand. Life is a journey, it’s a test, it’s about the lessons learnt and taught, it’s about the ups and the downs, the laughs and the cries, the pains and gains, the people, the seasons, experiences, it’s about God! 

I, personally, am in no competition with anybody else. I believe we are all destined to go different paths for a reason and where we can help each other we should! Even in the work place!!!! 

We need to learn to stop looking at what others have been blessed with and start being grateful for our own. When we learn to do just that…will we then beable to share whatever we can to make the next persons journey easier.

May we all use our experiences to help ourselves and anybody else out there …and remember it’s not always about having a monetary value behind it…time, a kind word, gesture or even smile can lift anybody’s spirit. 

#leaveYOURmark, wearYOURsmile,makeYOUR difference#LightYOURcandle.

See you all at the winning line ❤️❤️


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You are enough 

If you can relate to, or have been where “we” need to get. Scroll down and share your thoughts. We always love hearing from you. Fella’s we’d love to hear your views on this as well.

This morning I had one of THEE most refreshing and motivating conversations with a friend of the family which I refer to as Aunty Ghai. 

Basically she told me that the husband I marry next ( there was only one before this lol) will be the luckiest man to walk this earth and that I will make a superb wife by the almighty’s permission. 

For someone who is learning to love themselves, this was so refreshing and also daunting because generally us folk can’t accept compliments or rather we don’t know how to.

2016 has been the year of lessons for me and one of the most important lessons I am learning is that “I am enough” and that God made no mistakes when he made me. I am also learning to accept that in order to love anybody else, I need to love myself and in order to love myself, I need to love God. 

Here’s why: 

When you love God, you understand that you were created for a Devine purpose, you understand that you are tested individually because God has lessons he needs to teach YOU. You start working on yourself to meet his expectation and in doing so, you put yourself first when need be and learn to love yourself when you see just how much God loves you.

When you really feel like you’re worth it and that you are loved, you will automatically want those around you to feel the exact the same.

Isn’t it weird how us extroverts are actually softies in reality? I can mix with many and be centre of attention very easily, yet with all that I have been through, I am actually very soft, at heart. 

I wouldn’t say me being “out there” is a front BUT it does make me feel in control as in people will only know what I am willing put out there for them to know. That is why when any potential relationships come along, I tend to become different and paranoia takes over me because now folk be getting too close. 😂

In my journey of self reconstruction, I’ve learnt that when I start accepting me for me and stop being insecure about things, like my weight, people will automatically treat me in the same regard and with that level of respect. And then when anybody gets too close, it wouldn’t be as bad because I know I am worthy and that I am enough. 

This is where I need to get. And I am working towards it. Currently reading a beautiful book about self affirmations and I will definitely do a review once I’m done. It has helped ALOT.

Remember:  that you are worthy and you are enough! 

Have you been where I am now? Do you share or can relate to the things I’m trying to do now? Leave a comment below and let us help each other be bigger and better than we’ve ever been.

Fellas you’re welcome to join in on the convo

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Eid Mubarak ❤️

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A very happy eid Mubarak to all of our Muslim readers and follows. May Allah SWT bless this day with the love of family and good food. May we ponder over the reason behind this day and may we continue striving in the path of Allah ta Allah. In sha Allah aameen. 

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Not today Satan, not today 

In the name of Allah, the most compassionate, the most merciful. 

Prophet Muhammed ( may peace and salutations be upon him always) delivered his final sermon to mankind on the 9th day of Dhul Hijjah ( the last month of the Islamic calendar) 

His words were directed to all of mankind as a reminder of how to conduct ourselves and what our purpose is on this earth. 

The farewell sermon

*”O people, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether, after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY.*

*O people, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as sacred, so regard the life and property of every muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your lord and that He will indeed reckon your deeds. ALLAH has forbidden you to take usury (interest). Therefore all interst obligation shall henceforth be waived.*

*Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in things, so beware of following him in small things.*

*O people, it is true that you have the right with regards to your woman, but they also have rights over you. If they abide by your rights then to them belong the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it approve, as well as never commit adultery.*

*O people, listen to me in earnest, worship ALLAH, say your five time daily prayers (salat) fast during the month of ramadan, and give your wealth in zakat. Perform Hajj if you can afford to. You know that every muslim is the brother of another muslim. YOU ARE ALL EQUAL.. No body has superiority over another except by piety and good action.*

*Remember, one day you will appear before ALLAH and answer for your deeds. O beware, do not stray from the part of righteousness after I am gone.*

*O people, NO PROPHET OR APOSTLE WILL COME AFTER ME AND NO NEW FAITH WILL BE BORN. Reason well, therefore people, understand my word, which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my SUNNAH and if you follow these you will not go astray.*

 those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again, and may the last understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness O ALLAH, that I have convyed your message to the people.”

May Allah bless our prophets abundantly, may we always look at their lives and reflect and take lessons of good will. May Allah ta Allah make us part of those whom he choose to guide on the straight path. May we always turn back to Allah ta Allah even when we fall. May we walk in the foot steps of Allahs most loved. Inshallah aameen.

Reading this sermon just created an urge in me to do and be better, before we look to others flaws, let’s look at our own and work on correcting them inshallah. Not today satan, not today
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Blessings on blessings

When they say that the best things in life are free… “They”weren’t lying.

Saturday I spent the afternoon with my dearest sister friend, her super adorable and entertaining kids and my beautiful nieces. 

These kids always know how to turn any dull day into a well entertained day. They evoke sincere smiles, heart melts , hilarious laughter with the darndest things they say and do. 

Meet the crew: 

Lamia&Tas

Lamia and I are friends for probably just over 4 years. We met through my ex husband , she’s actually his cousin. Let’s just say that she is loyalty personified. She is one of my very few friends and always “keeps it real” with me and encourages me towards right. 

The “A” squad

From left to right: Khaleel, Naeela and Afrah. 

These are the keepers of my ❤️. No time spent with them is ever regretted. Whilst they can often be loud and can sometimes work on a person’s last nerve, they have helped see me through some of THE most darkest seasons of my life. 

Naeela: my first niece, the love I have for this child is more than the love for writing itself. I’ve watched her grow from the baby in the family to such an intelligent, humble, responsible 8year old. The kindness she possess is one of such a high magnitude. If measured, the amount she would have in her baby finger… Some people don’t possess in their life time. 

Afrah: our little G girl. From the moment she was born, she let us know that she has arrived. Her spunkified charisma is larger than life itself. At just 4 years old she can be a fiesty one knowing exactly what she likes and dislikes. Even though life has thrown these sisters curve balls at such young ages, they have managed to overcome them and inspire me whenever I get caught up. 

Khaleel: the most passive one of the lot but has his own unique character. Typical boy with his love for cars: our human car. He too often says the darndest things that leaves us all in awe. The progress that you make daily makes me such a proud aunt! 

Then you get: 

lamz’ crew

From left to right: Yara, Laila, Mohammed Yaseen. 

I met these kids some time back and boy oh boy are they so unique but so fulfilling.

Yara: Just 7 years Old but full of life itself, I call her the mother hen and hospitality is her forte’. 

Laila: The most timid, well- respected 14 year old I know. If ever you invision “delicate” it best describes her. Like a flower in spring, she is blossoming into a beautiful young lady. 

Mohammed Yaseen: Out soldier, you are the man of the house and you know it, with that beautiful smile and mischievous demeanor, you will NeVER have a dull moment. 

These kids made my day on Saturday by just being themselves. I hope that they grow up knowing that just being themselves is enough and that like me, there are people that accept and love them like they deserve too. 

The little gestures, watching them play and hearing them laugh and giggle was enough. Sitting in my friends company and talking about life and self- reflection and how to better ones self was just so refreshing. Saturday served as our “pit stop” in this never ending race called life. 

Thank you all for the amazing day! Love you all ❤️