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#QOTD #43

They say that the greatest emotional need of man kind is to feel appreciated. I came accross this quote and I can see why!  I believe in it’s truth! 

“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly”

~ Tony Robbins 

How often do WE EXPECT people to do things for us before we feel obliged to say thank you, or to show appreciation? 

If their actions don’t meet our expectation, sorry. Tough! We disregard their attempts and in some instances throw a couple of insults their way. Totally disregarding their efforts. ( I’m guilty of this sometimes)

It becomes so easy to overlook their efforts because all we care about is “I” and “me”. Buggar them or what they feel right? 

We tend to show appreciation on condition. On condition of material gain and superficial standards. We often feel entitled like somebody always owes us something, it’s actually revolting when you think of it. 

I always say, that our generation doesn’t know about fixing things; we don’t know about peservering and going after the things that actually matter. Hear me out, the minute we feel something is “broken” we’re quick to toss it out ... because we don’t know how to appreciate. I see it everyday, failing relationships, ruthless behavior, vandalizing, kids absconding school… the list is endless.

These days we appreciate things and use people. For as long as we’re gaining, we all good. Right?

I often ask myself where we have gone wrong! Why must we wait to gain before we can express gratitude? Why cant we be fulfilled with the little things in life and the small kind gestures people do, whether it is for us or our communities at large? 

It’s so easy to rather find fault in each other, than identify and appreciate the good within us all. Then we die, and suddenly the flowers, well wishes, memories and gratitude start flooding in, too late if you ask me!

This is why I believe in today’s quote so much. Imagine a world where we appreciate people and use things instead? Saying please and thank you and sincerely meaning it? Letting our loved ones know how we appreciate the good things that they do, as opposed to constantly harping on the not so good and the things that irk us?

If we can get this sentiment right and raise our little humans in the same fashion, you won’t get as much failing relationships, vandalizing of community buildings or even kids absconding school.  They will learn to appreciate every opportunity awarded to them…. gaining knowledge and then power and since they are our future, imagine how our world can change? The possibilities are endless.

Like everything else, it starts with you and I. My person and I have an appreciation session once a week, where we tell each other the things we’re appreciated in that week and we say our thank you’s. I swear, that feeling of being appreciated and expressing appreciation is better than any high that any drug can give.

Wrapping this up, I would just like to sincerely thank each and every one of you for the constant support. I would not be motivated to continue striving each day if it weren’t for your kind words, time and daily support. I appreciate it and I appreciate you. 

Let’s be like pinky and the brain and start changing the world! Because remember, the world owes us sh%t!


L&L, from just an ordinary girl  

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Eid mubarak: ’17 edition 

A very warm Eid Mubarak to all of our Muslim friends and family around the world.

May the Almighty accept all of your efforts and attempts in the holy month of Ramadan that has just passed and may all the little changes made become permanent insha’allah (if he wills) aaameen.
May we get awarded the opportunity to see this month again, by the permission and the will of the almighty. 

Whilst this will be the first year without my sister and my nieces, we will try to make the most of it inshallah. 

All the way in China ❤️

Hoping that your day is filled with love, light, happiness, peace and joy.

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#QOTD #42

My mission in life is not merely to survive but to thrive; and to do so with some passion🌈 ❤️, some compassion 🤗, some humour 😃and some style 😎💄

~ you got it, Maya Angelou 

This week has been an extremely trying week. Work has been beyond overwhelming, it’s the last few days of Ramadan and my spirits have just been sweeping the floor! 

Whenever I get like this, I pray and then I turn to some of my favorite authors or poets and peruse through their work. This always creates an escape for me, because I get so drawn into their work. 

I came across this beautiful quote and I had to share, because as soon as I read it, my heart smiled! 

THE Maya Angelou! What a creative, talented legend was she. 

This quote reminded me that I shouldn’t just make it through the day, that I shouldn’t let work, or anything else, take “me” out of me, if that makes any sense lol! It reminds me that even when you feel like giving up, you should carry on, for after every rainy, gloomy day, there’s a 🌈that awaits! 

Isn’t this how we should approach life? Let’s think about it:


With some passion, towards the things that warm our hearts. 


Compassion, towards all the wrongs and evils and struggles in this world. Supporting and elevating each other.


Humour, because we know laughter is the best medicine contrary to what professionals may think 


and then style, because that defines us, it’s ours and besides, some fresh swag, kicks and make up can turn any bodies day around! 

Genius I tell you! Maya Angelou was pure genius! 

PCHS: our survival kit to get through this journey called life 

❤️ and 🌈💡 from just an ordinary girl 

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Chocolate mousse pudding 


I’m a sucker for anything instant, quick and easy. 

I’m generally not a “sweet” person (sounds so wrong) but if I had to eat sweet things, chocolate is my thing. Not strawberry, vanilla , caramel or bubblegum, it’s chocolate.

So if chocolate is your thing also, or, if you need to take a dessert to a function or the inlaws, you will love this quick and easy chocolate 🍫 dessert 

Things you will need:

  • 2 x chocolate instant pudding ( I used the Moires) @ R9.99each
  • 1 x coconut biscuits ( I used tennis biscuits ) @ R12,99 per 200g
  • 65ml melted butter 
  • 1 x 250ml fresh cream @ R18.00
  • 1 x Cadbury flake @ R9.00
  • 1 x ltr of fresh milk @ R9.00

What to do: 

In a glass casserole, crush the tennis biscuits and mix with the melted butter. Pat it down at the bottom of the casserole dish to form a crust and place it in the freezer.

In another bowl, mix the instant pudding and the milk and lightly beat for one minute and Leave it aside.

Whip your fresh cream and once done, take the casserole out from the freezer.  

Soak the balance of the tennis biscuits in the left over milk  for about 5seconds and then line the casserole dish ( the same one that you made your biscuit crust in)

Add in the instant pudding mixture and then add the fresh cream ontop.

Crush your flake and sprinkle it over. Done!

Leave in the fridge to set for 2-4hours 


Mind my broken biscuits 🙈you can make yours look prettier 

Easy treat, from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #41

” The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home”

~ Confusius ( doesn’t seem confused to me 🙈)

I know I say this about every quote I publish, but I love this quote! 

What is integrity? 


To me, integrity is doing the right thing when nobody’s watching, it is doing what needs to be done based on principle and not on personal gain.

You agree? (Feel free to drop a comment and tell what it means to you.)

If we look around, how strong are our nations? I can tell you that mine is losing the trust of its people as the days go by. We’re constantly hearing of the bribery, fraud and corruption that’s going on in and with our government. The number of married people having affairs are on the rise. Kids are being kidnapped, cars are being hijacked, people are being killed for what’s rightfully theirs. Businesses are overcharging and under delivering. Service in general is just on the decrease.

If we all practice integrity and Inturn teach our young and loved ones by our actions, people would be doing the right thing always or atleast most of the time. We wouldn’t have as much of the stresses that we’re facing today and life would just have one less thing to deal with.


Whilst it would be rather utopian to think this is as simple as night and day, as we know the devil is a liar and is always lurking around,  I believe we can reduce this significantly and just like everything else, it starts with you and I.

So let’s do the right thing always, let’s do what’s fair based on principle and not on personal gain. Not only will we strengthen our nation, but God will be pleased with us as well! 

♥️ and 💡🌈 from just an ordinary girl 

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#QOTD #40

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss in life is what dies inside us while we live. 

~ Norman Cousins 


Death. A topic none of us, well atleast many of us don’t like to speak about, even though, to me, it should be discussed a lot more. 

With the world we live in, it’s so easy to get consumed and to forget that this life is temporary, it’s just a test. This life was never meant to be permanent. 

This quote resonated so well with me because death is something guaranteed, it’s something we should expect right? Therefore, it cannot be the greatest “loss” of life because in many cases when you lose something, it’s unexpected, you have no warning that you’re going to lose it.

The greatest loss is indeed one where we have the capacity to do what we love and what’s required of us but we don’t, for whatever reason that may be. The greatest loss is losing our heart, or our fire; that passion that we was once had. We lose our mark and become a thing just existing day after day. 

We lose sight of the career goals we once dreamed of. We lose sight of the essence of family and friends and true relations. We lose the kid in us, we forget how to see fun, colour and happiness in everything that we do. We forget the importance of God and our religious and spiritual obligation, we lose our humanity and moral obligations. We get consumed with things that really don’t matter. 

Why? Isn’t that the greatest loss because we have the time, we have the gift of life. We have the opportunity. 

It needs to all change. 


Let’s use our time on this earth to fulfill all of our religious and spiritual obligations and our hearts desires. So that one day when we pass, we would be remembered for just that. 

Life is all about balance, so whilst it’s ok to lose our spark sometime, it’s equally important to reignite that spark again. 

Don’t let that die whilst you’re still alive. If anything, help be the match that reignites the spark back in somebody else. Be purposeful.

May we all strive harder to reignite that spark within and to leave our mark on this earth. 

♥️ and 💡🌈 and a random 💭 from just an ordinary girl 

*all pictures are courtesy of Google*